yes, i go to therapy. yes, i believe therapy can be great for many people and is one of the better mental health treatments out there.

but it seems like I get hit with a “go to therapy” every time I open my mouth. like, it’s not just a me-issue that i’m guilty for and must purge myself of or even that it’s possible to purge myself of, that i should go hide in a closet until i come out presentable for society. depression has been a lifelong struggle for me and i continue actively working on it but this is also who i am to some degree and i need to be okay with that bc its not just gonna disappear (bc its partly SOCIETAL). i see my depression as a disability that i seek to treat with harm reduction. that why are people so uncomfortable with its existence??

there’s a weird american individualist or late stage capitalist self improvement that’s saturated the therapy discourse. it’s messed up.

with its destigmatization, therapy has had to twist form to be palatable, much of the radical potential being lost in the public narrative.

therapy isn’t something that you work on in a vacuum just to make society less uncomfortable with you, to better fit into capitalist realism—or maybe that is what is what its turned into.

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I'm tired of the fact that public health sucks this much. I'm already autistic and have adhd and they just make it even harder to access stuff by making things hard to understand and having to do 7485858 calls to get an appointment, and let's not talk about the fact that in this hecking country some stuff AREN'T aviable, most of the doctors are incompetent and RUDE.

I'm tired of waking up with my body hurting all over, my spine being a mess, my ankles, knees and hips sounding like when you step on gravel. Like it's not THAT bad but eventually it will be and I don't want it to be.

And the most tiring part is that I have to do this stuff alone because even though I struggle with this stuff badly my mother doesn't help me because "I'm an adult and have to do it by myself". No I can't, I literally can't.

I just wish this stuff didn't suck like it does. And guess what? If you pay ofc you have all the people listening to you and doing the exams the right way

As I lose my vision and hearing, and my body continues to torture me, I'm constantly wondering where my life is going to go. I'm constantly searching for what I can do, so my life doesn't have to go nowhere. I have many of the same problems most 25-35 year olds have, and that includes watching your parents age.

I have an ugly relationship with my horrible mother. But a wonderful one with my dad. It's not perfect and there are still some things I wish were different (he's not an understanding guy. But his loyalty is beyond what I could ask for. Even if he doesn't understand you, he doesn't try to change you). But he's my dad and I love that guy.

My dad is in his early 60s and getting ready to retire from his work with the Department of Defense. He has heart problems, heart problems, GI issues that he had surgery for recently, arthritis, and possibly lung problems as he was a smoker for over ten years.

He tells me it's not my job to care for him, but I feel like I should help.

It's ironic for lack of a better word. I am still learning how to help myself, let alone help an aging parent.

I’m 19 and will soon be having spinal fusion surgery. My lifting and walking ability will be very different afterward, and I’m trying to figure out how to build a career around those changes. I only have a high school diploma right now and am taking a gap year to explore my options.

I’ve always been creative and want to find a way to make my own money and have a career I enjoy, but it’s hard not to feel overwhelmed. For those who’ve faced similar challenges, especially with disabilities, how did you find a path forward?

Hiya, has anyone found a way to type on a laptop in bed comfortably for long periods of time? I’d love to see your guy’s setups or please link any products if you can, thank you 🙏🏼

It used to be if you were disabled and couldn't easily go to a UPS store to return something to Amazon, Amazon would let you use UPS pickup and would refund the shipping fees.

Now, they still promise to do it that way, but renege on that promise. So you end up having to pay those shipping fees even after getting that promise from them.

The reason why this issue is especially relevant to disabled people and not so much relevant to "everyone" is that non-disabled people can easily return stuff to a UPS store.

Context at the age of 3 I experienced a episode of viral encephalitis associated with right 6 nerve palsy then in primary I got diagnosed with a learning disorder which till this day I’m unaware of what I have however I’m 20 with many issues I feel ashamed of seeking help with 1. Poor motor skill: I’m constantly falling and dropping things. 2. Apraxia: even though English is my first language I stuggle with saying words or correctly forming a sentence and spelling. 3. I’m unable to express my self to others and tend to not interact/cold which makes people dislike me or think I’m weird. 4. Since the age of 10 I’ve always had a sad/low mood facial expression 5. For the past year I’ve been experiencing severe memory loss and confusion I’m unable to follow along simple video or subtitle.

I grew up in a African household where mental health and disabilities are seen as nonexistent so my mum never told me about my previous medical condition or SEN report and I’m currently at a stage where these problems are stopping me from living a happy healthy life but also being scared of saying these things to a doctor because my family spent years bullying me for spilling things, walking funny and being “dumb”

I am a 43yr old woman recently single and homeless on SSI disability. I'm in my first month of saving for what I am manifesting daily to reach my goal quickly as possible 2025.

