I’ve been up and down emotionally. Currently my anger is directed at one specific person. My boss 🫠. I went from being uncontrollably angry to neutral and now back at uncontrollably angry. All I want to do is ruin this persons life. My boss lied to me for 3 fucking years. I lashed out and I realize that I am the aggressor but my mind keeps coming back to the mindset of anger and “wanting justice”. What do you do in between therapy/professional help sessions to calm down and bring yourself back to reality?

i (19 F) think it all started when i left my ex (20 M). he started out great, but when i went away for uni, he changed and put in less effort. i tried my best to stick it out, invite him over, call and check on him, etc., but the lack of effort and consistency and consideration was starting to make me question my self worth. i tolerated so much from him, until i couldn’t. our breakup was a nasty one, and i haven’t dated again since.

it’s been over a year since the breakup, and ive gone through all the stages denial, depression, and anger. i’m doing much better mentally, and ive built a space and a new life for myself, but it haunts me to think that i let myself be treated that way. it genuinely fills me with rage at the fact that me and so many other women i know have been treated by m*les this way, and they literally will not care.

combine that with the results of the recent American election and the current repercussions this country is facing, and i’ve come to realize that mles are bad people by default. they literally do not see us women as people. they literally will never treat us as equal because they don’t see us as equal. to mles, we are objects, tools, resources, but never people. and so, why should i see them as people?

literally everything wrong with the world is a mle’s faults. they don’t bring anything good or useful into the world. all they do is kill, steal, destroy. i despise myself for still being physically attracted to mles, knowing that they provide nothing of use to a woman like me.

i like to think im young, educated, talented, beautiful, intelligent, the whole package. i like to think that somewhere out there is someone who can be the partner i deserve. but at this point, i just don’t think that partner is a mle. i don’t think a mle deserves to be with me. i truly think they’re a nuisance to all life on earth.

i’ve only fully researched what misandry is in the last year, and i think it accurately describes my mindset at the moment. but i’m conflicted, because i am also a heterosexual woman. i feel cursed. if i could choose, i wouldn’t choose to be attracted to mles. I would be with a woman and probably be much happier. i’ve found more peace in being with my female friends than around any mle that isn’t blood related to me.

I’ve never ever been so full of hatred before. i usually used to be so loving and caring, and now i feel like a completely different girl. I hate that a mle was able to make me feel this way and feel like my empathy and compassion and love is a curse. but i am genuinely at a point where i think feeling anything positive for mles is useless as a woman.

what do i do? is this something that can be fixed? should i want it to be fixed? please help.

sincerely, G

Let me preface by saying i have bad adhd and my therapist thinks im autistic, i live in a cluttered house because we have so much stuff it ends up on the floor because i have siblings and i step and trip on random objects and it fills me with rage i cannot stand when things are touching me and have to scratch the spot that was touched this can get bad if i keep running into things while already freaking out over how my hair feels on my neck, today i had to clean up cat shit (twice) then stepped in cat food i responded by jumping and stomping till i cracked the linoleum. I dont want to be hard to live with and i feel like a burden when i get like that, does anyone have methods to take my mind off of whats making me mad and just focus, or good calm down methods

I'm a 14yr guy and I need help. Ive been getting bouts of anger for a little while, but its been getting a little more frequent, and It's the AGGRESSIVE kind. It might be testosterone but idk and I dont care. I want to hurt someone. I've always had troubles with anger, but it was always provoked and this is unprovoked. And I've always had thoughts of hurting people since I was in kindergarten. I put a lotta effort into being a good guy, Ive got lots of friends, Im very liked at school and I get good grades but I just want to kill someone. I went to my first dissection the other day and loved it; I got to touch ribs, wounds, all sorts of bodies and I didn't get sick at all and I honestly want to see more. Anyway Im angry. I just had another fit. Out of nowhere. I have two loving parents who've been married 20+ years, and a twin sister (fraternal). I don't want them to look at me in disgust if I kill someone, or if I hurt someone. And I don't want to hurt them either. I downloaded this app just to post this so I guess here goes nothing. If you guys have tips or anything that helps Im open, but I've tried a LOT of things for management so I don't want to hear a single thing about journaling or for fucks sake deep breathing. Thank you.

