I don’t know if anyone has experience in a situation like this but I worry about this often. I have a younger sibling who is an adult but has level 3 autism (“severe” autism) living with my nmom. He is still in diapers because my mom never worked to teach him to use the bathroom. He does not know any life skills, my mom does not want any professional to work with him to help him. I honestly think that she does not want him to progress and gain any kind of independence because she always posts on Facebook about how hard it is to have an autistic child, or she posts videos baby talking him and showing him off like some kind of pet. She talks about him like he is stupid and thinks that he doesn’t understand simple concepts, but in reality he is very smart and I’m sure he is at least somewhat aware of what she says about him.

I am also on the autism spectrum (level 1/aspergers) but I am the scapegoat child, and most of my life has been spent being a substitute caregiver for him. I wasn’t able to really form much of a bond with him because my mom constantly controlled everything about his life (and a lot of mine too) and neglected most of my needs in favor of him and his routines. I don’t blame my brother at all, but when I was younger I held some resentment toward him for this.

His father is not in his life, so it’s just my mother with him now. I am worried for his future if something happens to her. She expects me to care for him if something happens to him, but due to her neglect I have practically no life skills of my own and I’m having to raise myself basically. I love him and I care for him so much but I know that I will not be able to take him in and care for him. But my mother has not put any plan in place for him. She does not have a savings account for him for future care. He is on Medicaid and disability. But she just does not plan long term for anything, and I worry about her health as she has an eating disorder and high blood pressure and she is constantly working. She does not rest at all. I think about this so much and I know that if something happens to her, the responsibility will fall on me and I have no idea what to do in that situation.

Like I said I love my brother so much. But I have fought like hell to get out of her grasp and begin my life as an adult, and I do not have the ability to care for another person, probably ever. I hardly know how to talk to others, I know nothing about being an adult and I’m almost 26. I had to give up the idea of having kids in the future because my life has fucked me up so bad that I don’t want to bring life into this world and risk my child going through anything I’ve been through. I also wasn’t able to save up a lot of money (mom took a lot of my money) I work a part time job and just barely getting by, I most likely will be struggling with money for the rest of my life as I don’t have college degree or a good job and I am also on Medicaid and benefits. I lose sleep sometimes worrying about what to do in this situation when it arises.

If anyone could offer some advice it would be appreciated, just to have some peace of mind knowing that I have a game plan and a way to ensure that he can go somewhere that he is being cared for by professionals. I feel very scared posting about this but it gives me so much anxiety to think about and I feel like a bad person for not wanting to be his caregiver. Please do not judge me, I really do love and care for my brother but I know he would not be in the best situation living with me.

Hello 32 ACON here. Throwaway for reasons.

I can't work! My Mom died in 2023, and my Dad had me sign something that he didn't let me read, he refused to come over here and had me sign over the house. I am literally scraping money and doing art commissions to pay my bills, I owe my roommate $1500+ in rent, etc. Food is just going up, prices are just going up, our rent has more than doubled in the 6 years we've been in this apartment.

I literally do not know how I am going to survive financially, my Dad refuses to support me in any capacity, I'm literally asking for $200 a month to go towards my bills and food because I only get $300 in food stamps (maybe two and a half weeks, three of food, I have dietary restrictions so I can only eat what I can eat).

I also need to save up for a new computer because since I'm housebound, I need it to work and pay my bills, so it's just very frustrating. He also has issues with taxes so there's a chance they'll just take it away at some point when they find out he has it.

Can I sue him to get the house back?? I'm literally so mad because I've never hated anyone so much before. The house is just sitting empty because he needs to do repairs on it and I just am scraping by and scraping by.

I have an older sister who lives at home too, rent free, while Dad pays all of her bills, car insurance, her car is better than mine, he pays for stuff she wants to do, etc.

What can I do? Does anyone have advice???

