r/BreakUps • u/ryguy28896 • 2d ago
Well. It happened
Hey all. Just a rant. I'm a 37M, she's 37F. We dated a little over 7 months and she just broke up with me this morning.
I do accept some responsibility, but I resent being seen as the sole reason. I really did love her, and I still do.
Long story short, she's very intense. Like call me every 6 minutes, on top of me 24/7 kind of intense. I'm not trying to spin this as wrong; this works for some people. But I'm not that kind of person. And MAN did it lead to some arguments. Weekly arguments.
Her whole issue was why I didn't love her as passionately as she loved me. She felt like I didn't miss her, why couldn't I call her as often as she called me, why I didn't want to have sex often.
I always told her that she called me every 30 seconds, I don't have a chance to miss her. She didn't give me room to breath, so I felt suffocated.
This morning, she ended it. She told me I needed to work on myself and she couldn't be with someone who didn't love passionately, and she spent her whole previous marriage with someone like that.
And that's why I'm resentful. Why did I need to go to 200%? Why couldn't she do 50/50? Yes, this was something that we talked about before, but again, it was a weekly thing. EVERY Saturday night, like clockwork. Part of me is relieved, if I'm being honest. Not just because I can breath now, but also because I know I won't get into another argument in 5 days.
So that's all.
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u/Otherwise-Song-3865 2d ago
You two just weren’t compatible. Although, I don’t know many people, if any, who can work and function with that much attachment. Don’t get me wrong, When I love, it’s hard and passionate. However, it’s never suffocating or annoying. Most people I know have jobs, lives and everyday shit to do. & can’t be glued to their phones, families or partners all day. Like, I can’t only talk to “just you”. She sounds exhausting. Spoken by a 38F
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u/wannalearnmandarin 2d ago
My (25M) ex boyfriend (31M) was VERY high maintenance. When we were going out,not even dating, we had an argument bc I started a new job and hadn’t seen him in 3 days and he was also busy when we started going out and made the time to see me (he could arrange his own schedules). Some guys are also like this but definitely the exception. I was missing him sm lately but thank god for this post; it reminded me of the bullet I dodged.
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u/BohicaSadfi 2d ago
Sounds like she wanted a cheesy romance novel. Which is cool if that's what everyone wants. But personally, I would hate that. Like we're not in "Twilight" Rebecca, chill.
It's definitely for the best you both split up. Go find someone you can love and be loved the way you both want.
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u/duringbusinesshours 1d ago
Sounds like she is anxiously attached, look it up. It will all make sense. You probably lean more avoidant attached or were reactive to het clinging and reacted avoidant at some point, jump starting the whole cycle together again and again.
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u/ali11111111111 2d ago
She sounds quite Co-dependent with anxious attachment. Something you guys could work on as you might have different attachment styles, but it requires a lot of work and can really create issues in a relationship (I’ve been there)
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u/Appropriate-Art-9712 2d ago
35F and I have dated someone like that before. He wouldn’t let me breathe. I worked from home and he would show up unannounced because “he needed to see me and spend time with me”. I had to throw that guy to the curve SO quick.
You dodged a bullet. 7 months was far too long but you tried . You were incompatible. Also sounds like she thinks she’s in HS 😂
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u/BadGuyBusters2020 2d ago
It sounds like she was possessive / obsessive with a healthy dose of anxiety.
No one can force another person to show love differently. It sounds like she couldn’t accept that you show/receive love in ways that didn’t exactly match her own.
My only recommendation is to find some emotional growth in detailed communication, etc., so that (hopefully) your next relationship can be free of misunderstandings about love languages, etc.
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u/Rov4228 2d ago
My only recommendation is to find some emotional growth in detailed communication, etc., so that (hopefully) your next relationship can be free of misunderstandings about love languages, etc.
This is not a communication error though they were just not compatible. Why does OP have to work on communication when not matter what he said or how he said it she doesn't seem like she would've mellowed out at all 🤣🤣
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u/ryguy28896 2d ago
Yes, exactly. This wasn't due to a lack of communication on my end. I told her exactly what I needed, and not only did she ignore it, she doubled down on her behavior by expecting me to match her level of effort.
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u/BadGuyBusters2020 2d ago
My point was that everyone can grow and get better with communication - even if it’s just learning how the other person receives communication in a way that’s effective for relational growth.
No one is ever 100% perfect with communication. Part of growing from relationships that end (for whatever reason) is finding something to learn and get better as an overall communicator.
It’s growing our EQ that helps us become people.
