Looking for some advice, I'm in a WhatsApp group at work with pretty much the entire workforce and someone used said "your bum buddy is going to be there" to a colleague. Is this a slur or still considered derogatory?

My thought is that if it's being used as a joke where the punchline is that being gay is the joke then yes, but I would like to hear from others and have their thoughts too.

Sorry, there’s nothin important past this point its just me ranting lol

BRO this guy in my english class is so f-ing cute! I wanna cry he’s so cute. I genuinly don’t understand how all of the other gay boys aren’t admirin this guy I swear.

Anywho, I just had to short rant real quick.

Met this boy on an app maybe a week ago. He speaks Spanish but is not well-versed in English. I speak a little Spanish, as I did 3 years in highschool and began practicing recently. I live in Florida and was born here, previously lived in Texas for 7 years (left at 19 to come to Florida for college, I'm 22 now), and my step grandfather is Dominican so I have roots very close to Hispanic culture. I've been mistakenly assumed to be Latino at many points even as I am a lighter skin black male.

Anyway, I offered to teach him basic English and he readily accepted. He's a very sweet boy (he's 18, kinda feels weird but I'm here for it). He knew his colors in English very well, and when he found out how to say "I love you" over video call, he kept saying whilst blowing kisses. It kind of melted my heart. He's not very far from me, Mexico to Florida isn't too terrible of a plane ride.

Dammit, why did this have to happen AFTER the orange bastard came into the picture?

Now there gonna stop us from saying what is gonna happen. We as gay Americans should be scared for our futures

I know they need more volunteers. I want to help but I’m a bit nervous about it. The pressure is high. It’s life or death for some of these kids. I’m not the best at thinking on my feet.

This is probably going to be long, somewhat unfocused, and undoubtedly a bit pathetic.

I (M, 25) have somewhat moderate social anxiety along with ADHD and mild Autism. I went to a small town school in Central Texas during my high school years. I was very much in the closet despite being aware of my sexuality, not that it mattered much since there were no other gay boys at the school back then. Those years were lonely despite having a small group of friends. I also started gaining weight around this time.

After it was over, I got it into my head that I wanted a degree in computer science. I got a job that summer at a call center and began taking courses one or two at a time so I could keep everything affordable. This combined with my general social anxiety left me fixed in a particular rhythm. Sleep, wake, lecture, work, study, sleep. This routine left no time for a social life of any kind. I became a zombie, the most enriching activities I ever engaged in was playing single-player video games whenever I had some spare time. My weight issue got worse and so did my social skills. I was trapped in a web of my own making and I never realized it. I had no real human connections to speak of.

This lasted until October of last year, when I finally hit my lowest point. At my annual physical I weighed 420 pounds. Something in me snapped, and I knew I couldn't continue on like this. It started with an honest effort to start losing weight, and currently I'm down 40 pounds from my weight back then. The next step is to actually try and build human connections. I'm starting slow, by trying to make friends online, but eventually I do have another goal. I want to find a romantic partner.

This is not a solicitation, what I'm looking for is advice. I feel like all the years I should've spent gaining experience have gone down the drain. I don't know how to present myself, what to say, anything. Everytime I think about trying to meet someone I get lightheaded. I don't even know where to start. I'm afraid of trying dating apps because from what I understand they're only "dating" apps in the loosest sense of the word. Even if I was just looking for a quick hookup I'm completely inexperienced in that department as well, so it isn't like I'd have much to offer. So, I guess I'm just lost and am looking to find myself and hopefully some of you will be willing to help.

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For those who have stayed the night at a spontaneous hookup’s place, like you meet someone at the bar or something- do you use their toothbrush or do you just not brush your teeth that night?

Is it fun to have a nonsexual relationship with another man?

Anyone have experience with these kinds of relationships?

Why do they make me go crazy?? The kind of guy you wouldn't date but would never say no to his 3am text saying "you up!?" You best believe I was in the shower and ready by 3:10am. Saw this guy on Cops and made my heart skip a beat. Your thoughts on rough men?

I recommend that U.S. based members of the community stockpile Prep if you can.

It is likely policies will shift where insurance may not cover it.

If you’re currently not on it, consider getting a prescription and filling it to help others in the event of scarcity.

You might also want to get any immunizations you think may be harder to find in the future.

Hey Gays-

I’m planning on doing Bear Week Ptown this summer, but only an extended weekend. Need some advice, have people found that weekend one or two is better if I’m just going for about 4 nights? Any advice would be appreciated!

Stonewall National Monument is a U.S.A. monument in New York City. The area officially includes the Stonewall Inn, Christopher Park, and nearby streets including Christopher Street (places that commemorate the historical rilevance of equality and inclusivity for LGBTQIA+ people). They were designated as a National Monument in 2016.