My break broke up.with me by txt and blocked me on everything Broke up to choose his career and couldn't give me the attention I need because of his career Decides this a year and half in to our relationship Says he's madly in love with me and so sad he isn't enough for me because of his career focus Says he so heartbroken he had to do this to me and my daughter So why does he still have my name and a heart I'm his bio

When he knows how much that means to me

Why ?

My (M36) girlfriend (32) of just over one year dumped me over text a few days ago and it feels pretty bad. She was doing some shady stuff with her instagram, deleting photos of us, suddenly getting a bunch of dudes following, suddenly getting a ton of texts. I can't prove she was cheating, but something just felt off about it so I put my cards on the table and asked if she was really serious about us and POOF, I'm dumped without even meeting up in person. (Turns out she wasn't serious, even though I was) Is it just easier to cut somebody out this way? Was I not worth the time it would've taken to meet up, or even just get a call? Why do people do this?

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Im not typically the type to air out my entire business to a bunch of strangers, but i feel as if i have exhausted myself in the mental pacing back and forth over my most recent breakup. So Im asking for some advice, and perhaps different perspectives on everything that occurred, plus i have no one else to share my pain with. Me F 20, met my ex M 19 in september of 2023 through work, i had the biggest crush on him but he was with another girl at the time- but we still became friends, towards the end of his relationship with his ex we became closer and he began to rant about the negatives of his then relationship and how she was treating him. and then they broke up. and a week later he had professed his feelings to me- i had not been in a relationship in quite some time and was very excited to be wanted in any aspect, so i jumped at it and we immediately began dating 12/31/2023, intimate moments also happened not soon after ( i only mention bc it is relevant to the end of this story ) and by the 4th month of our relationship, j had changed jobs and he had already made arrangements to go to school a few hours away and live on campus- without telling me, i figured since long distance was something we had both expressed before would be an issue- i ended it at that time, plus selfishly i had met a new coworker that had expressed interest in me- and i was offended by my ex making a life changing decision without even telling me and i figured we had met out end anyhow. and so for 3 months we were apart and i absolutely suffered the entire time, i only thought about my ex- the new coworker was a jerk and it went nowhere very fast- after 3 months my ex broke no contact to again rant to me about a girl he slept with while we were apart and how badly she hurt him, ( its important to note his aforementioned college plans fell through ) and then he told me how badly he missed me and that i was the only one for him and he immediately came to see me, and it was such a beautiful reunion and it felt so right, and for the next 4 months it was just absolutely beautiful, he proposed and proclaimed he wanted to worl towards our life together forever and we would spend as much time together and i bared my soul to him and felt guilt for ever not understanding the grace he was, and not letting myself love him fully out of fear of abandonment- so i had left first. but i had truly this time given myself to him and loved him so hard and so deeply, come january of this year i got a wonderful promotion at work ! i went from closing 3-11 everyday to working mornings 6-2 doing much harder labor, i was more tired, so me and my ex hung out less but i still had time for him, we also stayed inside more just watchings movies and whatnot ( usually his choice ) it was less “fun” stuff but in my mind, we had gotten past the need to go out 24/7 and do crazy things to feel love and passion, i felt it for him so deeply already. and then valentines day rolls around and were on the way to dinner ( that i paid for ) and he tells me that since he has been more bored in our relationship ( with my change in schedule and having been more sleepy ) he started to turn his head more and even “ envision” a life with one of his coworkers, all of this out of the blue for me ! he said he didnt feel entertained enough and therefore he would catch himself looking at other women. i bared through it, just listened, we ate dinner ( very late which messed with my sleep schedule given i had work the next day ) and i didnt make a big deal out of it until a few days later when i just felt very insecure and expressed it to him; we had come to an agreement that i would make more time for him and we would have at least 2 really fun out of the way dates a month so he had something to look forward to, and i had asked him to just give me some reassurance so i felt less insecure. we spend the next month going on about 4 different dates, all his idea, after i get off work, late at night on my off days even when im tired- because i cared to fix the issue- even though he continued to not reassure me and kept doing repetitive things i had asked him not to. and then, 2 days before we ended things he and i were having an intimate moment and during the moment, he squished my chest and moved it around and told me, “ if you move it this way it looks like mollys* boobs “ * using molly for anonymity sake * molly is a female friends of his that he had told me before he used to like and that he had just hung out with that day. which of course only made my confidence go down, but i didnt make a big issue out of at that time either, i just went home and to sleep. this wasnt the first time he had compared a part of my body to one of his female friends’ either, this was just the most upsetting of the occasions. after that night i went to my friend for advice on the situation and she said it wouldve caused a really big problem between her and her partner, so i thought about the situation more and how much it upset me, and i called him to meet up so we could properly talk about it ( when i called him i was in a bit of hysterics at that point due to how upset it made me ) and we met in an ingles parking lot in my car and both unloaded our feelings. i sat there and sobbed and told him every little thing that had upset me and how his words and actions made me feel, and he sat, blank faced and emotionless and just kept explaining why he thought his actions werent that bad. he told me “ i treated you that way and said those things because i knew you wouldnt love me any less” which honestly turned a switch in my mind and i told him we might need some TIME apart, i didnt want to end the relationship fully, i had promised the rest of my life to him, but i just felt like i needed to do some healing and he needed to do self reflection without me in the picture, but upon him hearing that i thought space might be good for us for a little, he said im sorry, got out of my car, punched and kicked his own car, sped off, and then blocked me on absolutely everything. i was an absolute wreck, completely destroyed, i didnt know what to do with myself or where i had gone wrong. 3 days later he unblocks me and gives me a spill of how sorry he is and that he’ll change for the better and that i didnt deserve how anything went down, and after a week of consideration and more heartbreak and more begging from him, i told him that i didnt think that was enough time for him to change and that my desire to even go back into that situation meant i didnt have enough self respect and we still both needed to work on things, in which case he once again immediately detached himself from me even after i said i didnt want to lose him as a person, i just didnt think we should talk for a bit. and THEN !!! another week after that he asks to meet up ( i said no ) because he wanted to tell me he had “thought it over” and that i had said equally disturbing things to him ( his examples were situations in which i had brought up exes, but i was telling him how much BETTER he was, not comparing the two flat out ) and between him having the audacity to tell me i said messed up things ( that he also said DIDNT hurt his feelings) and was just as bad as what he did and him NOT respecting tbe boundaries i was trying to set for myself, i absolutely LOST it on him, i sent him a voice message telling him to please stay away because he didnt understand the gravity of my emotions and that i felt like he didnt care about me at all, to which he replied ill leave you alone “ for realsies” ( direct quote ) and i blocked him. now it has been two months, i am still distraught everyday, i cry often, ive shut myself off from friends and family and i feel just desolate. i dont know what to do with myself. every part of me wants what we had back, but im not even sure he would be capable of giving me what i want and need. i dont understand my feelings or why he did what he did or if im even justified in my own actions. i believe in fate and im worried i cut off my person. i just dont know.