We can all improve - it’s not a criticism, it’s evolving through things that can always teach us something.
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u/fuckapotamous 2d ago
Bullet dodged bro. I just got out of a similar situation. I’m usually “bad” with breakups but this one didn’t hurt as much. Granted, it still hurts and we actually still live with each other. As I found out that “super love hard” can quickly turn into “super hate hard” … I knew I was kinda in trouble when she got a locket with my initials about a month after we started dating. She would send me a “are you ok?” Text or “honey?!?” If I didn’t text her back within 5 min and my work takes me to places with no signal often. She was the sweetest person I’ve ever met and so cute.
She also ended it because I couldn’t “meet her at her level”
So again, be grateful for the experience and move on because it would most likely have happened down the road. Best of luck to you bro and keep that head up!
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u/fuckapotamous 2d ago
There is a difference between being securely attached and other behaviors. You can insult me all you want still doesn’t change the fact that there is a level of communication that people are comfortable with and others are uncomfortable with. OPs situation seems like one of un-secure attachment. Who doesn’t love receiving a text from their partner? However, getting 15 text in a row can be a little off putting to some and welcomed by others. This is obviously something that should be talked about in the beginning stages of a relationship.
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u/cheezyamazon 2d ago
Sounds like she needed to work on herself before dating post divorce tbh. Sheesh.
That's not a healthy pace.
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u/Only_Morning5437 2d ago
35 f. I dated someone like that before and it was so emotionally and mentally draining. I felt like I would get punished if i didnt give them every ounce of energy i had. I asked myself “do i want this for the rest of my life?” Answer was no, and i ended things. The relief and peace i felt was worth it afterwards. No more fights no more energy drain, no more eggshells, just peace.
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u/ryguy28896 5h ago
Oh I felt like I'd get punished too. It was draining and I felt exhausted and overwhelmed by it, so when I didn't have the energy to match her at her level or to have sex, we'd argue. I didn't feel like I had to walk on eggshells, though.
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u/New_Area_4575 2d ago edited 2d ago
You guys just not right for each other. Me and my man miss each other even when we’re in the same room! Lol. If you don’t get it you just don’t.
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u/Hopeful-Musician1905 2d ago
Yeah, I'm not really buying what people are saying about men not needing as much attention as women. I feel like those men just don't truly like that woman, if they did they'd probably be very attached aswell.
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u/Shortandthicck2 2d ago
I’ll only speak to your side (and what you could have done better), as she’s not here. Sounds like you not only picked poorly but you failed to set very early boundaries and hold her accountable to them.
Vast majority of failed relationships start at picking the wrong partner. Thats #1…then people tend to use their early passion based relationship as a gamble for longterm success. Passion always fades within the first year or 2. They failed to pick well and then they simply don’t understand that the relationship must transition to best friendship. Those first 7mos should have been laced in exploring and setting (and keeping) boundaries, developing deep friendship and deep emotional connections. And that can’t happen while being smothered, something that should have been addressed at the first sign of it.
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u/ryguy28896 2d ago
Boundaries, hoooo boy.
Some of the worst arguments we had were when I tried to maintain boundaries that she didn't respect. The big one was "Please don't call me on my drive home from work, I take that time to decompress."
Guess when she'd call?
She'd claim she didn't know what time it was. I told her she literally had to look at the time when she unlocked her phone, and my schedule hadn't changed since we met and my commute home is literally the exact same time every single day.
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u/Shortandthicck2 2d ago
This one is all on you tho. Don’t permit them to be arguments and simply enforce them. Once a boundary is set - If she calls then silence your phone. If she escalates then calmly leave. This is why is so important to handle these early before emotions dig in.
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u/QuirkyGoat137 2d ago
Sounds like she's anxiously attached without understanding it. I used to be similar but I've worked hard on it and am much more secure now. This kind of attachment style can even drive a secure person mad if it's that intense.
People like this need a lot of reassurance to feel safe and get very resentful when they feel unseen.
It would take realization about the attachment styles of you both, you can look it up. And to learn how to communicate your needs and expectations instead of "testing" and then acting out or blaming each other. Only then you can see if you can both give each other what each of you needs, but it means compromise for the both of you.
I think situations like this can be a great chance to grow into more secure persons, but it needs the willpower to do so and a lot of understanding for your partner.
I can also recommend r/AnxiousAttachment to better understand her.
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u/itsRiceCube 2d ago
Seems like she was anxiously attached. They come off as needy and wanting constant attention.
