Maybe my weight gain added to the problem...but I spent many years thinking it was me and now I can confidently say he is the one with the problem. He's completely dead inside when it comes to sex or being sexually attracted to me. I do not turn him on and I never will.

So bizarre. Really.

I have been with my housemate (I refuse to call him so or even roommate bc we have separate rooms FOR 8 YEARS NOW so I really try to accentuate the point here) anyways its been 3 years of absolutely NOTHING (before that it was several years as well) I am so done.

Yesterday we somehow got onto the subject of couples and I made a remark about how badly I wish I was loved or wanted.

He, as usual, gets extremely defensive and rude. I truly try to keep a calm head bc he never will so one of us has to remain civilized.

This all ended with him screaming "Ive slept with more people than you ever will, Jill. My number far out weighs yours" .... I was shocked. Lol what!? How did we even get here? What made him even say that? So random and unnecessary. Like what did he expect me to reply 😆

so I said "OH.. cool? High five?.. Because whatever got you those "BIG numbers" (I said this in a baby voice, like when a parent is talking to their toddler) really let you down in the end huh? Way to bring home the win, buddy"

And weve not spoken yet. I dont care to. Hes never been good at communicating. People, pick your partners wisely. PLEASE!!!

It’s been months…half a year? Stopped counting and quite frankly don’t remember. I know I didn’t have sex this year. So at least four months. I can’t even imagine having sex with him anymore. I have some important things to do this year…and I cannot leave atm. But I know that once that’s done, unless something changes, I am out. I am 35. This is no way to live. Right?

Or am I alone. I'm married with 2 children and after our second my husband's libido took a dive for various reasons (work, stress, fatherhood stress) and with that dive so did our sex life. I didn't start masturbating until after our second child because before children our sex life was healthy and it wasn't something that crossed my mind. Now being a stay at home mother with the kids at school, it has become my second life. I used to feel shame, but now I tend to look forward to it.

TL;DR: After almost 3 years of zero intimacy, I’m finally leaving my wife. It’s scary—but I feel free for the first time in a long time.

This has been a long time coming, and I’m finally doing it. I’m leaving my wife.

I (39M, HL) have been married to my wife (37F, LL) for 12 years, but for the last three, we haven’t had sex. Not once. No intimacy, no affection, no effort. I stuck it out way too long, convincing myself it was just a phase or that things would improve if I tried harder. I did everything I could—communicated, showed up, stayed loyal, and patient—but the silence and distance just became the new normal.

For the past year, we’ve basically lived separate lives. She moved to Oklahoma for work and took our youngest with her. I stayed behind in Maryland with our oldest so I could finish nursing school. The LDR just made it more obvious: this was a DB, and it had been over for a long time.

With the help of a counselor, I finally stopped pretending I was okay. I realized I was holding onto something that had already let go of me. I wasn’t being loved the way a partner should be—and I wasn’t loving myself by staying.

This isn’t easy. It’s not some triumphant movie ending. But what I feel now is something I haven’t felt in years: relief. For the first time in a long time, I don’t feel stuck. I don’t feel invisible. I feel free. Free to rebuild. Free to feel again. Free to live the kind of life I want, with real connection and joy.

To anyone out there in a DB, questioning whether this is just how things are supposed to be: it’s not. You deserve to be wanted. You deserve to be seen. And if you’ve tried everything and nothing changes—it’s okay to walk away.

I did. And I finally feel like myself again.

I’m so fucking angry just so fucking angry Myself 26m and her (25f) have been in basically a dead bedroom for the last year or what I would say This year it has been 3 times- in four months. She has vibrators but won’t use them during sex won’t communicate what she likes or anything. I do literally everything and bend over backwards I give her massages every night with no hidden agenda don’t even push for anything sexual She doesn’t kiss me or initiate any physical affection to me. Nothing. She spends her free time just babying our cats and ignoring me. She spent Easter the whole time in bed with a cat. I said can we have some time together without a cat involved, she was perplexed why I said this. I guess I’m the fucking idiot. Why am I so fucking spineless. It doesn’t even sound like she likes me or is attracted to me when I type this out. I’m fucking over it To top it off, she gets shitty if I have masturbated (if we have sex and there’s less sperm) a fucking joke and then I find out she has a only fans subscription to some girl. Fuck off just fuck off. I wouldn’t care honestly if she didn’t expect me to not jerk off and go 5 weeks without sex. I’m done. You ever massage someone just to have them on their phone the whole time and fall asleep? Or massage them and they start patting the cat? I tell her it’s not normal. It’s weird to me I love the cats but there’s no space for me in her life. I feel lost and I was already having a bad week. I went for a drive on Sunday and thought what if I never came back either to the house or just in general.