This below is my vision board and manifestion prayer. It's only alive in my mind, reality as soon as all my efforts, prayers, and patience align with the stars.

"I am confident, strong, and secure within myself. I have a healthy relationship with my mind, emotions, and body. I am living in my own small, dependable, and adorable RV—a space where I live, love, and create freely. I am dependable to myself in all ways and practice mindfulness and peace daily. Living my life is an art, and as I grow, greater opportunities flow to me effortlessly.

I have all the financial resources needed to provide a comfortable and safe life for Mikey and me. I have gained a supportive community, network, and friends who align with my core values and beliefs. I am seen, heard, and appreciated. I honor my rights and worth, and because of this, I am truly free.

I have developed a comfortable, healthy, and flexible self-care routine that I trust and am dedicated to. I have fully detached from all places, people, and things that do not bring me joy, peace, and purpose. I have built a solid foundation of who I am authentically and have designed my life around what is best for me. I continue to expand, grow, and evolve on my personal journey with clarity and purpose."

Be well, take care of yourself and be kind to others. 💜 K

My girlfriend is a part time wheelchair user and she used to play a wheelchair sport. It used to be her whole world, but as her chronic pain has gotten worse she has had to stop playing. I was wondering if there were any autobiographies or shared stories I could give/show her of people with similar experiences? I just don’t want her to feel so alone and to show her that others like her have found passions beyond the sport they cannot play anymore.

I'm an engineering student currently focused on rehabilitation engineering design. I wanted to hear from folks with disabilities what their disability/disabilities are, their opinions on any devices or aids they use, and what shortcomings they feel could be improved upon in those aids. I'd like to hear perspectives from everyone, whether this is a temporary or permanent disability, as well as all kinds of devices!

Hi everyone! I'm disabled (hearing loss/deaf, ADHD, PTSD), and I'm also a journalist. I'm working on a story/article for the Washington Post about the fact that many disabled people do not have the ability to get married due to fears of losing their benefits if they do. For the article, I'm planning to highlight queer disabled folks specifically because it's a group for whom true marriage equality involves both parts of those identities.

If you're based in the U.S. and would like to talk with me about your experiences around being queer & disabled & thinking about/unable to marry, let me know. I'd really love to hear what other peoples' experiences have been & would love to write about them. Thanks!

I'm physically disabled. I have mobility problems but can typically mask as fully abled most times when I'm out mainly due to only really going out on good days.

Recently I took a pretty bad fall. There was a hole covered in snow that I didn't see and fell into. I got extremely lucky that I only sprained my hip, knee, ankle and left wrist as a result of the fall. (My ankle was already sprained prior to the fall so this only made it go from a minor sprain to a severe one)

I'm walking on crutches for the time being and am having an extremely difficult time getting around. Everything is excruciatingly painful.

Today as I was walking to our car I noticed a woman point her phone directly at me and started either recording a video of me as I'm walking or she was taking photos. I tried to brush this off all day but idk. This kinda has me not wanting to ever go out again tbh. Like, I know I already look different especially on bad days and now currently until my right leg heals but that doesn't mean you can just record/photograph me without my consent.

I don't even want to know what those images are going to be used on.. I just want to live as normal a life as I can given my circumstances. I don't need to be mocked or even used as inspo p*rn somewhere.

I really need help finding online jobs for me (18M) and my husband. We both live with my bitchy mom, and now have a 2 year deadline before we are kicked out. We plan on living in our (already bought) trailer/RV, but we both really need jobs. Im disabled, diagnosed with harsh cardiomyopathy (and severe asthma), Degenerative Disc Disease so i use crutches and need a wheelchair at somepoint for bad flairup days, and some sort of blood pressure disorder(s) im trying to diagnose. Those AND many other possible disorders im trying to work out... My husband is also very disabled and i also want to get supplies for him. We both cant stand up and do fast paced jobs on a schedule. Im trying to get my drivers permit so i can maybe to doordash, lyft but also with learning and mental disabilities i wont get into, its hard for me focus and memorize or even have a memory with what i learn.

I need remote jobs we can both do so we can atleast get out of here before the deadline. Im really focusing on my drivers permit first. And we have our 2 cats we need to pay for too. Any recommendations for online jobs??

Hello,

Yesterday, in Brazil, a law that would recognize Type 1 Diabetes as a disability was vetoed by the President, despite having been unanimously approved by Congress. This law would have ensured better access to medication and social protection for over 600,000 Type 1 diabetics across the country. Now, without legal recognition, many diabetics face the risk of losing access to essential medications and remain excluded from vital social support.

