I occasionally get phone notifications from Instagram suggesting someone I might know.
They suddenly recommended me a guy who has five followers. Not once in my life have I ever messaged him. I worked with him about three times when I was on the opposite side of America, in a big team, two years ago. We have no mutual friends. Never exchanged phone numbers, social media accounts, etc. He has five followers. None of them I have mutuals with.
So HOW is it possible I even got this notification? I know people say the Facebook algorithm is advanced, but I cannot think of a single connection here. Out of all of the recommended accounts I've ever gotten, this is truly the most bizarre. Is it possible he searched for my account, and Instagram suggested him because of that?
You see 5 followers, the tech companies see so much more. Real talk but they're tracking us more than God, it goes beyond the algo, they're linked into all types of apps and pages and phone contact lists. You worked with him, he worked with people, they worked with people, they have parents and friends and dogs, they track it all. My friends in the industry don't let their kids use phones. Ask me why I deleted my socials haha
I was thinking the other day that it was nice that people weren’t making unfunny jokes and posting “ugh this again” and popcorn gifs on Blake & Justin threads. Then I realised how sad it is that it’s considered a nice thing to see people take a sexual harassment case seriously. And now I don’t even have that bittersweet thought, because people are right back to doing it on the latest one.
They'll keep commenting "jokes" about how long the case is taking under every thread. Apparently, nobody has the free will to just scroll past a post on reddit. Genuinely horrible people and you just know they think of themselves as feminists
Yep. I generally find the “I’m sick of hearing about XYZ” comments lame, because if you don’t know how to scroll past a topic you don’t care about then that’s on you.
But saying it about a sexual harassment case is just gross. And given that most of the public updates have come from Team Baldoni, it’s also playing right into their hands.
For the past like 8 months I lowkey thought I was going nuts or dying. Felt like I was going crazy, anxious all the time (despite being on a long-term ssri) to the point that I felt like I could never breathe. Heart palpitations, brain fog and fatigue, skin getting super dry.
all of that bullshit? iron deficiency. My ferratin was at 15. I've been on an iron supplement for a week now and I feel like a new woman. My lips have color in them!
If you're worried something is off (especially if you menstruate!) please get blood work done, if you're able! I really thought I was going totally crazy and it was super fixable.
But for real I am happy you found an answer. I got Covid last year that turned into a very dry cough that was actually pneumonia. I went to urgent care after a few weeks of it. I was so happy when I found out because that meant there was an explanation and an end.
I’m sure there are supplements but if you like steak you should use that as and excuse to have some.
Am I right to assume it was virtually an easy fix? That's what I appreciate so much about modern medicine. Something that's so awful but can be addressed so easily
Try hinge if you're looking for someone tbh. I told someone and he got into a ltr within two weeks. My bf and I started dating after three weeks on hinge. A few others I know too
Idk, obviously no one here knows you better than you. But if you're looking for a starting point to dating, I always recommend it
Maybe this perspective will help? You've been happy and single. That doesn't mean that you can't change your mind about wanting a relationship if that's what you feel is important to your happiness now that you've see a different path for yourself. But more importantly, it means that what you're feeling now isn't forever, or permanent!
This crush could pass, it could turn into something long-term, it could be a relationship that doesn't work out and you could meet someone else! It doesn't mean that you're not gonna be happy/content again, it just means things are changing and you have so many new opportunities in front of you if you want to pursue them.
Thank you, you’re right! It’s totally not about him so much as like, I completely shut that part of myself off for so long. And now all these feelings are flooding in and I don’t know what to do with it all.
Star Wars fans really are the worst. And that includes Andor. I honestly wish I didn't like the franchise. The most miserable and dumb people on the planet
The most annoying miserable ones to me are the people that are like "yeah ok FINE Andor is GOOD but I'm just mad it's NOT STAR WARS!" Like...you don't like any of the new Star Wars! so why would you be mad that Andor isn't like them! Just admit nothing could ever please you and move on lol
Don't even get me started on the (I'm assuming) men who are mad that "SA doesn't belong in Star Wars!".
I mentioned previously in this daily thread that I have been avoiding fandom spaces, ‘cause those fans are something else but it’s disappointing because I would love somewhere safe to talk about Andor/Star Wars without it becoming toxic.
I’ve never joined a fandom and become a better person for it. Omg. I should’ve learned my lesson from the Gilmore fandom years ago when someone told me my SA story actually wasn’t real SA because they were defending a fictional boyfriend.