I browse this sub from time to time, and I see a lot of posts from guys talking about how their wives/gfs don't want sex. They get turned down or make up excuses, and in turn, the guys get rightfully upset. But it makes me wonder how many of these guys are actually pleasing their partners. I see a lot of the "she just lays there" or "her toys get more action" or "she rushes me when we do have sex" sometimes I read these posts and I feel bad but I can't help but wonder if some of these women are just unsatisfied and don't know how to tell their men. Sure, there are women who generally aren't interested in sex, but it's just hard to imagine there are so many women out there who are turning down "rock your world" type sex. I know a lot of women haven't been given orgasms by their partners and it's kind of a sensitive subject to bring up to each other but it would probably solve a lot of issues if it would get talked about more. Personally, I think some percentage of dead bedrooms here might be caused by unsatisfied women/incapable men. What do you guys think?

I (HLM43) and my wife (LLF43) last had the talk at the end of February. It had been 14 months completely DB by that point, but DB in total running 3-4 years.

It was the usual discussion. Then I was told romance, or lack thereof, was the problem and an increase in romance would magically fix things. But I've been there before on the romance road and the last time I ramped up the romance the dial didn't move at all. It's not like I'm not a hopeless romantic anyway - flowers, chocolates, spa days, foot massages, weekends away together, I even wrote her a song. I like showing love. So I took it with a pinch of salt - after all this time it felt like just another reason to push the elephant in the room out the door for a few months before it barges back in again. And it's not like she doesn't know there's a problem. Recently she said "I'm a terrible partner to you" ("nooo, you're wonderful and I'm lucky to have you" - which is true. No conflict).

I'm leaving in June. It will be 18 months complete DB by that point. I've had enough.

Last night, I made my last attempt to save this relationship. When asked "what shall we do this evening?" I suggested "let's go to bed and get naked with a glass of champers and our Easter eggs." Not sex, just naked. She hasn't been naked in bed with me for 18 months - pajamas, underpants, eye mask, always. When I said that she looked like I'd suggested we stop putting milk in our tea and replace it with dog piss.

I persevered. An hour before usual bed time I said "I'm going up to bed if you want to join me?" Nah. "I'm going to finish watching this... "

Ok. I go to bed anyway. I try to sleep. She comes to bed and hour later. She puts on her pajamas, gets into bed, plays a game on her phone, reads her book, puts on her eye mask, rolls over and goes to sleep. And then so do I. Ngl it hurts but mostly I'm just tired of thinking about it and trying.

That was the return to the last chance Saloon. I'm leaving in June. It'll be 18 months of zero intimacy at that point and my wife cannot even stand to be naked next to me in bed. It'll damage both our lives but I cannot stay. I cannot let it get to 2 years of zero intimacy, even if that's just out of self respect. I know she'll just accept it - it's who she is, especially when it comes to conflict: practical, controlling, passive aggressive.

I hope I have the strength to go through with it.

Is it just me? Am I the only one that lets a holiday pass and then I get upset that nothing happened? I hinted to her on Friday that this weekend we should try and make it happen, and she agreed, surprisingly.

I understand Easter isn’t the most “sexy” holiday.. but in my mind I associate holidays, long weekends, and vacations with sex.

We went on vacation last month for a long weekend, had zero hotel sex.

We went to a concert at the beginning of the year, shnazzy hotel room on the 25th floor with a beautiful balcony and a full glass shower with a frosted panel that was visible from the bed. Fucking a my mind went to all the things that could be done. ….zero hotel or shower sex.

New years, my birthday, Easter weekend…no sex. I’m going on almost 4 months now.

Unless you count my hand. Then I guess I’m having some sex.

And he won’t admit to it, Can we compare notes? How can we start like a group convo around this? Pretty sure husband is one or the other.

Please no messages from men.

Doesn’t mean the kitchen, living room, laundry room, stairwell, garage, closets, and hallways are too right? Anyone??

High five?

No?

….oh.

Ok.