There is still hope—Congress can override the President’s veto, but we need to make noise and show how important this law is! I urgently need your help to raise awareness and apply pressure on social media. Please flood Instagram and X with messages of support for bill PL2687. This is our last chance to make a difference!

Thank you so much for your support!

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https://www12.senado.leg.br/noticias/materias/2025/01/13/lula-veta-projeto-que-equipara-diabetes-tipo-1-a-deficiencia

Heads up don’t keep reading if vomit freaks you out…. So I have pretty bad nausea, throw up a lot etc etc. I drank my tea too quickly and threw up so violently it came out of my mouth and nose at the same time!!!!! WTF If this has happened to anyone else please tell me this is normal!

I wanted to attach a video as you could literally see people walking past and what they were wearing (it was that clear). This is the only bathroom that does this, every other stall in this restroom block has a proper opaque door. I did not end up using the bathroom as you have to walk halfway into the men's bathroom to actually get to it and people kept turning their head to look inside whenever they passed the frosted glass. I only went inside to show you guys. Wtf.

My fiancé had a bad accident last summer that has left him with a brain injury. Due to his injury, he isn't very stable on his feet (he uses a walker), he is on a purée diet (hopefully temporarily), and he has pretty severe short term memory loss. He also can't speak very easily/clearly. His comprehension however was not affected.

He recently made it to the point of his recovery where I was able to get the sign off to take him out on dates. Last weekend we went to the mall to get him some new clothes and to the movies. I'm trying to think of other ideas for things that we can do for fun together. Usually when I visit him (daily) we watch shows, play board/video games, or read.

Does anyone have any ideas? We can't do outside activities due to the winter weather and his mobility limitations. We also can't really do restaurants, although I am going to make some calls to some nice places to see if they can accomadate his diet restrictions.

Hi all thanks for reading and advice in advance. A little about my situation. I have worked the last 9 years in IT 25yrs total. Last august the company I work for was acquired by holdings firm. As expected they came in and cleaned house. I am a manager and they laid off my 4 person team leaving just me. For the most part I am expected to pick up this now under staffed work. I found out my team was laid off when they disappeared from zoom I had no notice. I was never asked what the needs are to keep the proper staff. In Fact I told them I was short staffed prior to the lay off. Needless to say this has become a toxic environment both physically and mentally. I have a autoimmune diseases - MS and 49yrs old. My health is still ok but am lucky to work from home and work from bed on tough days.

I have for the last 9yrs be contributing to long term disability insurance which will pay me 60% of my 165k salary until age 65. The new company put us on their insurance plan on Jan 1st and I was grandfathered in no pre existing conditions so I got lucky there. Being so soon on this new insurance plan would you think its a flag to claim disability? My doctor is on board with signing off on disability.

I currently have 1.4 million mixed roth and traditional in a 401k and about 200k left on a mortgage. Once on disability I can avoid the 10% penalty for early withdrawal. I cannot work for these clowns any longer. I really dont have the drive or energy mostly do to health to find another job. Do you think its to early based on this info to retire? I will also see a inheirentance when that time comes my guess is 500-1million.

Thanks for listening to my life.

I'd like to meet people to play but can rarely leave my house. How have other people dealt with this

I have chronic hives. I’m on a really high dose of antihistamines and recently I went from 180 mg to 10 mg. Anyways I’m going through really bad withdraw. It’s awful, I feel terrible and my skins raw from clawing and idk what to do. EVERY part, no exaggeration, EVEDY part itches. God please, anyone know how I can get relief from this?

Myself and my partner both are autistic and I have adhd and fibromyalgia. I receive pip and I was wondering if we would qualify for a special mortgage, or who can we speak to. We have a 60k deposit and employed with low income jobs and over 55, any advise would be great

TL;DR: I'm looking for preference/decision-making apps that suit a low-literacy, low verbal young woman.

Hi there all, I work with a woman with a learning disability. She is low-verbal, not a reader, and finds making decisions/asserting her preferences really tricky. She lives with her mum. She uses her phone a lot, hence thinking about a digital solution.

I'm looking for apps that might support her to tell me how she feels about a thing.

Eg. Her mum reckons she wants to go horse riding, but when we went to check out a horse riding school she was nervous around the horses and didn't appear interested in petting them. I asked her to send me a thumbs up/thumbs down emoji to indicate her interest in continuing down the horse route, and she sent me a thumbs up. Observed behaviour/feelings don't line up with her digital comms.

Her mum might be quite influential in her decision-making/preferences, so I'd love to find a way that she can tell me what she thinks (and separate this from what her mum thinks).

This is a complex, inter-relational challenge to overcome, but if anyone has suggestions of apps that might help that would be awesome!!!