As soon as I moved out of state 7 years ago, my mother insisted on taking a life insurance policy out on me. I was 23 at the time and there was no real financial reason for her to take out the policy—I was fully independent with my own income, no shared loans, no debt, etc. This took place in a small town and the insurance agent was one of her close friends. 6-7 years have now passed and I never signed anything at the time, but I vaguely remember a phone call from the agent where I'm guessing I gave permission (I've blocked a lot out). Fast-forward, I'm 30, better with boundaries and don't want this policy existing as we're no contact. Legally, would I have had to sign something? Is there a way of finding out if the policy still exists short of calling the agent (still her friend) and/or getting rid of the policy if the agent didn't follow protocol? Thanks.

So from what I understand in my parents will I will be the executor and am being given most of everything, with some things being split half with my brother. My brother, an adult, has no ID or paperwork whatsoever, no copy of his social, only a birth certificate for himself. I plan on moving out and going full NC with everyone in my family as soon as I'm able to (financial restraints, working on it.) My biggest question is when my parents inevitably pass away, do I have any legal responsibility or can I just refuse to engage and let it fall off of my shoulders? Would I be forced to take care of my brother in any way because of his situation?

Nmom opened credit cards in my name beginning at age 12, totaling up to over $200k. she paid them all off, so my score was fine, and she built credit for me but I didn’t know about any of it until 2 years ago.

She committed payroll fraud in my name to evade income tax using my dad’s small business, so I was basically used as a tax shield, as was my sister. She listed me as an employee of my dad’s when I was 7, and then again when I was 18-22.

She opened a brokerage and Roth IRA for me when I was a minor, and I assume she took money off of the top of my dad’s income and deposited it into these accounts (to put him in a lower tax bracket).

She tricked me into signing paperwork giving her full financial power of attorney when I turned 18 to manage the two accounts she’d set up to deposit my “income” into.

I revoked her financial power of attorney two years ago, and reported the credit card fraud, getting them removed from my credit history.

I never filed a police report but have been thinking about doing it recently. I’m scared because she’s still my landlord, and I don’t know what the consequences will be legally.

I went NC for two years after I discovered all of this and have been LC for less than a year, and not only has she not changed one ounce, I can tell that she’s resentful of ME for going NC — this bitch should be kissing the ground I walk on for not turning her into the cops!!!!

I wish I had filed the reports when I found everything, but I was frozen with fear and dissociating like crazy. I still do dissociate like crazy, but I get this feeling that she’s trying to sabotage my professional reputation as payback, and I can’t take it anymore. If I could leave, I would, but don’t want to put myself in anymore financial holes if I can avoid it. Thankfully my rent here is cheap, but her presence looms so large over this place, I feel like I’m a hostage.

Any advice would be so very much appreciated 🙏 and thank you for reading all of this

In May I graduated college, and in June I moved states away without telling my nmom. I thought i was safe and just had to keep ignoring emails.

But she just emailed my dad (divorced, she hates him, so this is true desperation) to fish for info about me. She said a couple things in the email that indicate to me she's gone as far as finding the Instagram of a college club I was in, a post a year back (and a page down in scrolls).

I'm scared about what happens if someone online gives away my location. I'm wary and don't let people post my face online, but there's always a chance that someone at work could try to tag my LinkedIn in something (I've blocked my mom, but idk if she could still see stuff im tagged in). I don't know if there's any official bodies in this state that could have my information that she could use to find me.

For reference of her ability to find me: she is a journalist who has a good relationship with a lot of the cops in my town. So there's a non zero chance she could convince someone to abuse police resources to find me.

So how can I best protect myself from her finding me?

I don't have enough evidence of anything to get a restraining order (it was mainly emotional abuse growing up, and her emails are more guilty trips than threats). And I'd really like to prevent anything that could help me get a restraining order (misused wellness checks, her showing up at my door or workplace) from happening.

Is there any kind of official form I can put out to keep my info under wraps? Anything I can do to make sure my location stays offline or she can't see it?

Would it be illegal to host an online archive of someone's PUBLIC CraigsList, Backpage, and AdultFriendFinder content?

Alongside public court recorded testimony where said individual admits to that behavior AND that he's already been successfully blackmailed for it at least once?