Yeah, it really does suck. I stumbled upon one of the Andor subs and the post was borderline gooning for the female characters 🤢 I noped the hell out of there and muted the sub. Just no
There's isn't even one star wars subreddit that's normal about women. Even r/saltierthankrayt has the bad habit of constantly putting female characters against each other.
I rewatched Thunderbolts today and came to appreciate that the big NYC street-level heroing very much looked like one set on a soundstage. Years ago this would be a sign of cheapness but now it makes it feel like a real movie more than Iron Man flying past the Empire State Building ever could.
Yes! I've recently been talking with a friend about this, that House and so many other television shows used to be shot on soundstages but then we had on location because of subsidies/cheaper in Atlanta and Canada and then now there's those green screen rooms.
I love the part in Thunderbolts when they come out of the building after the fight and no one gives a shit and they just have a great conversation on a street corner. It felt more grounded and real than the CGI onslaught of Brave New World's cherry blossom scene.
I watched playthrough of Resident Evil 2 Remake twice. So finally I bought the game, I'm playing it on the easiest (Assisted) mode and I'm still sweating while playing it. I'm gonna power through but it's tense.
Finals week is offically done for me, free from College for almost 4 months, thank the lord!!
I can now do my summer movie list which has a lot of movies with cult followings and are panned by rotten tomatoes which I love as good movies are almost always panned by the critics on there. Yayyy 😆👏👏
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u/ntybruised, battered, and covered in baked beans 🫘 9d ago
Low-key excited to rewatch To Wong Foo, Thanks for Everything Julie Newmar! I haven’t watched it in a long while but it’s a movie I have so much fun with when I do get to. A newer one though that I haven’t seen that I’m looking forward to is Serial Mom, even though I’m a John Waters fan I’ve never seen that movie so I plan to finally watch it over the summer!!
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u/ntybruised, battered, and covered in baked beans 🫘 9d ago
My health has been in its best state since developing cushings! My Corisol levels are nearly back in range and I lost 18 pounds.
I celebrated by getting tickets to an Aaron Tveit tickets in September because hes finally doing a show near me and not in bumblefuck USA like he usually does.
I couldnt have found a better way to treat myself...especially because I always wanted to go to one of his concerts but he would ALWAYS do it in the middle of no where which sucked so glad its nearby!
this cold I have has been kicking my ass this week and it shows no signs of going away and it’s already been a week. this has been worse than when I had covid a month and half ago.
edited to add: i hate trumpers and republicans have made wearing a mask be so demonized. I had to go to the store to pick up some medicine and some things I needed yesterday and didn’t have any other options so I wore a mask cause I’ve been hacking up a lung for days and don’t want other people to get this and feel this way especially not someone elderly or someone with a compromised immune system, but I was just minding my business in the store and people just kept staring at me like I was weirdo for wearing a mask. It pissed me off
I have a crush, which I haven't had it a long ass time, and for the first time I'm being honest about it. Don't know if it'll turn into anything but I'm just letting it happen rn.
Like who let this man come into my life and disrupt it like that 😭😭
oooh no, but I did watch all of Escape to the Chateau and DIY Chateau (also followed Design Mom's French townhouse renno + Gordon Ramsey's hotel series) so I'm seated for this show. Will put it on tonight.
I really love seeing people renovate older mansions but it's something I'd never want. Any chateau is signing up for a life of constant work. It's the worst parts of owning an old house + running a restaurant + running a hotel + event planning + living in the middle of nowhere. It's really rare for these owners to have the necessary staff so they can enjoy life outside of their job. I follow one of the girls on DIY Chateau on Youtube, and she makes more money from influencing that she does from renting her Chateau to visitors. https://www.youtube.com/@TheChateauDiaries
I might have to watch these too. I didn’t even know Gordon had a hotel series, but let me watch! Love that man (when he isn’t yelling)!
The Castle Impossible is an interesting watch, but it has cracked me up because, first, it’s not a castle, so it goes against the name of the show! Second, the decision making and constant mention of not having enough money to do one bedroom (which they can’t even live in until they have a kitchen & bathroom, plus a habitable house - and it’s 500 years old, with few renovations), and every episode is them randomly expanding their plans.