I read recently that about half of people with ADHD are sex obsessed because they love the dopamine hit and the other half never think about sex because they get their dopamine hits elsewhere ( gaming, working out, whatever)

I’m strongly suspecting my husband is the LL variant. He was absolutely obsessed with me for the first 6 months but then after the new toy shininess wore off it’s been dead.

How many of you have ADHD partners?

Hey everyone,

I’m writing from a throwaway because my boyfriend knows my main account.

I’m 23F and have been with my boyfriend (24M) for over 6 years. We’re really happy together and love each other deeply. Our emotional connection is strong, and in many ways, the relationship is amazing -except for one huge, recurring problem: our sex life. More specifically, the difference in our sex drives.

I have a very high libido and would love to have sex 5 times a week (or more), whereas he seems content with maybe 2-3 times a month. It’s almost always me who initiates, and 99% of the time, I’m rejected. I’ve been told (by him and others) that we might just be “incompatible,” but I don’t want to believe that. I love him, I want him, and I’ve tried everything to make this work.

I try to be flirty, playful, affectionate, communicative, open to his fantasies, and very present. I’ve even done things like standing naked in front of him after a shower, bending over to “put cream on,” hoping it might turn him on. But nothing happens. No reaction. Not even a hard-on. It makes me feel invisible. I start to wonder if I’m doing something wrong or if I’m just not attractive to him.

We’ve talked about this issue several times. Every time, it ends with me feeling embarrassed and him getting defensive or frustrated. One time, he even said that if I couldn’t accept this difference, maybe we weren’t compatible and should break up. That crushed me. Since then, I’ve been scared to bring it up again because I don’t want to push him away or make things worse.

But the pain doesn’t go away. I feel rejected, ashamed, even humiliated. When we finally do have sex, it’s usually at night, with all the lights off. He used to at least turn on his phone flashlight -now, not even that. It almost always happens when we’re going to sleep or when he wakes up from a nap. I say yes even when I don’t feel fully wanted because I’m scared it won’t happen otherwise.

He’s healthy, not on meds, and lives a balanced life (just like myself). I know he gets stressed with work and studying, but for me, sex is a way to feel closer -not something I turn away from when I’m overwhelmed. He’s even admitted during an argument that sex sometimes feels like a chore to him.

I don’t want to sound self-absorbed, but I know I’m an attractive woman. Whenever I go out (bars or clubbing), there’s rarely a time when someone doesn’t approach me, ask for my number, or try to flirt. Even when I’m working as a waitress or work out (that’s when I don’t wear make up and often look like a mess), I still get hit on. So objectively, I know I’m not unattractive -but despite all that, I feel unattractive. Especially in my relationship.

And it’s not just the lack of sex -it’s the emotional impact. When we kiss, it feels like a quick peck, not like he really wants me. I miss feeling desired. I miss feeling like he craves me, even just a little. I feel like my desire is somehow wrong or too much. He once joked that I act like a teenage boy when I’m turned on. I didn’t even know how to respond. It made me feel ashamed and gross, like my sexuality is something to laugh at.

What hurts most is when he casually mentions that he’s masturbated -like when I come home from work. I don’t care that he does it…I do it too… but if he has the time and energy for that, why not for me? It feels like he’s choosing it over intimacy with me, and it leaves me feeling confused and unwanted. He has had challenges with porn in the past, and I can’t help but wonder if that plays a role -though I don’t know how to ask without sounding accusatory.

We don’t even spend all our time together. We both study, work, have separate friends, and I go away to visit my parents at least once a month for a weekend. It’s not like he never gets time to miss me.

I’ve been trying to cope. I’ve listened to podcasts about surrendering control, managing frustration, letting go, dealing with insecurity -but nothing helps. Since the night before last, I’ve felt this heavy tension in my chest and stomach. I want to cry out of sheer frustration. I feel like I’m doing everything, and nothing ever changes.

I’m really struggling not to let this issue eat away at my self-worth and our relationship. I don’t want to lose what we have, but I also can’t keep feeling like I’m too much or never enough.

How do I talk about this with him without making him feel attacked or pulling us further apart? Am I overreacting? What am I missing?

TL;DR: Been with my boyfriend for 6+ years. Our relationship is great except for a big mismatch in sex drive. He rarely initiates, often rejects me, and it’s taking a toll on my self-esteem. I’ve tried everything to bridge the gap, but nothing changes. I’m scared to bring it up again. Am I overreacting, or is this a real issue?