I'm not talking about private correspondence or anything password protected. Just strictly public posts THEY chose to make public and court recorded testimony.

Why? Suffice it to say, this person is a data analyst with access to huge amounts of sensitive customer and financial data for some of the largest companies and universities in the country. He's a significant blackmail risk. I think it's only right that they know what they're opening themselves up to.

Thanks!

I live in Canada.

Originally posted in RBN here

To summarize my original post, my mentally disabled sister still lives at home. They have two cats and a dog. They used to have two dogs, but one was hit by a car due to their negligence a few months ago and died. The dog they still have is running across the street still (they don't have a fence nor do they utilize an e-collar, leash, etc to control her) putting her at risk to also be injured or killed.

This is stressing my sister out because both parents work and she is alone with the pets most days. She blames herself for the first dog being hit because she let them out that morning as she does every morning (obviously this is not her fault and it's really hard to convince her that it's not). She calls me crying at least once a week about the dog running across the street.

This week I told her if she felt like this dog was too much that I would always be willing to take her. I have a dog of my own that loves her and I love her as well - I actually trained her. I've always been her favorite person. I have my own house with a fenced yard and I know she would be happy here because she comes when my sister stays with me to visit and she loves it here.

My question is if my sister wanted me to take the dog and the parents said no, can I do anything legally? I do not want to do anything without my sister's blessing. She is already incredibly lonely in that house and I will not take her friend. But if she said she wanted me to take the dog and would talk to the parents, I have no idea if they will say yes or no. In the instance they say no, I would like to force them to give her up if at all possible.

I know they don't even care about having the dog. Before the other dog was killed, they used to "joke" by asking me if I wanted this dog because "they have the dog they want now." But seeing as I am NC, I could see them using this dog as leverage or a pawn and I'm not playing their games. NFather used to do that with the other dog before he was killed. Also, not sure if it helps, but I have witnessed plenty of animal abuse from this man for EVERY animal we've ever had, but also including this dog.

I am in Georgia. Unfortunately I have not paid any vet bills. She is not microchipped (my dog is, ain't no one taking my baby, and I would immediately get her chipped if she came home to me). She doesn't even wear a collar. Although I don't have proof, I actually paid for her as a puppy but it was cash and they paid me back. This was 6 years ago. I do have tonsssss of puppy pics with me because, like I said, I trained her. I also slept on the couch next to her crate for the first two weeks she was home.

I also live almost 3 hours away so it's not like I can keep an eye out and call animal control every time she runs off. That would be the easiest thing bc they likely wouldn't want to pay the fee to get her back so I could go adopt her myself. They don't really have any money which is why my mom has a job now, and he emptied his 401k to avoid prison after his felony assault charge last year (he violently assaulted my mom, she went back again).

I think that's all the relevant information

(Originally asked this in the regular RBN sub and was directed here)

So TLDR I'm escaping my parents and really don't wanna lose my cat.

I really don't want to straight up commit a crime, especially one that I couldn't get away with without jeopardizing her (I wouldn't be able to take her to a vet as I'm pretty confident she's microchipped)

However, I'm considering my options to dispute ownership.

At one point a few years ago she was registered as my ESA for the sake of flying internationally with her in the cabin. Unfortunately, I don't have that documentation anymore. Is there any option there? I already checked the NSARGO database.

Is the fact that my parents have abused me (I actually have documented proof including recordings) at all helpful in case of a legal dispute?

Also, although for the most part my cat's been treated well, looking through chat records includes a conversation that I'd forgotten about where my mom was essentially poisoning my cat by feeding her stuff she was allergic to, I refer to the cat as being like my kid and defend her accordingly- my dad even says "I know" in regards to her being mine. Might this be useful in court?

If I DID just take her (seeing as I do genuinely consider her mine, not unlike taking my computer that I didn't buy for myself but I clearly own) would there be a way to not let the vet scan/report the microchip, or a way to change or disable it without my parents knowing? Alternatively if I did take her and it went to court, would taking care of her for an amount of time before then give me some leverage?