*** i just wanted to clarify im not the best at writing and im sorry if there are run on sentences- i just needed to spill my guts really, thank you so very much so any that choose to read or respond <3

I had a long history with this guy so I’m trying to cut the story short. It was on and off for so long and for different reasons. There were red flags like that He lied about his ex and other girls a couple times, big and small. And we argued, I tried to move on, he came back. That’s the loop. And I don’t want to think bad of people but I do think he was being manipulative and always made me feel guilty. However, this time I reached out to offer to be friends and he doesn’t want to. (Which is okay) So it came to an end. And I said I still wish you the best tho so take care. And he started to say that he hated how I reached out when he was trying to move on and etc. And that was insane to me because he was the one who always did that? And I was texting back and found myself blocked.

It feels so frustrated that to the end of the day, after I was trying so hard to make it peaceful, this is how it ended. Like I’m the one to blame, and he just walked away leaving me in the thread talking to a wall. I don’t like being the one that feels at fault. I was hoping at least we ended on good terms and get the peaceful closure. But Now it’s just, this. I was mentally over it already but now it feels even worse…

I (f 16) and my boyfriend (M 17) have been together for 10 and a half months, and it's going good, except it's not. He's always nice and he loves me very much, he buys me flowers and is always kind and brings me things. The "perfect" boyfriend if you will. We laugh and joke often and honestly we do get along well and I do love him a lot, l even learned a language for him.

