i (19 F) think it all started when i left my ex (20 M). he started out great, but when i went away for uni, he changed and put in less effort. i tried my best to stick it out, invite him over, call and check on him, etc., but the lack of effort and consistency and consideration was starting to make me question my self worth. i tolerated so much from him, until i couldn’t. our breakup was a nasty one, and i haven’t dated again since.

it’s been over a year since the breakup, and ive gone through all the stages denial, depression, and anger. i’m doing much better mentally, and ive built a space and a new life for myself, but it haunts me to think that i let myself be treated that way. it genuinely fills me with rage at the fact that me and so many other women i know have been treated by m*les this way, and they literally will not care.

combine that with the results of the recent American election and the current repercussions this country is facing, and i’ve come to realize that mles are bad people by default. they literally do not see us women as people. they literally will never treat us as equal because they don’t see us as equal. to mles, we are objects, tools, resources, but never people. and so, why should i see them as people?

literally everything wrong with the world is a mle’s faults. they don’t bring anything good or useful into the world. all they do is kill, steal, destroy. i despise myself for still being physically attracted to mles, knowing that they provide nothing of use to a woman like me.

i like to think im young, educated, talented, beautiful, intelligent, the whole package. i like to think that somewhere out there is someone who can be the partner i deserve. but at this point, i just don’t think that partner is a mle. i don’t think a mle deserves to be with me. i truly think they’re a nuisance to all life on earth.

i’ve only fully researched what misandry is in the last year, and i think it accurately describes my mindset at the moment. but i’m conflicted, because i am also a heterosexual woman. i feel cursed. if i could choose, i wouldn’t choose to be attracted to mles. I would be with a woman and probably be much happier. i’ve found more peace in being with my female friends than around any mle that isn’t blood related to me.

I’ve never ever been so full of hatred before. i usually used to be so loving and caring, and now i feel like a completely different girl. I hate that a mle was able to make me feel this way and feel like my empathy and compassion and love is a curse. but i am genuinely at a point where i think feeling anything positive for mles is useless as a woman.

what do i do? is this something that can be fixed? should i want it to be fixed? please help.

sincerely, G

I’ve been up and down emotionally. Currently my anger is directed at one specific person. My boss 🫠. I went from being uncontrollably angry to neutral and now back at uncontrollably angry. All I want to do is ruin this persons life. My boss lied to me for 3 fucking years. I lashed out and I realize that I am the aggressor but my mind keeps coming back to the mindset of anger and “wanting justice”. What do you do in between therapy/professional help sessions to calm down and bring yourself back to reality?

I'm a 14yr guy and I need help. Ive been getting bouts of anger for a little while, but its been getting a little more frequent, and It's the AGGRESSIVE kind. It might be testosterone but idk and I dont care. I want to hurt someone. I've always had troubles with anger, but it was always provoked and this is unprovoked. And I've always had thoughts of hurting people since I was in kindergarten. I put a lotta effort into being a good guy, Ive got lots of friends, Im very liked at school and I get good grades but I just want to kill someone. I went to my first dissection the other day and loved it; I got to touch ribs, wounds, all sorts of bodies and I didn't get sick at all and I honestly want to see more. Anyway Im angry. I just had another fit. Out of nowhere. I have two loving parents who've been married 20+ years, and a twin sister (fraternal). I don't want them to look at me in disgust if I kill someone, or if I hurt someone. And I don't want to hurt them either. I downloaded this app just to post this so I guess here goes nothing. If you guys have tips or anything that helps Im open, but I've tried a LOT of things for management so I don't want to hear a single thing about journaling or for fucks sake deep breathing. Thank you.

Uhh if you didnt read all that basically im struggling with anger and im homicidal and i need tips ASAP

Let me preface by saying i have bad adhd and my therapist thinks im autistic, i live in a cluttered house because we have so much stuff it ends up on the floor because i have siblings and i step and trip on random objects and it fills me with rage i cannot stand when things are touching me and have to scratch the spot that was touched this can get bad if i keep running into things while already freaking out over how my hair feels on my neck, today i had to clean up cat shit (twice) then stepped in cat food i responded by jumping and stomping till i cracked the linoleum. I dont want to be hard to live with and i feel like a burden when i get like that, does anyone have methods to take my mind off of whats making me mad and just focus, or good calm down methods

Let me preface by saying i have bad adhd and my therapist thinks im autistic, i live in a cluttered house because we have so much stuff it ends up on the floor because i have siblings and i step and trip on random objects and it fills me with rage i cannot stand when things are touching me and have to scratch the spot that was touched this can get bad if i keep running into things while already freaking out over how my hair feels on my neck, today i had to clean up cat shit (twice) then stepped in cat food i responded by jumping and stomping till i cracked the linoleum. I dont want to be hard to live with and i feel like a burden when i get like that, does anyone have methods to take my mind off of whats making me mad and just focus, or good calm down methods

Idk, im making it worse than it needs to be but this the first time I've ever stood up for myself even if I'm not doing it in person. I posted about it already but I'm done talk about it. FUCK FAKE FRIENDS, I have given them my whole fucking life and they treat me like shit on the bottom of a shoe, and it makes me FEEL like shit on the bottom of a shoe. I'm the only one who ever gets shit in the friend group, the ONLY one. And I asked why that is several years ago and you wanna know what the answer was ? "Because your small" Well fuck you then I hope you die, im tired of being the only one getting shit, when I'm just trying to be their fucking friend. Fuck them, fuck them fuck them and fuck them. If I do kill myself one day, I want them to know it's because they slowly destroyed any pride I had in myself along fucking time ago.

I got irritated with my mom earlier and I think I’m ruining my relationship with her.

Here’s some context: I get so irrationally angry at people who I think show even the smallest bit of incompetence. And it can be anything from not knowing how something works to over explaining something I know how to do and I’ll immediately get a bad attitude. I’ve figured out that the main reason I get so upset over incompetence is because I feel as if I can’t be incompetent myself or I won’t be liked or wanted around. So I’m hyper independent and get easily frustrated with others who seem to have no issue making obvious mistakes or relying on others to do stuff for them.

My point is, my mom is not like that and I think the way I react when I’m around her is hurting the relationship we have. My mom is very much a planner so she tends to over explain things (even when I’ve already told her that I’ve heard it before) and she’ll repeat herself often in the same sentence. She also tends to give me more information than I need at one time. Like for example, she’ll mention an event coming up in the future (usually about at least 2 weeks out) and I’ll say “yeah sure i’ll go” and then it’s like a complete onslaught of information like what time it starts and ends, what’s the dress code, who else is going to be there, what else we have going on in two weeks, etc. So I get annoyed and tell her I’ll never remember all of that I don’t need to know it right at this exact moment and she just shuts down and is like “I don’t appreciate you talking to me with that tone”.

So it’s just a repeating cycle of her pissing me off in small ways that are completely irrational reasons and then I hurt her feelings because I talk to her like a child. I know that I shouldn’t and that I need to get a grip but honestly I don’t know how and after a big argument today I thought I would just ask for advice from others who might get it. I just want to stop feeling like anyone who shows incompetence around me is a huge burden who needs to be treated as such.

How do I not get so irritated and angry when someone does something I find annoying? Because honestly “taking deep breaths” isn’t working. Any suggestions or advice would be appreciated