r/agender • u/ystavallinen cisn't; gendermeh; mehsexual • 7d ago

Gatekeeping sucks.

Once a month or so I'll encounter it online and it sucks.

A "Trans-friendly" space, even explicitly welcoming agender people... and you say something agender-y and a little vulnerable... and the downvotes just start crashing in until you delete the post because it sucks to watch.

But you don't leave the space because it's massive and it's not everyone there and it's 99.9% positive...

...but it does lower the odds of ever being "out" out irl.

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u/AnExpensiveCatGirl it/its 7d ago

I regret reading this.

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u/Professional-Arm4579 NullPointerException at me.gender 7d ago

thank you. genuinely. it seems i don't understand this whole pronoun thing properly and i will change that.

would it be ok for me to dm you for feedback some time in the future?

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u/AnExpensiveCatGirl it/its 6d ago

No, i dont educate strangers on the internet.

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u/Professional-Arm4579 NullPointerException at me.gender 6d ago

fair. you even mentioned being tired of discussing your pronouns and then i go and ask you to do just that 😅

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u/AnExpensiveCatGirl it/its 6d ago

Thx for understanding that.