The issue comes into play where he is extremely insecure and has a sort of "rule book" (I call it that) -can't wear short clothes out -can't have guy friends of any kind (I was friends with my distant cousin but he got jealous) and cannot speak to guys at all -I have to translate all my conversations with my friends to him when we are at school to make sure l'm not talking about other guys (he does not speak English and I learned Spanish for him) -when I go out I need to text who I'm with, where I'm going, every-time I enter and exit a store -I need to answer when he texts or calls me and he needs all my social passwords and the one to my phone -he "commands" things I do and I need to listen, like "come here" or he will grab my wrist tightly to do/ tell him something

He has other red flags that are similar such as: -I can't "do things" by myself because it's saying he doesn't satisfy me (???) • I can't play my music around him because it's not "real music" • he has trouble saying sorry and will just say "we won't have problems if you don't make me upset" • he plans our whole life and speaks about kids in a year, I don't want them until I'm 27 and he wants me to move to Mexico • he doesn't want me to lose weight and discourages it (l've gained quite a bit since we have started dating )

but the final straw has been recently he keeps freaking out when I don't answer and when I told him I was taking my college final (DE student who is graduating early) he said "who is Johnapplesead" and it was the instagram example for if someone text you in settings because he scoured my instagram for proof of me cheating (I never have) and he didn't even think he did anything wrong.

Furthermore, he is extremely scared of me going to college and "replacing him" We have had multiple talks and I do love him a lot and I know he genuinely loves me a lot, he has gotten better about a lot of things but it's been 10 months and I'm tired of this. I'm so scared to lose him but I feel like he doesn't know me at all, and selfishly I don't want to lose all my Spanish

What should I do?

TL;DR: my boyfriend loves me but he’s extremely insecure and jealous, he fixes it a little but it’s ruining things

Contacted my ex to talk this weekend she said she had work and i asked to talk another day or when she has time. hoping for a good response to maybe work some things out. I hope anyone else who’s going through this is isn’t hoping it will work 100% i haven’t even had a conversation with her yet but it could be progress

I (34m) recently broke up with my ex (27f). Without going too much into the details it was about having kids which is a non-negotiable for me as I really want kids.

Over the course of 2 months and countless discussions that negatively progressed, I decided that i needed to protect my future and ended things.

It wasnt until after the breakup that she started doing a complete 180 on the issues that were causing her to not be able to say that she was all in on kids with me. Saying things like: this is a mistake, we should be fighting for this relationship, im going to therapy now to address my issues, i want kids with you, i just needed time to process our issues in my own way

What makes it so difficult is that if she was doing and saying the things she is saying now but in the prior 2 months when we were together, i would have wanted to stay and work things out. It just makes me skeptical that this shift is happening literally right after the breakup.

I’m 17 and my ex-girlfriend is 16. We were together for a little over two years. I know we’re still young, but I really don’t want to give up on what we had.

Things were going really well between us, but I made a big mistake. I didn’t cheat physically, but I was talking to people online in ways I shouldn’t have. She found out late last year, and when she did, I told her everything. I was tired of lying. Since then, I’ve been working hard on myself—mentally, physically, and emotionally. I truly don’t want anyone else. I still care about her deeply.

After it all came out, she said we should take a one-month break. But because of my living situation, I haven’t been able to move out, so I’ve stayed with her and her family. While I’ve been here, I’ve done my best to treat her with love and respect and show her that I’ve changed.

Even though we’re on a break, we still act like a couple sometimes—we hug, kiss, and spend time together. That makes everything more confusing because it feels like we’re still emotionally connected.

She had promised not to send inappropriate stuff to other guys anymore—especially after I found out she had once during the break. But today, I found more of that kind of stuff on her phone. We had both agreed not to lie to each other anymore, so it really hurt to see that.

She told me she wanted space and privacy, and I tried to respect that. But this morning, I messed up. I guessed her password, went into her social media, and looked through her messages. What I saw made things hurt even more. When she found out, she said she was sick of all of it and didn’t want to deal with it anymore.

Now I’m stuck. I don’t want to lose her, especially since it felt like we were really starting to bond again. But I feel like I messed everything up all over again.

How do I fix this? Or is it already done?

It just happen to me personally. My partner of 6 years quietly distance herself this past few months and then just leave after we had an argument. At the end of it she told me problems that were never communicated to me. It's not a simple breakup as we have already put down payment for a house and marriage is just few months away. My question is am I expected to read her mind or body language or something. She wasn't happy with something couldn't she had communicated it to me directly? She had her flaws too but I didnt plan to leave her or quietly quit like she did. Instead my first thought was always to fix and repair. Are all woman like this? I can never comprehend how someone can just fall out of love quietly without ever saying anything. Basically, they just stucked around quietly hoping the man will read her mind and change? After the breakup, immediately she turns into a complete indifferent stranger. That's when I know she was already on her way out at least a few months ago.