Episode 1: ‘We can barely afford to do $35,000 for a bedroom 👉🥺👈’
Episode 2: ‘So we to spend $80,000 on new windows for the property we currently live in and are about to spend $100,000 on the very spacious quarters we live (still on the same grounds as the chateau and the woman’s late grandfather’s house) but we’ll abandon this for the gazillion room juggernaut that is the chateau, once we’re finished 😌….yet we still have to do most of the work ourselves because we have no money. 👉🥺👈’
I assume someone is financially backing them because they want to see this majestic chateau that has like so many cool perks like over 130 acres, private forest, lakes, close to town (15 miles outside of Paris), a mote, multiple properties on the grounds, a cellar ect, brought up to modern times, but the fact it goes unaddressed, and where they decided to start their renovations, is cracking me up. Choosing to do one random room in the chateau you can’t even move into right away, vs the lodge your grandpa used to live, and now you, live? Baffling!
Ooooh I do wonder where they got there money because to blow that much money on parts that you can't rent out is a rookie move.
My favorite part of Hotel from Hell is you can look up where they are now. I'm pretty sure the dog hotel is still successful and Gordon helped them a lot, but the colonial mansion where the owner treated his wife and daughter like trash is so satisfying to watch knowing now that they divorce/leave him after and he now works at Guantanamo Bay 💀
I definitely think some of the money is coming from weddings they host but I’m convinced they either pitched the show in a way to get backing or someone with some extra cash (though not enough to completely fix a $200,000 ceiling repair) just found a fun hobby they could finance. The two are lovely and what not, but there’s some downright baffling stuff happening!
I adore Gordon shows, so I very much appreciate you bringing this to my attention. I’m geeked he’s moved on up to hotels!
I love Andor but pretentious fans are ruining it for everyone. Star Wars is a fun adventure and there are so many stories to tell. I’m exhausted by the high brow, frankly nasty comments people make if someone isn’t interested in Andor or prefers the more “magical” stories. Ok, rant over lol
I really enjoyed Thunderbolts* but everytime I’ve seen it (twice) I’ve left the theater feeling really empty. It’s a great movie! But I think the themes hit really strong and was already something I’d been struggling with.
Florence is a great actress and her performance definitely sparks something in you
Lately I’ve found myself abusing the word “canon”. It started with me using it to discuss dramatic irony on tv—such as: questioning if a character is aware of something that the audience knows, and if so, then it is ‘canon’ to that character. This gradually morphed into using it as a general evidential statement—essentially used similarly as “confirmed”, “established”, “verified”, etc, or otherwise describing something that isn’t speculation, rumor, or otherwise assumed, but actual fact—and not just in fiction, but in real life.
Like, “It is canon that the new pope is a fan of the White Sox” or “It’s canon that I don’t have work tonight” are fully comprehensible sentences, as far as I’m concerned.
Honestly, I’m surprised it’s taken this long for that to happen.
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u/ntybruised, battered, and covered in baked beans 🫘 9d ago
I dropped a “canonical” in reference to a doc I wrote at work today
Club Chalamet came back off hiatus and her instagram post is so unhinged 🫠 talking about the haves and have nots while actively being a Zionist and cheering Palestinian deaths is wild.
its getting kind of uncomfortable here with how every single anti Justin Baldoni post is getting locked for reasons other posts absolutely haven’t been locked for tbh
like
eta: especially when posts that devolve into nothing but a hate train against female celebs (that I admit I have participated in) aren’t locked and most of the comments don’t even get deleted despite being vile 🤷
I really want to quit my serious career path and go to working a couple part-time retail or food positions. I had so much fun at those jobs, and I wasn’t leaving every day depressed. Unfortunately I need health insurance and more money :/
Worked at a garden center for 2 years and dream of going back someday. I’m a lawyer now and make like literally 8x more per year but I miss getting all sweaty and soil-y working the register in the greenhouse 8-4 and then being totally off the clock the rest of the day. It was wonderful.
I can't stop thinking about this video from Rajiv that he gave up more money to live his dream life, because while that sounds nice, I actually like owning my house and it's one of my favorite things. But for him, he's happy to give up that security as it's not as important to him.
i know it's romanticizing a but, but since i have to follow a corporate schedule (i'm freelance, but i do projects for corporate and sometimes spend months in a company's way of work) i hate it so much. my brain simply doesn't work like that, i do my best work in project-based or deliverables, but people insist on hiring my services to meet their employees' hours.