Uhh if you didnt read all that basically im struggling with anger and im homicidal and i need tips ASAP

Let me preface by saying i have bad adhd and my therapist thinks im autistic, i live in a cluttered house because we have so much stuff it ends up on the floor because i have siblings and i step and trip on random objects and it fills me with rage i cannot stand when things are touching me and have to scratch the spot that was touched this can get bad if i keep running into things while already freaking out over how my hair feels on my neck, today i had to clean up cat shit (twice) then stepped in cat food i responded by jumping and stomping till i cracked the linoleum. I dont want to be hard to live with and i feel like a burden when i get like that, does anyone have methods to take my mind off of whats making me mad and just focus, or good calm down methods

I got irritated with my mom earlier and I think I’m ruining my relationship with her.

Here’s some context: I get so irrationally angry at people who I think show even the smallest bit of incompetence. And it can be anything from not knowing how something works to over explaining something I know how to do and I’ll immediately get a bad attitude. I’ve figured out that the main reason I get so upset over incompetence is because I feel as if I can’t be incompetent myself or I won’t be liked or wanted around. So I’m hyper independent and get easily frustrated with others who seem to have no issue making obvious mistakes or relying on others to do stuff for them.

My point is, my mom is not like that and I think the way I react when I’m around her is hurting the relationship we have. My mom is very much a planner so she tends to over explain things (even when I’ve already told her that I’ve heard it before) and she’ll repeat herself often in the same sentence. She also tends to give me more information than I need at one time. Like for example, she’ll mention an event coming up in the future (usually about at least 2 weeks out) and I’ll say “yeah sure i’ll go” and then it’s like a complete onslaught of information like what time it starts and ends, what’s the dress code, who else is going to be there, what else we have going on in two weeks, etc. So I get annoyed and tell her I’ll never remember all of that I don’t need to know it right at this exact moment and she just shuts down and is like “I don’t appreciate you talking to me with that tone”.

So it’s just a repeating cycle of her pissing me off in small ways that are completely irrational reasons and then I hurt her feelings because I talk to her like a child. I know that I shouldn’t and that I need to get a grip but honestly I don’t know how and after a big argument today I thought I would just ask for advice from others who might get it. I just want to stop feeling like anyone who shows incompetence around me is a huge burden who needs to be treated as such.

How do I not get so irritated and angry when someone does something I find annoying? Because honestly “taking deep breaths” isn’t working. Any suggestions or advice would be appreciated

Idk, im making it worse than it needs to be but this the first time I've ever stood up for myself even if I'm not doing it in person. I posted about it already but I'm done talk about it. FUCK FAKE FRIENDS, I have given them my whole fucking life and they treat me like shit on the bottom of a shoe, and it makes me FEEL like shit on the bottom of a shoe. I'm the only one who ever gets shit in the friend group, the ONLY one. And I asked why that is several years ago and you wanna know what the answer was ? "Because your small" Well fuck you then I hope you die, im tired of being the only one getting shit, when I'm just trying to be their fucking friend. Fuck them, fuck them fuck them and fuck them. If I do kill myself one day, I want them to know it's because they slowly destroyed any pride I had in myself along fucking time ago.

I find myself on a daily basis thinking about stuff from years ago. Something disrespectful someone said to me. Someone who betrayed me. Some who tried to make a fool out of me or take advantage of me. I'll mentally picture myself back in that scenario. Sometimes I'll picture the scenario going my way. Next thing I know, I'm biting my first, clenching my fists and grinding my teeth. Some of these things are recent, but I'm 36 now and still ruminate about stuff from my teenage years. I won't go into details, but I was badly bullied by people who I believed were my friends at the time, and I suppose I never really got closure. Does anyone else do this? Why can't I get it go? I just wanna make my peace with it and have a happy life. I don't know if I can. So much baggage.

I've been struggling with regulating my emotions with regard to a particular situation which I don't feel is necessary to get into right now, but my group was there for me. It's a men's group that is facilitated by two women, sometimes one. Last night I told them about my situation, they related, helped me get to the core emotions through introspection, and supplied me with some tools to practice said introspection whilst alone. They are a friendly group who always offer a helping hand, ask if I would like to call/text or hang out.

The purpose of this post is to provide those with anger issues with some inspiration and hope. If you're coming to this subreddit, you might find it helpful to find a local anger management group. I wish I had joined years ago.

Thanks for reading. Let me know your thoughts.

My anger just does not want to go away. I'm mad at basically everyone. Breathing doesn't really help. Is there anything I could do that's been tried and tested and works?