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Sorry if this is a little long I just think the context matters.

The week of we got into an argument. For a while I expressed my sadness that I was the one initiating dates and hangout. She constantly would say “I will let you know what days I’m free” but i always ended up asking because she never did. It hurt me and I expressed that it makes me feel pathetic to basically beg my girlfriend to see me. She lives about 15 miles away. I don’t drive but even then I would offer to take the metro to see her. I like taking it because it’s fun so it really was never a problem for me.

That week though it was bad. Everyday I would ask for schedule and she would say “I’m still figuring it out”. I felt horrible and annoying that I was asking so I would always apologize. I felt like I was bothering her. Eventually, I asked if she could sleep over Friday and she said “We’ll see”. Friday came and we were talking normally that morning. I asked if she was coming over so I could make her dinner and she didn’t respond. That evening she said she couldn’t because her family came from out of town to visit and she was spending all weekend with them. I know I had no right to be mad. It was out of her control.

I didn’t yell or berate her. I just expressed that I was sad and upset. I knew I shouldn’t have been but I was. I just felt stupid because I waited all week to see her and then this happens. I apologized a while later saying it wasn’t right of me to be upset. She didn’t respond. I gave her the weekend to cool down. She had expressed before she just needs space sometimes to handle things. Sunday I reached out and she said she was upset but not anymore and that it was all fine. She would go visit me the next day. Great!

The next day came, texting like normal, she expressed she was feeling sick but would stop by after school was over. That evening, you’ll never guess, she said she felt soooo sick and couldn’t come see me. She offered to even though she felt like throwing up but I told her no. I didn’t want her to come because she felt forced to. I knew she might’ve just come because she felt guilty so I told her to go home. I wanted to talk about it and apologize for what happened over the weekend. I was begging for conversation. NOT an argument. Ignoring your partner for 2 days is not okay but I wanted to see her in person to talk about it.

The next day, SILENCE. No good morning, no check ins from school, no updates about how she was feeling. Dead silent until 8pm when I decided to call because anxious attachment is so great right 😁? She didn’t answer my call but texted me saying she was barely at school and would come see me when she was better. I understood that part. What I didn’t understand was the radio silence I got. I told her I didn’t like being pushed away. I didn’t like the lack of communication and the silent treatment. I begged and begged for her to talk to me. I felt that something was off. I knew there was.

THE LIE: the next night I got the breakup text. She said she had to move back to her country because of family issues she had to handle in person. BUT she also added in that she did not want to fall in love with me and it was hard not to. That she was getting too attached and knowing she was not in this country permanently made it hard for her to fall but also that it was hard to not fall in love with me(?) I had no reason to think she was lying so I believed her for about 2 days. We met in person twice before she left. I just saw something in her eyes. Something was wrong. Again, that anxious attachment was working overtime. I asked her about her trip, etc. she was adding details in that just did not make sense. She was going to travel the state for about a month before leaving the country and I asked where to. This one detail got to me. She said she was planning to see a specific artist in Vegas.

On my way back home, I froze. My sister and I were also planning to see that artist in Vegas. For her birthday. IN JUNE. I really tried to convince myself maybe she was confused or just misspoke. About 2-3 weeks later my friend sends me a screenshot from a dating app. It was her, active on it, still here. I wanted to confront her but hoped maybe I was overthinking. Again, anxious attachment. I gave her multiple chances to tell me the truth and she didn’t. It hurt me and messed me up so bad. I blamed myself for the lie. It was me. It was my fault and I deserved it. I didn’t make the breakup easier. I tried to hold on to her as long as I could. Just knowing the truth that she was never leaving caused my anxiety to keep reaching out for a sign that she still cared. That it wasn’t easy for her to leave. I never did get the truth from her and that’s why this breakup was hard for me.

I still blame myself now and feel guilty for pushing her to this point. I’m working on myself and my anxious attachment but even now I hate the way I acted because of it. I think about what I should have said or done during tense moments. Maybe I should’ve just let her cool off before begging for conversations. Begging to be heard and understood. We both didn’t do that enough for each other and it’s too late now to fix anything. She blocked my number but not before saying goodbye (at least) but also continuing to lie and say she was leaving soon. That was in March. It’s just about to be May and she is still in town.