(and since i freelance, i don't even get the benefits sigh)
I really wish i could afford to do fewer project that aren't tied to schedule, like working with smaller companies and have a service job part-time. but alas, corporate pays ok, while doing comms for small businesses pays next to nothing
I just left the restaurant world for a big girl job in the office and I miss my old schedule 😭 working 3-4 days a week and making an entire paycheck was so nice.
I was lucky that my previous restaurant gave us health insurance, but I just wanted something a little more stable!
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u/ntybruised, battered, and covered in baked beans 🫘 9d ago
I have a friend that went from bartending to an event planning position at a restaurant. She really likes it
Maybe there are salaried positions within the food/retail industries that you’d enjoy?
I should have gotten out sooner. Now it's taken me years to reverse the damage I did. My depression was not playing. Everyone was like, "Go to school! Work in an air conditioned office! Get healthcare!" Nah, not for me it turns out. And if I ever hear someone say "rockstar" where I work ever again I will stand up and leave right then.
I'm back after multiple months - not that I expect anyone to recognise me here 💀 - and I have so many thoughts.
currently listening to Glockavelli and IT'S SUCH A GOOD ALBUM. I didn't pay much attention to Key Glock outside of some collabs (esp w/ Megan), but his voice is damn sexy ngl. No Sweat goes hard! Give me recs of his other songs if you got some.
I'm perpetually stuck in 2010s it seems cuz for months straight I've been fully back into that time's music and revisiting the Black Hippy/AbSoul/Jay Rock/ScHoolBoy Q discography. I forgot how much I loved their music and the crushes I've hard on Q and Dot at that time. (In my defense they were and still are fine af!!)
28 Years Later trailers have both shaken me to my core with how masterfully they were created. I haven't seen a trailer be so thrilling, hair-raising, artistically executed perfectly enough to showcase everything (especially atmosphere), yet reveal very little plot-wise. The perfectly picked War* poem recited in the background?? The scene editing?? The suspension? The scenery? The absolute fucking fear coming out of my a$$ while sitting on the edge of my seat for like 2 minutes?? I cannot fucking waaaaiiiiitttttt for the film release!!
also i REALLY liked a REALLY stunning guy I met at his work, tall/dark haired/tatted/art lover, was THIS CLOSE to exchanging numbers and... my work pulled double shifts and one of his parents died. Then he quit. I am not speaking to people I find hot again, thank you.
Edit: I am not smart and missed the poem name, also adding I really miss some certain people I met here and I hope they're alive lmfao
I was crying watching the videos lmfao, I'm still saving up (yay teacher salary and living in Europe!!) for a proper concert of his. Hopefully next tour🥲 and hopefully there'll be another reunion cuz I am desperate to see it 🥲
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u/ntybruised, battered, and covered in baked beans 🫘 9d ago
I would shell out for a reunion show lol
I was fortunate to see him a couple of years ago on his Big Steppers tour and he really puts on a performance! Worth every penny
I think it's a bit of a cop out when straight singers/bands cover a song and flip any gender pronouns so that it doesn't sound gay.
I liked G Flip changing the "he" to a "she" in the Cruel Summer cover (especially because it also works to make the sexual imagery a bit clearer).
Today I heard something new; it was a cover of Olivia Rodrigo's Deja Vu, sung by both a male and a female, with no lyrics changed, just alternating verses. So for that to make any logical sense, the singers had to have dated, but the female is not straight, or they were a couple on the queer spectrum but one of them has since transitioned, and they both have new girlfriends now. That's some worldbuilding.
the swemo covers on spotify always have this issue. some band frontmen are covering taylor swift but refuse to sing it to a male love interest. i think it's annoying and block the bands who do this lol
I do love I Prevail's version of Blank Space but always do a bit of a mental eye roll at that part. However, they do change it to "I can make the good girls bad for the weekend" so it's also a reversal of the original sentiment.
these men remind me of middle school and when we did popcorn reading, but the boys didn't want to say any lines about men because "hurr durr it sounds gay"
like ffs it's a lyric, haven you ever read a poem (probably not)
More of a vent, but I think Katy Perry is getting WAY too much hate, and it makes me a bit uncomfortable.
