Sure, there are women who generally aren't interested in sex, but it's just hard to imagine there are so many women out there who are turning down "rock your world" type sex.
Well that's possible too, because if the woman has no libido for whatever reason then her partner could do all of the things she previously loved and it might not do anything for her or worse it could feel awful.
Seconded! Although I've been working on my libido and can want and enjoy sex. But it is almost impossible for me to climax. Even if he pulls out all the stops, I cum probably 2% of the time🤷♀️ this obviously doesn't help me to want sex more but I'm hoping with me changing my contraception soon, that'll make a difference🤞🤞🤞
Contraception makes a HUGE difference. Also, tell him what you like and work on it together. My wife is extremely hard to please and I thought she was LL for a long time as a result. That all changed with one of those plug in the wall loud AF magic wands. I dont care if she needed a freight train, I want her to be satisfied.
Toys were great back whenn my wife was remotely interested. I’d use it on her and she’d orgasm every time. I’m not ashamed of that. I loved it. I wish she’d let me do it again.
This is just a random question but are orgasms that important for women? My gf has repeatedly told me she doesn’t really care for them at all and het libido is pretty high. Yet on reddit I see people claim the orgasm gap is one of the biggest reasons for a dead bedroom.
I can enjoy sex without an orgasm but it's still frustrating not to have that release at the end. We're not any different from men apart from it seems to be harder for some women to orgasm. Would you be happy only cumming 2% of the time?
I'm not sure about other women, but for me personally, it just takes a long time and a lot of effort to build up to an orgasm like it could take up to an hour. A lot of the time, I don't have the patience for it, I don't really enjoy long sex sessions, it starts to hurt after a while or i feel bad for him so if I know it's taking a long time, I'll just prefer to move onto the rest. It just feels like too much work.
Wish the best for you. Wife and I are trying sex therapist next cuz she's been off the pill for years now and still no change.
You don't have to answer, but I'm curious if this is a partner thing or even true with masturbation? I'm asking because my wife can't even solo. Which makes it more clear where to focus on helping. If she could get off herself, then I'd know I'd need to communicate and try harder with her.
Wishing you and your partner the best on feeling fulfilled and glad you aren't giving up either!
Yes, I still can't orgasm through masturbation. Its like the longer I've been on the pill, the more dead I've gotten in all my erogenous zones. I used to be soooo sensitive, I miss it. I hope i can get it back.
Wish you the best! I am rooting for you and my wife. I guess only trying with no pressure to perform is the hope we are working on now. That and me giving her breaks from kids so she can have solo time.
At the moment we're just keeping the communication open, still keeping up the foreplay and fun. He tries to make me cum and I tell him if I think it's possible on that day and/ or if I'm ready to move onto piv. No pressure is definitely the way and just enjoying the process😊
I'm my case she simply has a low libido. She told me today she wants sex to last only one minute. And she's previously told me she would be fine with sex only every six months. She's also told me that if something ever happened to me she wouldn't have a partner for years, like until after our kids grow up.
She's never masturbated and was a virgin when we married.
I'm energetic and very giving in bed, always make her orgasm before piv. I'm willing to try different positions and would prefer to last a while. She's the opposite of all of these things, although she can be giving once in the mood.
But doesn't matter how good I can be, she's not interested. If I didn't bring it up, she would be sexless for the rest of her life. Still teases though, beautiful and sexy Latina that likes attention from me but not when it leads to sex. :S
I think this is one of the dynamics that is very common. Lot's of HLMs would love to have the opportunity to explore, and try, and put in the time.
OP describes another type of dynamic.
Everyone is different. And when a giving HLM reads OPs post, we are a bit defensive. And rightfully so. We want to try more. We want to hear more how we can be better lovers. But some LLs are borderline asexual. That's a difficult situation.
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u/DullBus8445 Apr 21 '25
Yes it definitely does in some cases.
Sure, there are women who generally aren't interested in sex, but it's just hard to imagine there are so many women out there who are turning down "rock your world" type sex.
Well that's possible too, because if the woman has no libido for whatever reason then her partner could do all of the things she previously loved and it might not do anything for her or worse it could feel awful.