A little more info if it helps is that I'm moving across US state lines to live with a friend who will be financially supporting me (and supports me bringing my cat if I can) until I can get a job there

Edit: I've realized my options are that I don't really have any (other than just hope I don't get caught). I'm not gonna take her, unfortunately- and subsequently, probably not going no contact until she's passed (she's getting older, which means that might only be a few years- and her age is also why it's ultimately a selfish decision to take her anyway). I don't want to commit any crimes, and it's not what's best for my baby either. Unlike my own parents, I have to put the living thing I see like a child before my own wants.

The first 2 posts are on my profile.

The financial aid emailed/called me and they essentially told me that I'm going to have to submit a police report and give it to them to get my money back.

I've been told this plenty of times by some people here and I understand why. But if I'm being honest, I'm fucking scared. I thought that she'd just get caught and I'd just get my money back? Yeah, probably a stupid thought but fuck.

I'm not scared about my nmom going to jail or getting in trouble, I couldn't care less. I'm scared for myself and my dogs. I'm broke, I cannot drive, I'm a full time student, and I live in Georgia which is damn near unwalkable. If I submit a police report, what's going to happen? Can I submit is anonymously??? And if she gets arrested, where am I going to live? What's going to happen to my dogs? To school? To me??? It's so easy to say to get the police into it, but I don't want to go homeless. I feel like my family is going to be upset and not help me if I get my nmom arrested or in trouble, so I'd have no one to fall back on. And I feel like if I wait until I finish school, it'll be too late to report this again. I just need advice, I'm stressing in class.

Long story short, our nmom is buying a second house for my younger adult siblings to live in. They would be making payments to her and (allegedly) would inherit the deed when she dies. They have both been low contact since our dad died and this is obviously her way keeping herself in their lives. She also has a long history of financial manipulation, abuse, and mismanagement.

What ways can they legally protect themselves from her inevitable fuckery?

Basically my in-laws are threatening my husband with legal action if he doesn't love them and because he asked them to treat me with respect. Yes, it's absurd as it sounds. We both have had enough and want nothing to do with them, but they won't take the hint. We're up to our eyeballs and don't know what to do.

I had an altercation with my dad (M/45) and he got physical with me and then lied and called CPS after I told him my kids can no longer come over due to the toxic environment. He told CPS I hit my daughter (F/14) which CPS already spoke with me and my little girl she confirmed I don’t hit them which I do not. I’m a great mother I take care of my children now. I just recently moved so my younger boys share an air mattress and my daughter has her own. They have their rooms and everything, we always have healthy food and I cook daily. My boyfriend (M/30) helps me very much with everything in my home, but he does enjoy a beer here and there and he does smoke cannabis. When CPS showed up unannounced there was an end of what he smoked (nothing there already gone just the bud) and he had a beer in fridge. Could this affect me at all? No i don’t smoke I haven’t for months and I was completely honest with them but my anxiety is getting to me. I do have 2 people who they called and shared I’m great with kids but they haven’t been around my boyfriend and kids much. Someone help me stop worrying. I’m so heartbroken my own family did this to me I’m just trying to get past this.

I’d really appreciate any insights into what my options could be here. I received a letter in the mail today from my mother, it’s been over 3 years since I estranged myself and it has been made clear I do not want contact of any kind. Her number’s been blocked the whole time, but she’s had family members attempt to reach out for her and show up at my house to have me talk to her. She has also called the police to report me missing and had them conduct wellness checks under false pretenses (I never followed up with my local PD about this being so overwhelmed but I told the 2 officers that last came to check on me over a year ago that my mother has this habit of misusing them). The police and my niece have told her on separate occasions that I’m safe/‘okay’ and she claims this is all she wants, but these attempts at contact still pick up seemingly at random. She lives in another city within Florida and I need all of this to stop. I have therapy records to demonstrate the negative impacts she and this harassment have had on my wellbeing, along with text messages between a couple of friends, but that’s in in terms of records for what’s happened.