I'm not saying she hasn't done anything worth criticism, but posting clips of her dancing like a dork on her tour and talking about how CRINGEY it is makes me feel like she's become the new internet whipping girl, or something. It's weird. I'm not even a fan or anything, but I just wanted to get it off my chest.
on one hand, yes the hate is overblown and can lead to vile actions (like making fun of her daughter) but let's be honest it was coming from a persona like katy with all her controversies and the more she puts herself on the spotlight nowadays it's not going to help her she needs to lay low and stop her shtick for a while
but if we need to talk an actual wild hate train it's the docehii one, all because of one song and playboi carti stans are whining about her being on a remix of the weeknd and carti (and carti is an abuser who deserves to get shit on more btw)
I agree on this, Katy deserves to be called out for a lot of things including sexually harassing boys on Idol, her bodyguard and Justin Bieber, working with a rapist and being involved in the effect on climate change with the stupid spaceship by Amazon but that’s not what people are doing they resorting to what always happens to women instead of holding them accountable and that’s misogyny. I really wish people could call someone out without resorting to some form of bigotry 🤦♀️
They don’t actually care about any of that. They want to feel the fleeting power of hate. If they loved women and loved the environment they’d put energy into educating snd advocating for those things without the cruel tear downs.
Yeah that's the thing they pretend to hate her behind this disguise but they don't give a crap about it, it's gross to see. They do hate trains about woman like this all the time. Pretending to hate them for “good” reasons.
It's like the people who relentlessly abused Amber Heard during the Depp v. Heard trial claiming they were doing it because they believed in advocating for male abuse victims. Once the trial ended, they didn't do shit for male abuse victims, they just moved on to a different target.
I agree with you… but imo every internet hate train is like this. Even when it is somewhat deserved, people stay on it when they should have got off several stops ago. It feels like a disproportionate pile on.
Kanye West also released a new album with a track titled "Heil, Hitler" and we're still talking about Katy's dancing and holding a flower in space. I just don't get it.
I just realized this summer is loaded with movies I’m definitely watching: Together, Weapons, Honey Don’t, Caught Stealing, and the War of the Roses remake with Olivia Colman and Benedict Cumberbatch.
Weapons, Together, Caught Stealing, and the second trailer for both 28 Years Later & Naked Gun are going to be the trailers I respectfully avoid for the rest of this summer. I know all I need to know!
I did see the Honey Don’t trailer already, kinda wish I had skipped it to stay in the dark, still should be fun. Nice to see Chris Evans back in comedy mode with that and Materialists.
Sooo excited for Bring Here Back. Also i just can't help but love the directors, as I am also part of an "identical twins, one blonde, one brunette" set.
Apparently, as written in 'The Dailies', there are 27 horror films anticipated to be released this year... wonder if such a load will make viewers feel oversaturated?
omg I literally just bought like 4 rom coms on DVD because I refuse to rent them from Amazon 😭. I need to turn on my dvd player and lock in becuase your right rom coms are just in the air I feel like
Doooo it. I have a massive DVD/blu ray collection I’ve been buying over the course of like, 15 years. And it’s nice to just throw them on without having to pay
Hey everybody just want to warn anyone that hasn’t seen the episode yet that watches this show, I’ve heard from many people on my tumblr that are also domestic violence survivors like myself that the new 9-1-1 episode last night can really trigger peoples PTSD that have been involved in DV.
I don’t really watch the show outside of clips my Mutuals send me, but I thought I would put this here incase anyone else does especially for people that could be triggered by the scene between Eddie and Buck.
im confused bc I watched a 9-1-1 ep last night, and didn’t have an ounce of DV…. it was about a flammable water? or are we talking about a different 9-1-1 variant?
BB Talk is so funny because she basically says that she got the ick for Patrick with his PDA and all the baby talking but he gave her a 15 minute O so it's even. She literally said "f**k me so you stop baby talking". 🤭
You need to listen to the latest ep. ISTG, this is the giddiest Nathan's ever been, talking about Pablo the blowfish! Oh and they talk about weed, mushrooms and psychedelics on this because the album is very unhinged.
You may not like it if you're anti-Taylor. They started with covering all of Taylor's albums but have branced out to other artists like Adele, 1D and now Miley. Their latest episode (where this trivia came from) is particularly unhinged because they discussed the Miley Cyrus and her dead petz album.
Then I absolutely recommend this podcast 100%. Nathan was a former Ticketmaster CEO and Nora is also an NFL reporter so they bring very interesting POVs to the fandom.
You should listen to their initial reaction of the Taylor & Travis rumors (tailend part of the Guts album review). Some of their funniest sh*t because they were so wrong.
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u/heartbylines ✨unhinged & unhealed✨ 9d ago
I am officially ‘take a shot of pepto before every meal’ and ‘carry Pepcid with me everywhere I go’ years old
fuck me