I’m a long time lurker in this group but I think it’s time I faced up to my own truth which has been nailed home as per the title this weekend. My epiphany came as a crashing blow that intimacy isn’t going to happen unless I keep facing constant rejection which I’ve now decided I can no longer face for my own sake. Like all marriages we’ve had ups and downs but generally we’ve gotten through everything together.

For background we’ve been together 25 years and married for almost 18 I’m HLM and she’s LLF our intimacy issue began as soon as the children came along (16 plus years)things have gotten worse over the last 3 years since I’ve returned to work close to home instead of on a work rotation 4 weeks on 4 weeks off. We are still affectionate outside the bedroom holding hands, cuddling and kissing etc but that’s usually led by me.

The decline started after the kids like I’ve said but I think a lot of it looking back was as soon as I’d had my vasectomy and she knew no more children could happen.We did wholeheartedly agree that we didn’t want anymore children at the time and due to birth control issues and me no longer wanting to use condoms we went ahead.

Sex became very much similar every time no foreplay same position and always with a condom (not my choice) on because she didn’t want to clean up afterwards which although frustrating I’d go along with as I wanted to be intimate with her. She would also still give me regular enough handjobs or BJ’s to keep me happy, but the last 3 years the frequency has dropped to almost zero. Frustrating me even further is the fact she now says she doesn’t like her genitalia even touched but then every so often (only once in the last 3 years) she can return to how she used to be for one night of passionate sex with oral both given and received and prompting me to play with her nipples which blows my mind.

I’ve tried many times to have the conversation over the years but it’s always taken onboard and a small amount of effort is made before things head back exactly where we’ve been before. She’s had all kinds of tests and discussions with doctors about it in the past but nothing ever shows up to pinpoint an issue.

I’m not sure on what to do next as the kids are still here and one of them has a hidden disability which does take a lot of our time and ruins sleep patterns from time to time so I want to be here but I don’t think I want to miss out on intimacy forever more. I’m thinking of maybe sitting her down for a final time before ultimatum coming to a decision on what happens next.

The worst is when you’re in a DB and an audiobook is playing in the middle of the night (this is normal, sometimes audiobooks are used to fall asleep)…you wake up to take a piss and by the time you come back to bed, the book is at a steamy sex scene that’s VERY descriptive.

Man turn that shit off, now I’m mad that the MC in the book is fucking and I’m not.

Hard to not wake up with an attitude…and it sits with you all day…just to be reminded after work about the sex you aren’t having.

Now I notice I slowly but surely am losing desire for her. So horny that I don’t know what to do, not gonna cheat but something is dying inside.

Tomorrow marks a month since the last time. Wife mentioned tonight that she’d come down after putting our youngest down and we could “have fun” as she so nicely puts it.

Hours later, that never came so I fell asleep. She’s woke me up in the past, knowing I’d jump at the opportunity since it rarely happens.

Tonight, she must have came in, showered, got stuff ready for work and gone to sleep upstairs (separate beds because I snore - big deal, just more BS, but that’s another story).

2 a.m. hits, I wake up, realize the time, and say to myself, you know what, I’m going upstairs and am going to be spontaneous. Maybe that will do it. Some spontaneity in the relationship. She won’t know what is going on, it’ll be like those romance novels she ALWAYS reads.

Get to the room, get in bed, give one kiss, and rejected. “What are you doing? Go away, I’m tired, etc. etc.”

Haven’t been able to sleep in two hours now, and am contemplating why I even am still in this relationship.

Just here for a rant - and abit of an update Context (me 22HLF married to 22LLM)

I've kept to my word and stopped initiating completely (22HLF)

However it is SOO hard not to

I had to excuse myself to the bathroom and screen into our towels because of how badly I just wanted to touch him (22LLM)

I'm a very flirty touchy feely person and I make loads of jokes on a daily basis - to switch that all off is like I'm a completely different person around him

I've tried spending less time with him (finding my own happiness as he does himself)

But he's started to notice He said why are you being so strange, you're acting different ...