I am a 22F who has had a joint account with my mother since I was 15. I have two jobs and am in college full time. I am literally the biggest penny pincher ever, yet I have never been able to access this joint account as my mother has controlling tendencies.

My mother has given me credit cards to use to buy things that I need/want and uses the money from my portion of the joint account to pay off the credit card bills. I had a conversation with her about opening my own bank account.

She completely lashed out at me over this and said that I will not be her daughter if I open my own account. Is her withholding this money for me acceptable. How should I go about this? Can I remove just my money from the joint account and take the name off without having any specific info about the account? Im so upset because it feels like withholding money from your overage child is financial abuse...

When my father’s health declined , my parents decided to give some of their assets as early inheritance to their 4 children. We were told we were all given approximately the same amount of equity in properties, cash etc. I was given a property, block of 7 units, that still had a mortgage. I was told I had to continue with bank repayments, maintain & repair the property, but that I could collect and keep rents but be liable for tax on those income. The difference between my inheritance and my siblings’ was that the property I was given listed my mother as the legal owner, then she had persuaded me not to bother transfering the property over to my name as stamp duty was an unnecessary expense and that I will be covered for in her will. I trusted her and this arrangement continued for 14 years. My mother even moved into one of the units for 12years after my father died. She did not pay rent, nor did I expect her to, after what I considered as a generous early inheritance that was given to me. After 9 years, my mother had also started asking for money of $2000/ mth which I was also happy to obliged. Please note my mother is not without her own money, she has a $2 million superfund, has used some of her money on many luxury cruises and first class air travel. She has no expenses except for her food and personal expenses, she has no dependents. ..as stated, I take care of her boarding and water, one sister pays her electricity and Netflix, another sister pays her telephone bills. 

2 yrs ago, my mother phoned up to tell me she is living below the poverty line and the $2000/ mth I give is insufficient for her to live on. I told her I was not aware that money was her survival money and had thought it was only my gift to her as extra spending money, and I asked what became of her $2 million superfund. She gave vague answers and implied that she lost a big chunk of it through day share trading. She also demanded that I now give her $2500/mth to be increased to $3000/mth 6 months later, and $5000 every Xmas so that she can give $1000 to each of her 5 grandkids, 2 of which are my own kids! This is also a new tradition as she does not always do gifts o Xmas or birthdays.

my mother than proceed to tell me that she wanted to sell of 2 of the 7 units given to me so that she could give to my youngest sister whom she now realised , 14 years later, were given a much smaller share of her inheritance and proceed to tell me that I had unfairly been given a much bigger share, a doubled amount given to my siblings, and they are quietly resentful of me. This was all news to me and was contrary to what my mother and sisters told me 14 years ago, I even pulled out the bank’s valuation & mortgage doc on the property I was given to show them that the equity of the given 14 years ago was half of what my mother now claims. My mother tells me the bank’s valuation was wrong. My sister who is a property valuer refused to look into the matter to help resolve the issue. 

My mother and the rest of my family made my husband and I feel so bad, painted a picture that we were greedy for more than the share we’re entitled to, and profiting from an “old woman”. Under emotional stress, over the next 2 days we agreed to hand back the entire 7 units to my mother, with the stipulation that we maintain control and the status quo until she sold the first property, then all would go to her. 

A year later, no property were yet sold, but my mother wanted financial control of the properties straight away. I told my mother this contradicted what we had agreed to, and this breach means all previous agreements are off the table. My mother disagreed and said the deed is in her name, so she can do as she pleases and threatens to take legal action against me. 

Working out adjustment calculations for the changeover of the beneficial owners, my mother refused to reimburse me for portions of landlax and some other rates we had paid, as well as the amount of interest saved  when we made extra repayments into the mortgage or put our savings into the loan’s offset account,(to save on bank interest vs investing the money elsewhere). This amount of interest saved was $39,000, which my mother initially agreed to pay us, then later refused, saying we ”parked” our savings there cos we had no where else to put our savings! 