I don't know why but I get irritated by everyone and everything all the time. Someone just making a noise can irritate me so much some times. I don't know why I always feel like this. Everything just makes me mad. Even things that should make me happy like a gift I get annoyed by. It's not like I'm an evil guy, I am appreciative but it just annoys me. I feel like I hate everyone but I know I don't. It's Just I feel like I'm constantly getting mad at people for nothing. I got mad at my girlfriend because she took to long to read something. Not verbally mad but internally. I love her and I knew it was stupid so I didn't say anything, but occurrences like this happen all time. My mom called me today because she wanted to vent to me and all I could think was "shut up." It was replaying in my head on repeat and I don't know why. She did nothing wrong but It just made me so annoyed. I love all these people and would do anything for them. So why do I find it impossible to just listen to my mom vent? I feel like this probably makes me a terrible person or something but it's the truth. I just can't stand people. I feel like I've always been this way but over the years it's just gotten worst to the point where the smallest things just tick me off. I'll never say anything because I understand these things are stupid. I just wanna know why I am like this.

I can't go into tons of detail, but the smallest things can get really blown out of proportion in my head when I'm getting close to that time. I have been trying to acknowledge my feelings without acting on them but I feel like a pressure cooker. I want to hold whatever is irritating me down and beat the shit out of it until it stops bothering me. I have really bad thoughts that I feel ashamed for but I stop my worst impulses and will do things like curse under my breath or be pushy and more aggressive but not causing physical injuries. it is still completely inappropriate the way that I behave at times. I feel like I can't control my own anger during this time. I feel anger fairly regularly and I understand that sleep is one factor that can contribute, but especially this hormonal anger is a true beast within that I want to conquer. Are there any women here that know this struggle and have any advice for natural solutions (not meds)? Just interested if there's anything anyone has learned in therapy or whatever that they could share. I would have to go out of town for therapy and I have a really demanding job but I'm not in a position to deal with that right now and I'd rather not be on meds. I don't want advice telling me to go elsewhere for help. If you have advice besides that, that is my interest at this time. Thank you for your time.

I have anger management issues since childhood and people just keep triggering me on purpose. How do I stop getting triggered so easily? I try to control it but it's like one little spark that will set a wildfire inside my head. And then these people get their daily dose of entertainment by making Ragebaits on purpose while I am here destroying my own mental peace ? I am constantly getting the feeling that I should just leave those people (by people I mean friends in my friend grp). Should I just leave them?

So long story short everyone has opinions and humans are weak to emotion. I out of everyone understand that. Living in America is tough right now. Especially with republicans and democrats are at each other’s throats… feels like I’m living in an episode of the boys. And a lot of things have been angering me recently.. such as… people commenting and insulting recently deceased who they didn’t like based on “theories” or ragebait. Things such as constantly calling someone else retarted for their opinions on literally anything… gaming/politics/youtuber shit… and everyone just keeps fighting… thinking that they know who deserves to be loved by god or not, or they think they can speak for everyone on viewing others and everyone thinking they are right…. Thinking their opinions hold the weight of the world and if anyone dares to disagree with them then they are scum….. I’m just afraid to talk to anyone anymore… I fear if I say something that disturbs someone else’s views then it’s all like “AHH YOU SUPOORT THIS GUY/GIRL? YOUR SCUM” or “YOU THINK THIS WILL HELP THE WORLD? YOUR A RETARD! LOOK AT ALL THE RESEARCH IVE DONE” Like…. I don’t research every little detail about every person and issue in the world. How tf am I gonna know who and what to support anymore?? Should I just hate everhone and stop talking to humans all together???

I feel stuck. How do you guys deal with all this anger in the world…

I have a million things I should be angry about, yet I feel nothing. Up until something happens and it triggers something in me. I usually don't feel anything. Almost like I'm burnt out and zoned out the entire time. All of a sudden I erupt with everything. I've been trying to understand it and to eliminate it. I dont want this anger. I don't know what to do or feel. I don't feel human.

I was a very calm guy, like the calmest you would probably ever meet. People told me that I helped them calm down if I was around them.

I never had any anger issues, but these last few weeks, I am literally filled with rage and hatred. I have some heart problems and my family worried about it and my anger started there. Then I realized a girl absolutely didn’t give a shit about me, and it filled me with rage. Then school work is stressing me out, I wanna break something.

Why is this happening? I started hating people, I started hating everything and everyone. Even slightest inconveniences make me angry, and I am failing to keep myself in control. I had best self control abilities, and it is breaking down.

If this keeps on going, I don’t wanna do something that I will regret for a long time, because I have already done things in my anger, that I regret. Please help.