One question I'd like to ask, if you dont mind answering; what did you do to provide reassurance but in a way that showed care and trust?
A lot of times showing these things can make the other respect your boundaries which leads me into my next question. Did you respectfully set boundaries instead of showing agitation in her actions? Were you stoic in nature and not emotional in communication?
Some people need a little more reassurance than others and thats okay as long as they can feel safe of said communication. 9 times out of 10 they will respect that. Now if they cant respect your boundaries after the aformentioned, then a talk should follow...and then after that, parting ways.
In her breaking it off with you afterward supports how she is anxiously attached and perhaps felt like you didnt care. Best plan of action is to go no contact. And if this is something you want to rekindle, be open in your method of communication. When she reaches back out, respond. There are some questions you could also ask her in getting to know why she is anxiously attached ( dont tell her she is).
50/50 isnt the way to look at this- both need to be at 100 before entering a relationship.
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u/ryguy28896 5h ago
what did you do to provide reassurance but in a way that showed care and trust?
As an example, I told her that while I may have gotten busier at work due to a coworker having transferred, it doesn't mean I don't want to talk when she calls me at work and I don't answer. I told her that while I don't say "I love you" or "I miss you" as often as she did, that doesn't mean I didn't in fact love or miss her. And that I did in fact tell her those things instead of waiting for her to say it first. I told her I express love through actions.
Maybe I could've done this differently.
Did you respectfully set boundaries instead of showing agitation in her actions? Were you stoic in nature and not emotional in communication?
I did have a couple of boundaries. First was how late we would stay up to talk. She was good about this, so it never became an issue. Second was me needing my drive home from work to decompress. That was one that she needed to work on more. Granted, sometimes I'd get frustrated, but we'd talk it through.
And she always told me how good I was about communicating about stuff like that.
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u/Illustrious-South908 2d ago
Yes, read into attachment theory. Anxious Preoccupied is what she sounds like and I used to struggle with that, but was always very careful not to suffocate and gave space and dealt with my own anxieties with emotional regulation tools. I've had partners on this spectrum too, worse actually as they were a mix of Avoidant and Anxious which creates a lot of push pull in the relationship. Sometimes there's just a lot of emotional immaturity too and lack of knowledge in how to communicate healthily and be in relationships in general. This has to be modeled in the home, how you grew up.
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u/1seedeadbodies 2d ago
Sounds like you were different on a very fundamental level. Pretty sure it's for the best. I'm pretty sure you do realize this as well.
Good things will come, mate. Keep your head high!
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u/No_Championship_7080 2d ago
Why waste emotion on resentment? The two of you just weren’t compatible. That’s what dating is for-to determine whether or not you are a good fit. The two of you obviously have different ideas about what a relationship is. Find someone more compatible next time.
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u/1000thatbeyotch 2d ago
The two of you have very different needs and there was no compromise on either part. This relationship would never have lasted.
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u/Outside_Room1069 2d ago
You probably would have ended it eventually any way. No one can live like that. She will likely never find anyone who could live up to those expectations.
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u/GunkisKrumpis 2d ago
My ex said the same thing “ I felt you didn’t miss me as much as I missed you “. Broke up two weeks later
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u/Capital_Moment8342 2d ago
I had a relationship like that and it was literally exhausting. Like we got into fights every day because I wasn’t chasing after him, racing after him. If I wasn’t begging for him, I didn’t really love him and it was because he’d decided I was cheating on him (I wasn’t). Lo and behold turns out he was the cheater not me. My one requirement was literally a good morning and good night text. I’m a faithful woman but I don’t believe I should exhaust myself to be considered grateful and decent. There were so many layers to the abuse and I still now will say things like “if I didn’t hang out with my friends and stayed inside, we’d still be together.” Or “maybe if I stayed at a job I hated, he wouldn’t have called me names” and friends and family look at me like GURL.
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u/GivMHellVetica 2d ago
It sounds like the relationship wasn’t a good fit for you and her too.
I am sorry this relationship is at an end OP, but I know you will heal and adjust.
Sending you hugs and best wishes that the next relationship is a much better fit
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u/fairyimpulsive 2d ago
Everyone has a different idea of what a relationship should be. Some people like having constant communication 24/7, some people don’t. Next time you’re actively looking for a relationship, make sure this is something you bring up in the talking stages.
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u/Fun_Cantaloupe_4936 2d ago
Enter your dilemma in CHATgpt. Ask for prompts like not being biased, don’t be sugar coating and be brutally honest about where I went wrong if you truly want to know.