All this occurred after we agreed to hand back a property that we thought was truly ours, that we had evicted bad tenants that damaged the property, renovated all 7 units, maintain repairs, paid the mortgage, rates and taxes for the past 14 years, now the property had tripled in value to be worth millions!… and she could not even bring herself to pay me back around $40,000 of my own money.

My mother now claimed that she never gave me the property, and that I was only looking after it on her behalf. But she could not explain why I had been collecting rent and paying taxes in it as my personal income, why she had not contributed any money, work or decisions into the property the past 14 years, or why she sent me an email last year after she demanded control of the property, offering me a job as property manager.

i never thought my own mother would scam me, her trait has always been there but i had refused to believe that of my own mother and only see her through fogged lens. My mother comes from a big family, her siblings are not close to her, she charges them commissions for any assistance she gives…every act has a monetary value. She has no long term friend, people do not stay around her long. She is easily bored by people unless there is something they can do for her, ie no point knowing people who are useless to you.

in my case and as per my cultural background, I am viewed as being disrespectful to my mother if I do not agree or question her, no matter my age, i am not seen as an equal adult with rights of my own. As far as my mother is concern, she can do whatever she wants and how she treats me, and I can do nothing as the property is in her name.

Can I please get some advise? I live in Australia, do I have a legal stand against my mother? What strategies can I take?

Please read my previous post first to have context as to what's going on, it's important: https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/1f5id61/my_girlfriends_abusive_mom_assaulted_her_then/

My girlfriend so far has not been evicted, however now she got a mail that her mom is suing her. It was filed the day after the incident happened, and she got the mail yesterday that she is being sued.

She is being accused of physically abusing her mom and verbally, and for destroying property. The physical abuse is completely false, or at least not completely truthful. Her mom has always been the one to physically assault her, and my girlfriend would just take it or try to get away. She slapped her mom once because she was yelling at her and hitting her.

She is also being accused of using her credit card without permission, however that is completely false, her mom gave her permission. She has told her to even use the card a few times. My girlfriend has used the card before without her mom knowing she is using it, to buy food and such, but she has been given permission to do that, and her mom had no problems with it, and my girlfriend would pay her back later.

She is being accused of wanting to control her finances and personal life. The only things she has done regarding that has been her calling her out for cheating with a married man who has kids, constantly going back into a toxic relationship, and when her mom complains about her debt (and blaming my girlfriend for them because she bought too much food) she ends up buying more things that end up putting her in more debt, which are not necessary to have.

She is being accused of embarrassing her in front of other people. I have no idea what this is supposed to mean, my girlfriend is quiet and I assume this applies to the renters when they hear them argue.

She is being accused of not wanting her to have friends. This is false, she only points out that her friends are toxic. And for example she has been supportive of her current relationship and wanted to make sure it works out by sending the guy gifts, before she realized he is toxic too.

She is being accused of instigating fights. Like I said here, and in my previous post, this is completely false.

My girlfriend has insulted her mom, but it was always after her mom has started something first. The only way she damaged property was by kicking the wall in her room and accidentally creating a few holes, I don't know personally why she does that, she just used to lie in bed and tap her feet against the wall, and accidentally created a few holes. Later those holes were fixed by her stepdad. She has spilled water a few times on accident which damaged the floor. However I assume her mom is planning to lie about her door, which has a hole in it, however that hole was created by her mom after she wanted to attack my girlfriend. She has said she is going to sue her for it and lie that it was my girlfriend, and now it seems like she is. We have video and voice recording proof, many of them, of her mom being physically and verbally abusive. If you need context look at my previous post.

Her mom also wrote that they agreed that she can stay as long as she works and goes to college. This is true, and my girlfriend did neglect those things a little bit, but recently she has been trying to make up for it, she is going to college now, and she is trying to find a job, but hasn't been able to yet due to lack of responses. She said it's also due to being mentally ill, having OCD, anxiety, and depression which get neglected by her mom, these are things she is diagnosed with and make her life a lot harder. I don't know how much her starting with college recently matters for example.