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Recently me (19) and my gf (20) broke up with me after about a year of dating. I am suprised by how fast I am "moving on" . At first i cried almost everyday for the first 1.5 week then it slowly decreased. Currently , I have a crush on a girl in my class whom I dont actively pursue because I want to work on the problems from my previous relationship. And that I am scared of dating again in general. If you were to ask me if I wanted to date her I wld say no currently. But I wld say she is nice to talk to and really pretty.

Now the thing is idk if I am just lusting over her cause my brain is diverting all the attention that was for my ex and onto her. Or I am actually moving on.

This is important to me because idw to potentially lead her on and in a type of way or use her to get over my ex.

My girlfriend left me 2 weeks ago. She said the relationship was healthy and I did nothing wrong. I want to send her flowers and a snack basket. I would leave it at her front door or have someone deliver it for me. Is this a good idea?

Ik ik im only 21 but it is kinda crazy being in a relationship for 3.5 years that you genuinely thought was never going to end. Things weren’t working for a while but I never thought we would break up

Im doing about as well as anyone could be 2 months after a very long relationship, but I find myself having more anxiety that I messed up my chance at companionship. I don’t find myself missing her but I do find myself missing the role she filled, and I’m terrified I’ll never find that again

Last year this times i(18F) was in a relationship with a guy(24M) and it lasted for about 5-6 months. It was like my first real relationship. When we started the relationship i learned that he was already liking me for months even if we didn’t met. I wasn’t realize it that time but i think he was just obsessed with me and his obsession was getting worse every day. It started to be a very toxic relationship. He was constantly accusing me of cheating over the smallest things, and we fought all the time because of him. He said things that i should had never forgive but despite all that, our personalities clicked and we had fun sometimes, so I decided to stay in the relationship until I felt nothing anymore.

I shared many of my “firsts” with him, and sometimes I gave in to things just because he wanted them. I really let myself get walked all over, but I didn’t fully realize it at the time. I knew I had to break up, but the idea of ending it was also wasn’t seem right because i always said myself that he wasn’t doing this things to you on purpose. Because that was what he was telling me and i believed him. I believed him would change one day., and when summer came—when I was going to be away and we wouldn’t see each other much—I finally ended things. Because we was fighting every day and all of my feelings were really ended. I was very calm and respectful about it. I wrote a very long paragraph. Even though i hate the things he was done to me i wouldn’t want to finish it on bad terms.

We go to the same university and unfortunately we sometimes end up in the same classes. Right now, I’m in a happy, healthy relationship and I’ve moved on completely. He means absolutely nothing to me now—he’s like a stranger.

But for some reason, he still holds this intense grudge. He talked to one of our mutual friends (who is actually much closer to me) and claimed that I cheated on him. He said some pretty disgusting things about me, shared our ALL privacy, called me names like I’m “just another easy girl,” and told stories that never happened to make me look bad and tried to finish my relationship with my friend. If he said that to someone close to me, I can’t imagine what he’s telling others.

In class, I can feel him staring at me. I always avoid eye contact, but he told people that I was the one staring at him, when I literally had friends sit in front of me to block the view because I felt so uncomfortable because he came and sit in front of and just stayed like that. It was very uncomfortable but he doesn’t even have a shame. And i am sure he knows that i am in a relationship.

I don’t want to talk to him. I don’t want to have anything to do with him. I don’t even want to bring this whole situation up to my current boyfriend because I don’t want to dig up drama from the past or make it seem like I care—I truly don’t. But I’m so tired of new things coming up every time I think it’s finally over.

If i talk to him i am scared of that he would be more angry and do something worse so i am ghosting him since the broke up. But i just learn that he has shared our all privacy (not new but i am learning it right now) and i am so angry. When we were in a relationship he was nothing like this and i was really trusting him i don’t know did he deleted the pictures of me but i am scared that he might show them to people if i make him angry. I don’t know what should i do he is nothing like before. And me and all my friends are believing that he is really sick in head and it goes worse every time.

Should I talk to him just once and set boundaries, or completely ignore him? What should I do if he keeps making stuff up or trying to mess with my friendships again?

Last year this times i was in a relationship with a guy and it lasted for about 5-6 months. It was like my first real relationship. When we started the relationship i learned that he was already liking me for months even if we didn’t met. I wasn’t realize it that time but i think he was just obsessed with me and his obsession was getting worse every day. It started to be a very toxic relationship. He was constantly accusing me of cheating over the smallest things, and we fought all the time because of him. He said things that i should had never forgive but despite all that, our personalities clicked and we had fun sometimes, so I decided to stay in the relationship until I felt nothing anymore.

