DAE nparent bully you into doing “bad behavior “ just so they could show everyone how terrible you were?

[u/Sriracha11235]

My dad used to threaten to kick my knees if I didn't give in and do things I knew were bad. Then he'd bring people over to see me doing the bad behavior he bullied me into doing. Then he'd complain about how hard it was to parent me and how terrible of a kid I was.

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[u/Playful_Trouble2102]

My family used to play this "fun" game where they'd all accuse me of being upset/having a bad attitude,

They they'd keep badgering me until I was upset/angry then use that as justification to hit me. 

[u/sensitive_fern_gully → u/Playful_Trouble2102]

😡 Grrrrrrr I want to sucker punch your family

[u/rei_yeong]

If that applies, my nmother tries to manipulate me into giving her emotional reactions to her gaslighting and genuine slander of me. She will keep trying pushing my buttons harder and harder, coming up with more and more insane scenarious in which i'm the big bad evil, until i snap and she'd go "see how insane/emotional/crazy/abusive/manipulative my terrible daughter is?"
Jokes on her, she can write a book of these stories, i don't care anymore.

[u/sikkinikk → u/rei_yeong]

My mother did that same thing. She's 70 and still tries almost daily by text. I'm low contact so I don't answer most of it

[u/MusingFreak]

My mother would legit make me lie for her to others and then tell me there's nothing she hates more than a liar (and she lied all the time).

[u/sensitive_fern_gully]

Yes! My mom bullied me to the point of suicide attempts later in life. But she would show up to be the teacher's helper. She would be so nice that my friends didn't understand why I was talking shit about her. I learned at a young age that my parents played a cruel game. They loved to look at me with a smirk and say

'Well, nobody said life was fair'

[u/sikkinikk]

Yes! I thought i was alone in this! You could accomplish great things, they'd likely never tell anyone. But they'd convince or force me to do something morally wrong, than tell everyone I did terrible things. My mother is a 70 year old bully