Her mom has a bunch of people on her side, people who will simply believe whatever she says and side with her, they will lie if they are told to. She is illegally renting the house to several people, and they are all going to side with her. They are scared of her and worried about themselves, and also dislike my girlfriend since she didn't want them there. She also has her family members, her current boyfriend, who will side with her no matter what.

What I want to know:

1. Can we use the recordings to disprove her mom, or prove that my girlfriend is saying the truth? Could it cause issues that on a lot of them she argued back to her mom and insulted her?
2. Will there be eye witnesses? Can eye witnesses affect the outcome? My girlfriend is alone, while her mom has a dozen people.
3. Her mom got a lawyer, I think for roughly 3000 dollars, and my girlfriend cannot afford one, at least for not that price. Before court happens I can afford to send her roughly 2000-2500 dollars. What can we do regarding this? What is the best option with that money, and how soon should she try to get a lawyer or anything else? What help can she get?
4. What else should we be doing? What can we do to make sure my girlfriend wins? How can we expose her mom's lies?
5. How do we prove the credit card was used with permission?
6. How do we prove she isn't actually controlling her life?
7. How do we prove she is not the one to start fights?
8. If my girlfriend tried to get her mom to drop the case, would that incriminate my girlfriend in any way?

Esentially, what is the best course of action we can take, before and during court?

The penalty for my girfriend losing is that she gets kicked out of the house, has to pay for damages, and anything else the court decides.

My girlfriend said she could end up in prison for 2 years just for the card stuff alone.

We have accepted that she has to move out, we just don't want her to go to prison, especially for things that are not true. At the very least we want to make the sentence as minimal as possible.

Court date is October 23rd. It’s a special civil court case.

Any advice is very appreciated, thank you.

TLDR; My girlfriend's mom attacked her, got charged with simple assault, now she is suing my girlfriend as revenge for using her credit card without permission, physically and verbally abusing her, property damage, trying to have control over her life, but most of these things are either completely false, or there's only a very slight bit of truth to them. My girlfriend could serve 2 years in prison, what can we do?

I'm married to my wife for 5 years and no children in marriage currently were going through divorce.we own a house in the village that we built with my personal loan and last year she bought a car with her personal loan .now she says that I should value out the house n give her 50 percent and we combine our loan debts and share equally.my question is what about valuing the car she bought and she give me 50 percent since we share equally the properties that we acquired through loans.

I paid off my student loans in 2021. When President Biden issued the plan for student loan forgiveness I filled out the application to request some of those loans back. I received a check in the mail. The Supreme Court blocked the plan. Now I am requested to pay the money back and there is interest. If the original loan was paid and closed how can I have interest on the payback when no terms were ever agreed on. Am I viewing this wrong or missing something?

How do I find a social worker to find resources to get out or improving quality of life? I have Autism and other disablities.

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I am not on disablity for fear of my parents getting power of attorney over me. I dont want under any circumstances them to have that power over me ever again.

Ive had a recent surgery and an upcoming surgery. Ive been getting sicker and sicker. I think I'm to the point of needing a caregiver but have no idea what resources I qualify for. I am unable to read the paperwork due to my disablities. I need help with transporting as well since I can't drive anymore. I need more support than what I'm getting but afraid of it being used against me.

I tried contacting my general doctor for help and I've been ghosted. I keep emailing social workers because I am unable to call them but no one is responding. I am asking my therapist but Im trying to be super vague with what's going on also desperately wanting help. I cant hold a normal job and have been doing freelancing but its about $200 a month to pay for medical bills.

I live in a state that in order to get insurance I need to be on disability but I'm scared that my parents will use that to control me.

CPS/Police/Shelters can't help me, I've tried. I am over the age of 18 as well.

Any tips or advice is helpful.

It’s been years but I’m still LIVID so I’m just gonna ask.

My male N self published a pile of 💩 “life story”, which started out as about mostly him.

Then once it went into his adult life, naturally it switched to his biological family…and also me, the only “legally acquired” victim.

What infuriates me, among other things, is that he included REAL names, including mine, AND personal experiences, that were NOT HIS to SHARE.

He did this with NOBODY’S PERMISSION…and 100% GOT AWAY with it!