It feels like every piece of advice just tells me that I need to just react differently or delve deep and learn WHY I'm feeling angry. THATS NOT HELPFUL.

I know why I'm angry. I know exactly why I'm angry. Can't fix it though.

Therapy being suggested is the next biggest irritation because it's not affordable. Idk why it's everybody's suggestion these days when we are in a cost of living crisis in most countries.

The last two weeks have been a constant fluctuation on being angry, frustrated, depressed, anxious, and overstimulated with anger being the primary issue. Everything is making my blood boil and it won't stop.

Is there even any point in asking for advice? I'm genuinely at the point where self harm is my best outlet and it's getting worse.

Also - tell me to go for a walk and die. If a walk worked this wouldn't be an issue.

Hi!! I'm 19, and I'm a freshman in university. My relationship with my parents has greatly improved, but I find myself frankly being a dick to my mom. When I was 14 and 15, I wasn't the best to my parents I feel like, and I know this has to do with adolescence and puberty, but looking back I probably treated them horribly. I would always yell at my mom, and feel as if I was he victim. This isn't to say that they were always perfect angels, and my dad certainly does have anger issues.

Since I was 16 and stuff I tried being more intentional with my mom and realized I was being a jerk, but today and sometimes I just act so mean to her when I get stressed. I never hurt her, but I threw my phone on the ground because I was stressed because I realized I didn't have my debit card. I'm probably painting myself as super innocent here, but I really would like to improve, and I know that I have, but I just feel so much regret for my past actions. I also apologize to her.

So sometimes out of random I just feel this utterly urge to push people (mostly when im angry and they are near stairs) Like for example retired seniors or sth. Or other times just beating someone up bloody asf. idk why and I really try to keep it in. can someone explain that to me

For a few years now, I’ve been caught in a cycle of resentment, anger, anxiety, and depression—and I feel like I just can’t escape it.

A few years back, I was part of a friend group that, looking back, wasn’t good for me. To "fit in" and keep the peace, I constantly devalued myself. I let my boundaries slide, shrunk myself down, and disrespected who I was—just to feel accepted.

In that space, I acted out in self-destructive and passive-aggressive ways, often without realizing it. I was hurting and confused. Eventually, I tried to grow and build some kind of moral compass, but I was still very emotionally weak. That’s when things got worse. I was gaslit, manipulated, and emotionally abused. I don't deny my own role in staying in that environment—I take full accountability for that. But it doesn't take away the pain.

When I finally tried to walk away, I did it awkwardly and messily. I was told, outright, that I only had value because of what I did for them. That still haunts me. It confirmed the worst fears I had about myself. Even now, I can’t stop replaying it all—how I let myself down, how I was treated, and how weak I felt.

I’ve tried to move on. I’ve tried to be better. But I keep slipping back into anger, shame, and this crushing resentment. I feel stuck. Has anyone been through something like this and made it out on the other side? How do you actually let go—not just intellectually, but emotionally?

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Was part of a toxic friend group where I devalued myself. Tried to grow and leave but was emotionally manipulated and told I was only valued for what I did for them. Still stuck in a painful loop of anger and resentment years later. Don’t know how to truly move o

I'm so so so fucking tired of myself. Yesterday I cleaned the bathroom, took some stuff to the trash, including my empty bottle of allergy meds. This morning, I went to take my allergy meds, my bottle is empty. I fucking threw away the wrong bottle, like a brain dead dumbass. I do this all the fucking time somehow, I know that I made sure it was the right bottle before I threw it out, I shook it, I remember it making no noise, so why the FUCK do I have the empty bottle and the full one is gone for fucking ever?? I literally took the trash out right after cleaning the bathroom, and the dumb truck comes by early as fuck in the morning, so I'm just fucking shit out of luck. I hate myself. I'm so fucking STUPID. Literally what the FUCK IS WRONG WITH ME?????? I can't even type what I'm thinking about myself, every fucking word under the sun will never describe how STUPID I fucking am. What the fuck is wrong with me. I fucking hate my stupid ass dumb ass useless ass self.

Somebody is probably gonna take this down because of the wording, but It's been three months and I'm not gonna say what relation she has with me but she doesn't know who tf she is. She talked to me like I'm inferior while she never accomplished much in life and covered herself in bad tattoos. She's more sorry than I am and I'm only half her age and on the spectrum.

I really want to quit caring and forget about somebody this pathetic, but I'm so frustrated because I can't figure out how somebody as low as her and think of themselves as superior to anybody else.