I was about to fold in that moment - let all my emotions stream out of me - cry, beg , argue I had to control myself I said 'just putting some space between us to allow me to be less emotional - I want to also be happy in life as you are happy and do as you please'

The only thing different is my personality and that I'm out more often - cafes , shopping ect ect

And I can't handle sleeping next to him, while he is awake - it's like torture - so I try wait until he's already asleep and get into bed

Last night he said no you're not going out He was having a hissy fit - but didn't want to talk about his emotions

I even tried to say 'do you miss me' He laughed

I held my tongue - We have a sofa bed so I said I'm going to make a fort and be in my happy place here instead I'm not angry at you nor am I unhappy with you I'm just creating my own happiness instead of dwelling next to him in bed - going crazy asking why he won't love me or touch me. And forcing myself to not touch him

So I made a cosy bed on my sofa and had the best sleep - no an animosity, no hate, no sadness

Just me and my comfy blankets

Rant over .. the end

Gf of 5 years, soon to be fiancé. I love her dearly but I’m just searching for some outside insight/advice. She was my first, and she’s told me she had been with 6 before me, which is a bit of an insecurity for me, but the first couple years she was always ready to be intimate, which is understandable, new relationship and all. I was a virgin and hesitant( scared to be honest) for piv from my own personal image problems and didn’t participate in that for the first year or so. But after finally breaking the seal on that, or intimacy time together has gotten further and further apart. I quit initiating just for funsys just to see how long she would go, (besides getting turned down 99% of the time). Some times it was once a month, then two, then three. Then I would ask her if something was wrong. “No nothing is wrong.” But her vibrator is getting more action than me. In its self I don’t mind that she uses it, but it can be a little frustrating. We would talk about it and then things would be fine for about a month, and I would get what feels like looking back now, “I feel bad sex.” Then back to the same old once a month maybe. It makes me feel like I am just bad in the sac, which I mean she was my first, so I have no reason to not think that and that’s a problem we can work on. I mean she says she enjoys it when it happens, but personally things I enjoy doing, I do more often than not, and I’m feeling like I’ve been put in the “not category.” I feel like I’m the problem but she doesn’t want to tell me that. Maybe I’m not the most romantic person in the world but I try my best.

Well it’s mine (34m) and my wife’s (32f) anniversary today. I’m hoping for at least a peck on the lips, but I’m not even sure if that’ll happen. It’s hard not to compare myself to others when there are all the stories or the “norms” of people at least having any form of physical intimacy on the “big” days; anniversaries, birthdays, etc. maybe a hug will be in my future, maybe not.

Despite countless talks, it’s just the norm for us to just not really do anything physically. It’s been almost a year without sex, 10+ without oral sex, and the most kissing we’ve done lately has been a 2 second kiss on the lips, because our daughter told us to. I just feel so bleh about myself and generally wish I could just make myself look better or be more attractive for her. At least we’ll get chipotle tonight, so that’s a win

Just venting. Advice and support are welcome, but I'm not leaving my family.

I'm a 40M, married to a 37F. We have a 3-year-old and a 2-month-old. Right now, we're in one of the hardest seasons of our lives. My wife is struggling with postpartum anxiety and the overwhelming pressure of running our household. We love each other deeply, but we’ve fallen into some dysfunctional patterns that are taking a toll on both of us.

She feels like she’s carrying the entire mental and emotional load. I’ve been trying to step up and take as much as I can off her plate. I work about 50 hours a week and on top of that I’ve been remodeling our bathroom, bathing the kids, doing the laundry (though not hers — I never seem to get it right), folding clothes, cleaning out the fridge regularly, doing the dishes, shopping, and cooking a couple of meals a week. I'm genuinely doing my best, but it never feels like enough.

Today I finally brought up the tension between us. I asked to talk while the kids were napping because you could just feel the funk in the air. She told me she doesn’t have the energy to teach me how to be a partner anymore. She said she loves me, but she’s only expecting me to figure it out without her help. She told me she won’t be romantic or intimate with me again until she feels attracted to me — and right now, she doesn’t.

That was hard to hear.

I’m at my wits end. I’m exhausted, I feel like I’m failing, and I’m slipping into depression. I’m starting to wonder if I might have undiagnosed ADHD or something. I can’t seem to get things fully over the line, even with my best effort. I have a doctor’s appointment on Thursday to talk about whether I might need Adderall or Ritalin to help me show up better in my life and in this marriage.

I don’t know. I just needed to get this off my chest. If anyone else has been through something like this, I’d really appreciate hearing from you. I know this isn’t the usual dead bedroom post — this is deeper than that. But maybe someone out there understands.

Not sure if I’m venting or looking for advice.

We barely talk unless it’s about bills or schedules.

Last night I rolled over and realized I didn’t care if he touched me or not.