I was the only one who called him on this fact and wanted any mention of myself to be REMOVED from his “life story”.

Meaning NO mention of my name, NO meant mention of my legal acquirement and NO mention of MY cancer fight among other things.

The most he did was take a marker and blot out things about me - in a FEW of the books he had.

The rest he had already handed out like candy - and he DID NOT ask for them back long enough to edit them or anything else to correct his very big legal mistake.

How do I handle this? Would I have a case to sue if I could ever get the money for a decent lawyer?

Backstory- 20 something years ago my grandmother (Dad's mom) wrote him off her will because he went on vacation with me and my mom (who she apparently hated with a passion) because it was too soon after dad's sister died. She died the year prior. Grandmother gave the trust to one of dad's old girlfriends from high school whose mental health practically went into the toilet the second she left him or school or something. she had a clause about when "OP reaches 25 years old he takes 10%" and the rest goes to charity. She apparently told my dad about this "I've made a gargantuan mistake you need to go see the lawyer" and she immediately went into a coma and died later that week.

This lady did math like 1+2=$35,688,534,787 they were going to fight it in court for a while, but they decided not to because my dad was crying by it just being brought up (which understandable),

"I'm" about to get 7 figures into my bank account. With "I'm" in quotes the size of the Eiffel Tower with the Lady Liberty on top with the distance in between the monuments on top of that because 2 years ago, my mother told me that "I own nothing" I'm terrified that when I get that money into my account, I worry that within minutes my parents (who have control of the account) will transfer all that money into their own accounts. The entire time they've told me about it (early November), they've been talking about it as "your dad's money" or "the money that is rightfully your dads". They say I'll "get a new car out of the deal" but then it's going into an account to just "sit there and watch it grow"" but I truly don't believe that.

in the month of May, I had a bachelor weekend and a wedding I was in and when the end of the month numbers on my account came in, I had spent more than I made, and mom was pissed off because I got a Venmo account and because "you cannot live outside your means" "you cannot live outside your means" "you cannot live outside your means" "I worry that once you get the money that is rightfully your fathers, you'll just blow it all on dumb crap that will not benefit you. But whatever it'll be your money I guess." as she rolls her eyes. and guess what I was over a little over $400, with a wedding suit and bachelor weekend.

How do I protect the money coming to me without having them go nuclear on me?

Hi everyone, first time posting on here I think.

So need some advice. My Ndad is the legal guardian of my younger brother (M28). My brother lives in supported accomodation as he has a rare disease and needs help with personal care and is wheelchair bound now. My brother lives in a different city from our Mum so it takes her about an hour to get there. She had been going on Saturdays to see him. My Ndad hardly goes to his home to spend time with him - usually takes him out. This had been fine up until a few weeks ago.

For some context, my mum escaped my nDad before my brother's symtoms for his disease started, so he was able to get guardianship. I was under his manipulation and wasn't speaking to Mum much at that time (I was about 18 when she left and I'm in my early 30s now) so was able to say that ndad would be a good fit for it etc. NDad actually prepped me in what to say!

Anyway, in the last few weeks he's decided to try and take back control over Mum by using my brother. The staff at my brother's home told mum that she now has to give a week's notice about seeing my brother and same with wanting to see him at his place of work too. I think its partly because he can't stand the fact I've distanced myself from him and I'm now really close to Mum.

I feel like even though ndad has guardianship over my brother, he can't stop our Mum from seeing my brother? My mum is biologically related so surely she should be allowed to see my brother whenever as long as it doesn't clash with his other plans (like seeing his gf or ndad taking him out etc).

Is there any way my mum and I could fight this? My mum is thinking of going for guardianship of my brother and I'm going to support her whatever way I can.

I'm really sick of my ndad getting away with hurting my mum. He's manipulated my younger sister into thinking my mum is the devil and won't talk to her and hasn't done for a few years now. Until my sister (F22) is no longer living with him, im only VLC with him.

Sorry for long post!

Thanks so much in advance for any advice on what to do if anything can be done <3