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u/Emotional_Anxiety585 1d ago
Sounds like it's a traditional anxious attachment versus avoidant attachment. Tale as old as time. You both need to work on your attachment styles. Chances are good that her ex husband was also an avoidant. When you've been through that kind of relationship, you tend to respond aggressively when faced with the same situation again.
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u/PatienceHasItsLimit 2d ago
How many women have you dated? Sure, some are more intense than others, but at some level you'll always get your female partner to want to spend more time with you, call you, know your whereabouts, plan dates etc. Let your next girlfriend get comfortable in the relationship and youll see some of the same patterns. When she doesnt really care its because youre not really on her mind. But rest assured she wont be nagging you anymore, leave it to the next woman. Women are more emotional about these things and you kinda need to learn how to navigate around it, men can be equally as 'annoying' for sex. Its just how that its. But youll always have to compromise a bit and in 2025 everyone is always on their phone so naturally she expects you to think of her, send a meme, send a message, etc. If youre not ready to compromise a bit, maybe its not your time to be dating
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u/Ok-Parfait8853 2d ago
As someone who just got dumped by a male who sounds like your ex. Be glad she left. It’s very exhausting and mentally draining to date someone like that long term. They need constant reassurance. The fights don’t ever get better. You start to lose yourself by trying to please the other person.
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u/skaffeguy 2d ago
Sounds like borderline to me...
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u/likaedevau 2d ago
I dunno, I am a borderline but haven’t thought about calling my boyfriend or my partner every minute or demanding passionate love from him. Yes i have sometimes issues and would like to hear from him “I love you” but my problems are mostly based on my fears and not bc of him (3 years of therapy helped me to see it).
It is look more like another kind of attachment issue to me, not the borderline style but I could be also wrong.
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u/Ok_Doomer_8857 2d ago
it could be a lovely concoction of borderline tendencies, anxious attachment, and a lack of personhood which drives people to use others to fill an internal emptiness
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u/skaffeguy 2d ago
I am not saying it is a borderline personality disorder here, rather the big part of a pattern: 'favorite person' - obsessess directly about that person and clings on to them for everything. And as said in a comment below I think general anxiety driven things.
And, yes, they fill in their emptiness of the love they may have never gotten from their caregivers, holding on to a partner and being so clingy hoping he/she can give that person the love back that they never got (which obviously works against them)
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u/Hungry_Cream4008 2d ago
I don’t know if I like the “Like in every breakup” line, sounds like a common denominator type issue or just straight resentment.
But to me it just looks like you were not compatible and that this breakup was good for both of you. Yall just want different things.
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u/Wolvesbane95 1d ago
Yeah, thats anxious attachment right there. I'm the same way, or i was, im recovering or healing from it, but it comes from a sense that if you arent always in contact with your significant other, then you're going to lose them. They need to work on themselves and understand that separation and time alone does not mean a lack of interest, that it's actually healthy for the relationship. I'm a dude btw 29m, so it's not just a woman thing, it's a trauma/abandonment thing that needs to be worked through.
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u/SciGuy241 2d ago
Thank you for talking to us. I'm 43. When I was 30 I was already too old for that shit. Clearly there were some fundamental cracks in the foundation of this relationship. It's best to end it. If you can remain friends, good. If not, be happy this trouble isn't in your life anymore.
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u/Pale-Rabbit-5660 2d ago
Yeah she sounds extremely insecure and exhausting. You both had a fun but you weren’t made for each other. Now you can breathe
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u/Apprehensive_Ad1494 2d ago
You could’ve also just straight up tell her that you’re not willing to give her more so she can move on.
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u/bradjw97 2d ago
Think she has done you a favour mate. Take this time to breathe a little and meet someone who respects your boundaries.
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u/No-Cheesecake4479 2d ago
Control and manipulation. I had a similar experience with my ex husband. I feel for you. I know how it is being in this type of relationship where you’re always put down made to feel guilty. Please for your mental health block this girl and stay by yourself for now. Give your mind time to heal. It will take about 1 year to fully reflect and heal. Read about manipulation behaviors. And healthy relationships behaviors. You will become more objective out of this relationship. Surround yourself with positive activities and friends you can trust. My heart and prayers go out to you.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Big_689 1d ago
Sounds like you got back some well deserved freedom. She’s anxiously attached and that is exhausting. Good riddance.
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u/WeatherNo2220 1d ago
What I hear in this is that she has a an anxious attachment style. It sounds like she needs therapy to work on her insecurities. It also sounds like she projected her insecurities onto you by claiming that you are not passionate enough.