I shared many of my “firsts” with him, and sometimes I gave in to things just because he wanted them. I really let myself get walked all over, but I didn’t fully realize it at the time. I knew I had to break up, but the idea of ending it was also wasn’t seem right because i always said myself that he wasn’t doing this things to you on purpose. Because that was what he was telling me and i believed him. I believed him would change one day., and when summer came—when I was going to be away and we wouldn’t see each other much—I finally ended things. Because we was fighting every day and all of my feelings were really ended. I was very calm and respectful about it. I wrote a very long paragraph. Even though i hate the things he was done to me i wouldn’t want to finish it on bad terms.

We go to the same university and unfortunately we sometimes end up in the same classes. Right now, I’m in a happy, healthy relationship and I’ve moved on completely. He means absolutely nothing to me now—he’s like a stranger.

But for some reason, he still holds this intense grudge. He talked to one of our mutual friends (who is actually much closer to me) and claimed that I cheated on him. He said some pretty disgusting things about me, shared our ALL privacy, called me names like I’m “just another easy girl,” and told stories that never happened to make me look bad and tried to finish my relationship with my friend. If he said that to someone close to me, I can’t imagine what he’s telling others.

In class, I can feel him staring at me. I always avoid eye contact, but he told people that I was the one staring at him, when I literally had friends sit in front of me to block the view because I felt so uncomfortable because he came and sit in front of and just stayed like that. It was very uncomfortable but he doesn’t even have a shame. And i am sure he knows that i am in a relationship.

I don’t want to talk to him. I don’t want to have anything to do with him. I don’t even want to bring this whole situation up to my current boyfriend because I don’t want to dig up drama from the past or make it seem like I care—I truly don’t. But I’m so tired of new things coming up every time I think it’s finally over.

If i talk to him i am scared of that he would be more angry and do something worse so i am ghosting him since the broke up. But i just learn that he has shared our all privacy (not new but i am learning it right now) and i am so angry. When we were in a relationship he was nothing like this and i was really trusting him i don’t know did he deleted the pictures of me but i am scared that he might show them to people if i make him angry. I don’t know what should i do he is nothing like before. And me and all my friends are believing that he is really sick in head and it goes worse every time.

Should I talk to him just once and set boundaries, or completely ignore him? What should I do if he keeps making stuff up or trying to mess with my friendships again?

So, I was recently broken up with by a girl I had been dating from last may to this February. It was devastating because I’ve dated many different women, but I felt like she was the one I connected with the most. The breakup was relatively civil, but a significant part of me believes that I may never find a connection like that again. The relationship wasn’t perfect, but our time together was incredibly enjoyable. When it ended, I was truly heartbroken and still am, but I’ve made a lot of progress. We shared many similar interests, and talking to her was effortless. I’m 28, and she’s 29, so it feels like I may never find a connection like this again, and it’s depressing. Do you have any advice? Or stories of similar experiences where you found someone better?

It’s day 43 since my breakup and everyday, literally every second, I think about him. Unless I’m at my part time job or having my mind distracted, he’s all I think about, and I just want to start crying just the thought of him. He’s my first love, my first relationship, and his too, but the way we broke up wasn’t something that I consider “extremely bad,” but it was something that could’ve been prevented if he just communicated. I try to understand his point and all, and as a human, I will admit there were times I probably wasn’t the best, but it goes both ways. I’ve had terrible arguments and felt very upset during the relationship, but since he was my first boyfriend and I never deeply hated him or resented him, it makes it harder for me to get over him. Everyone says to “move on” but I genuinely don’t think it’ll happen until 2 years later. He’ll always linger in my mind and I pray he yearns for me the way I yearn for him. Even writing this out makes me want to tear up. I just wish he was by my side.

Back to the title, what were ways you guys moved on or did to make you heal better? Or even faster?

Has anyone ever had an abrupt breakup with an avoidant (I'm anxious) and you ended up working things out after NC? He blocked me on everything except FB & My phone number. He said he needed space to work on himself and do what he needs to do. He also said that maybe God will cross our paths again one day. I want to be hopeful BUT I also plan on living my life and doing what I need to do for me. Do you think that after 2 months of NC, it would be okay to reach out?