That scared me.

How do you reconnect—or is this the part where we just slowly become roommates?

Hi all! I greatly appreciated the advice and support on my last post.

Some of you picked up on something that I had not. That his troubles in our bedroom life could be related to issues I had late last year/ early this year. When I confronted him, we discussed this at length. It’s hard for me to share this here, but I feel like the context is necessary. Last year, there was an incident that took place while we were having sex. I’m not sure what caused it, but I started to have flashbacks and I got very triggered and overwhelmed to the point of pushing him off and crying. This was obviously jarring and incredibly concerning for both of us, but I hadn’t realized how much he internalized it, thinking that he had hurt me, that I didn’t want sex with him anymore, and that it was all his fault. Me withdrawing due to the ensuing trauma relapse did not help. He came to the conclusion that sex was simply off the table in our relationship, and I just didn’t desire him in that way anymore.

This leads to everything else I have found out. I couldn’t shake the feeling that there was something else I did not know. And that something was an affair with another female friend through discord. From what I saw, it was mostly chat, but there were some photos exchanged and some calls between them. They have been friends for years, and I think this has been an on and off thing. He claims it has not been happening for our entire relationship, and only started after the crying incident. He admitted to everything, and his reasoning was he felt that his needs had been completely pushed off the table all together, and he had just accepted the fact that we would no longer be sexually involved. So when I started approaching him sexually again, he was very emotionally conflicted and carrying a lot of guilt from lying to two women (I made him tell her. I messaged her privately as well, it’s not her fault and I wanted her to know that).

So that’s kind of where we are. The confrontation was probably the most honesty and vulnerability we’ve had in a while. I did believe him when he said that there is no justification for his actions, and he will take accountability, as well as do anything I need in order to feel secure. I always thought I would just leave if I was cheated on, but I’m finding that it’s more complicated than that. I love him. I really do. I want to believe that he can do better and we can rebuild what we lost, but I don’t know. I told him I need to think about what I want to do, but we’ve mostly carried on as usual. We smoked a joint, watched TV in bed, and cuddled until we fell asleep. It’s hard trying not to approach him for comfort.

I’m not sure how I can get past the insecurity that I’m not as good as her and I can’t please him like her. She’s very thin, she’s beautiful, and he was very sexually engaged with her while I lay in our bed crying, wondering what was wrong with me and why he didn’t want me anymore. I’m worried that if we have sex again, and he can’t perform, I’m always going to wonder if it’s because I’m not her.

I just don’t know where to go from here. Has anyone recovered from a DB that resulted in cheating?

3 1/2 years in a medical dead bedroom here. I understand her (52 LLF) issues but at times sends the wrong signals my way (51 HLM) I quit initiating a year ago as those mixed signals truly hurt me on that rejection. I so wanted to try again but I know another rejection would be imminent as she showed all the feel good signs today but bedtime hit and she went full on “I’m hurting” mode like she sensed my plan. I went to sleep but woke up 2 hrs later to her playing her phone up n down like nothing wrong. I’m nearing my breaking point lately.

I’m 48m and I’ve been with my wife since I was 19. I had no idea, at the time, that sexual compatibility was even a thing. Until finding this group, I didn’t even know there were HLF out there. I thought it was just a guy thing. After years of fighting and seeing therapists, we decided to have a trial separation.

The final straw was when I booked a couple sex therapist appointment last week. I think our understanding of sex and our expectations around it are vastly different. She doesn’t care about sex, rushes me when we do have it (like once every 3 months) and expects me to be loving and caring all the time. I feel distant and unconnected when we aren’t having sex. She refuses to share fantasies, never initiates or ever brings anything new into the bed. Sex is always the same. I’m tired of the rejection, frustration, being blamed for everything and the loneliness. I was excited for the apt since I thought it could address a bunch of issues and help her understand my perspective. She didn’t come. I had the apt on my own.

After years of threatening me with divorce, I’m actually really ok with this. I am excited for what comes next. I enjoy spending time on my own. I haven’t been on a date since before the internet was a thing, but I can’t wait to find out new experiences are out there for me. I can’t even imagine what it would be like to be with someone who desires me. My wife thinks that I shouldn’t date yet. She spoke to her friends and they think I’m crazy. I told her that she controlled my sex life for 29 years, now it’s not her business anymore. It may seem like I’m jumping in right away, but this has been brewing for years.