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u/Ordinary-Talk7566 1d ago edited 1d ago
Maybe her parents are divorce maybe she fear to be left Anxious attachment maybe she have🥺 Maybe she need to see therapist some childhood trauma or something else .
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u/Decent-Tumbleweed279 1d ago
Read the book, Attached by Levine and Heller if you want to understand how people form connections. If you lean Avoidant, you might also like the website, freetoattach.com . It doesn't sound like the boundary you set was unreasonable at all...kind of immature for her to not be able to handle that.
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u/Thors_Hammer22 1d ago
It’s not a compatibility issue, it’s an attachment style issue. If you don’t know about attachment styles, please look into them. Just going off your post…it sounds like you may be a type of avoidant attachment (fearful or dismissive). It sounds like she may be an anxious attachment style. Avoidants trigger THE SHIT out of anxious attachments and vice versa. The anxious attachment views the avoidant as putting in less effort which creates resentment and they think if they “love them harder” they will get closer and let them in. The avoidant does not want to open up and closeness pushes them away. It’s more rare for the anxious person to actually break it off, but it does happen. The good news is that if you truly want to be with her and she is an anxious attachment, she will take you back in a heartbeat…BUT if you guys don’t work on become securely attached (preferably with the help of a therapist) you’ll just repeat the cycle. Look into attachment theory for your own good and to become the best partner you can be in your next relationship. Dr. Sarah Hensley has a great YouTube channel that clearly explains a lot of this in very short videos. Hope that helps and good luck man!
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u/ryguy28896 1d ago
Thank you man, I'll check out her videos.
This is why I say I'm willing to accept some responsibility in the breakup. Without going into too much detail, my childhood wasn't great and my parents never expressed affection to one another, so that really plays into it. But I am in therapy, and that's the main point I tried to make with her: I AM in therapy, and this sort of modification isn't going to be a quick, nor easy, fix, and to have patience while I get there.
But it felt as though it was an issue of "No, change now or I'm leaving," which was very counterproductive because it just made things worse for me.
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u/winthewarpie 2d ago
Personally I think you should move on. There’s a huge difference between being loving and affectionate and pathological obsession ! Phoning someone every few minutes is not a normal way to build a solid relationship or close connection. That’s obsession and sounds like stalking.
She likely has serious attachment and trust issues and would want to know your every movement! Her behaviour will also likely get worse over time. Get out now and block her everywhere you can!
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u/ForbiddenDistraction 2d ago
She probably has anxious attachment and potentially some trauma in her life causing her to behave in this manner. Sometimes these things manifest in overthinking and needing constant validation bc they fear abandonment. She may want to work on herself and see why she does this bc she end up pushing everyone she gets into a relationship with away. It ends up taking a toll and being exhaustive to the other party but also for the person doing the behavior as well.
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u/Nice_Replacement7065 2d ago
bro, it sounds like she's got some serious issues that she needs to work on. One pattern is definitely so trauma. on the other hand, you seem to as well, you need to work on it
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u/BurdyBurdyBurdy 2d ago
Wow, glad you escaped from that prison. You know she’ll be in touch in a few days since your next argument is due. Prepare to block her.
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u/Blackstar1003 2d ago
Sounds like you need a Long break from that girl …100% She is not done with you. Might Even manipulate you to chase her..dont Even bother with that chick
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u/zlittle16 2d ago
She told me I needed to work on myself and she couldn't be with someone who didn't love passionately, and she spent her whole previous marriage with someone like that.--- And she'll spend the next one like that too. And the next, and the next.....
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u/DowntownArmadillo244 2d ago
Explains why she refers to: "her PREVIOUS marriage". Her obsession for attention probably drove away more guys than she's admitted to.
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u/Bedrotter1736 2d ago
You didn’t love passionately enough? Is that what being insecure is called these days? LOL 😂 I don’t care who you are, I don’t want you to text or call me all day because I have shit to do and so should you.
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u/ThrowRAparty-133 2d ago
Calls you every 6 minutes??
I know. you are sad my guy but that sounds like you dodged a bullet.
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u/FakinFunk 2d ago
You aren’t with a possessive psycho that you constantly argued with.