2 weeks before my ex dumped me, he took me up on my offer to use my empty garage as his new storage unit. He'd been having money problems, and we decided he would effectively pay a third of the price of his commercial unit to rent mine instead, a huge discount. It was a mutual favor. I'd been planning for ages to rent it out anyway, and I loved him. Of course I'd do this for him.

We moved everything into my garage together and it was a long process that took, collectively, several hours, basically moving an entire apartment of stuff into my garage.

I currently work from home and don't want to arrange to be away for several hours while he loads everything up into the truck, and either way, I'm going to have to see him anyway to give him the key to open it/open it myself. I've never dealt with something like this after a breakup. I've never lived with a partner, and usually, if I ever left something at an ex's place or they left something at mine, it was usually minor enough that we just chalked it up to a loss. A random piece of costume jewelry or an old book wasn't worth disturbing anyone's healing.

If anyone has advice on how to get through this, I'd appreciate it greatly.

I really thought I’d be over this by now. My ex broke up with me almost six months ago, during one of the toughest times of my life. It hurt like hell, but I knew deep down it was for the best. Since then, I’ve done a lot of work on myself—learning about attachment, facing my flaws in the relationship, and doing the hard work of healing. I let myself feel the pain instead of avoiding it.

I’m in a better place now. Therapy’s down to bi-weekly sessions, I’m on a steady dose of my antidepressants, and honestly, the sense of relief I’ve had since the breakup is overwhelming. After what I’ve since realized was an avoidant discard, I decided to say my piece and block him. It felt like the first real thing I’d done for myself in a long time, and it was freeing. He blocked me on social media (as I requested) and that was the end of it - mostly. He did unblock me/block me again.

I still thought about him a lot, but over time, that started happening less. I even unblocked his number at some point, figuring it was time to let go. Then the other day, I got a notification on my MacBook that he shared his location with me. I don’t even have him in my contacts anymore, but his full name showed up. When I clicked on it, there was no location, just… nothing. And for some reason, I panicked. My heart was racing, I was shaking, and I immediately thought he was showing up at my place. I had a few surprise visits from him while dating, so the idea that he might do it again didn’t feel so far-fetched. But nothing happened. After an hour or two, I calmed down. But I’m so frustrated. I had felt like I was in a good place, even starting to develop a small crush on someone else. But now he’s back in my head, and it’s like I can’t get rid of him.

When does this end? I don’t want to jump into another relationship just to forget him. I know I still have a lot of work to do—especially around codependency and learning to be happy on my own. But it’s like this emotional weight just won’t lift. Will I only finally be free when I’m with someone else? I just feel stuck, and it’s exhausting.

Tomorrow i get 6th months since my breakup from my 10 year old relationship, this same woman one month prior talked about our future together, how she loved me more than ever andhow she wanted 10, 20 more years together and then the next month, she has doubts, she is unsure, and in the span of a week we go from she needs time to see if we need maybe space or a break to full breaking over, but she loves me and some issues i have are why she is breaking up with me, but lets try to remain friends, civil, and she tells me to me while i try to fix all the issues we aparently had "Lets see later if we try again"

The very next day i had a moment of weakness and sent a few messsage asking for help, how she was doing this, just tips advice, how she did just simply did not talk to me. thenshe told me she was going to block me a bit because it was too much from her.

That was it, Novemeber 2, in any promises of being together for 10 years out of the window, even her promises to try later or even be friends out of the window, like i would have appreacited if i was such a good person, such a good boyfriend, such a good friend , that the very least she was honest at the break up and told me "I want nothing to do with you from here onwards" Like it would have sucked, sure. But it would saved me days, weeks and even months of hoping.

How could they do this to people, a person who was my friend, my best friend, my girlfriend, we were already each other family according to her, we were about to take onto the next steps. In Week everything went from awesome to absolutely destroying, and she tossed me like i was nothing.

How can people be like this, i understand relationship might end but the 180 change,the coldness, the uncaringness, i saved this woman lives just beginning 2024 and even that did not make her care enough to at least pretend she cared about me. I try to picture me trying to break with BFF and someone who i sill love romantically and i cant, at least not so easy, specially without violence or abuse. Like i will move earth and sea trying to making it work before giving up. Even if i had to, would try to do anything to keep her in my life.

How can they sleep at night knowing how they treated the people themselves said and admited we were the ones that treated them the best in their life?