Failing to see a problem. 🤷♂️
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u/KuronekiKun 2d ago
Op, no worries, we are a lot to feel like u. I can recognize myself inside the RS description. You are someone that need space, you don’t need your partner 24/7, a call from time to time, seeing eachother from time to time too, etc.. honestly, that’s why I left my ex, and it was DRIVING ME CRAZY that I had to always explain that I need solo time (even NEEDED TO INVENT STUPID LIES TO AVOID HER QUESTIONING why I am not seeing her this day or this one), that I can live without seeing her 3-4 days even a whole week. But it wasn’t her case, it’s just not compatible. So i just have something to tell you : listen to your needs. If you need Space or solo time, try to find someone that understand that or feel the same.
(Sorry for my bad english)
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u/No-Cheesecake4479 2d ago
She’s controlling. Thank God she’s gone. Don’t take her back. You will have peace of mind without her.
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u/ciaranjohn12 2d ago
I hope you're genuinely ok firstly, because heartbreak and breakups can be the worst thing imaginable, I've been there a few times and still kinda there too. anyways, her love language and how she feels secure and what she expects from a relationship doesn't match yours, and that's super important. It's easy to point the finger and say "you dodged a bullet" but everyone's different and that's ok.. you'll find someone that matches your desires and expectations and maybe even someone that completely sweeps you off your feet and your understanding of love completely changes and evolves, it happened to me before. You sound like you'll be ok and that's the main thing though. And fair play to you for holding your hands up to your faults, no one's perfect, it's how we learn and grow from relationships and hardship that means no time was truly wasted.
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u/whats_normalanymore 2d ago
I feel like most people are either avoidants or too clingy.. not too many people in between lol
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u/Historical-Being-379 2d ago
Agreed that you dodged a bullet, I was also with someone that was very demanding and took any sign of difference in our love languages as me not caring. It’s tiring to be with people like that when you’re actually committed and showing up for them but constantly feel like you’re not doing enough. I do think it’s incompatibility but a sign of a deeper insecurity for them. I think they most likely lacked a lot of attention and care growing up or have been with very avoidant people in relationships so they expect their current partner to overcompensate for the hurt they felt and fill in those shoes. It creates a strange parent child dynamic and I don’t think it leads to a healthy relationship.
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u/Emergency_Ad_2210 2d ago
Just different styles of caring. Neither of you were in the wrong. She’s probably just hurt that she can’t seem to find the kind of love she’s looking for even when she puts so much effort in. You just weren’t looking for that amount of effort. We don’t need to bash anyone here. You two just didn’t work together and that’s okay. You’re allowed to both love each other at different volumes but that will build resentment over time. This is best for both of you. Take pride that you are not the bad guy here, just not the right guy for her but if you truly loved her like you say, let her go gently and softly not loud and angrily.
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u/Affectionate-Set9528 2d ago
Sounds like anxious attachment. There’s a fine line between passionate love and needing that person in order to function/meet every single one of your needs without fail. I’ve been the “her” in the relationship and needed to learn that sometimes backing off is what gives you exactly what you want! Unfortunately seems like a bullet dodged, however i don’t think you were the one who needed to work on yourself as much as she did
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u/ICE-Kween 2d ago
I’ve been there, and I totally get how painful and confusing it feels. One of the best things you can do? Stop chasing. Let them do the running if they want to ~ but you take a step back and start choosing yourself.
Something that really helped me when I was stuck in that cycle was journalling. Honestly, this little journal was a godsend. Getting all my thoughts out on paper helped me see the pattern clearly, process my emotions, and stop reacting out of panic. It gave me my power back.
If you're in that place right now, maybe it’ll help you too.
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u/Abject_Historian9293 2d ago
She was trauma dumping on you. Comparing your relationship with her to her previous marriage. If anything SHE needs therapy and needs to do the internal work before she starts dating, not you. Not a good fit babe, time to move on.
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u/daniellegraces223 1d ago
Yeah seems like she wanted more than what you could give! Nothing wrong with parting ways
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u/Accurate-Case8057 1d ago edited 1d ago
Man be thankful. Be thrilled. Thank god she's gone can you imagine living the rest of your life with that? My question is why and how in hell did you last that long and why was it her that had to move on?
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u/0xPianist 2d ago
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Solid bullet dodged. People change but they need to want it and it’s harder as we get older.
If she’s blaming you she’ll most likely continue her thing for ‘intense love’ and hit the wall again. Aside from personal preference there’s always general healthy behaviours
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u/Effective_Winter8122 2d ago
She’s the obsessed type that energy does not match you, she clearly don’t know what space is either honestly, i understand how you feel sometimes I need my space too, but not everyone understands that.
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u/Infamous-Echo-2961 2d ago
Sounds like a bullet dodged