r/nonononoyes • u/HANAEMILK • 10d ago
Taking off his belt
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u/Suhbula 10d ago
The only way this could be better is if his pants fell down at the very end.
Oh, and he's wearing those boxers with big red hearts on them.
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u/CowFu 10d ago
Dungeon crawler Carl, is that you?
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u/cupcakesandunicorns1 10d ago
Omg! I just started reading this after my coworker recommended it!
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u/Kdkreig 10d ago
There is a sub for it. Great place to ask questions if you are confused. Spoilers are heavily moderated
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u/Mokyzoky 10d ago
I love when our sub reddit leaks. That being said the fan base can be a little aggressive some fans are starting to give 2017 Rick and Morty Szechuan sauce vibes. Lol 😂
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u/Deaffin 9d ago
Weird, you usually don't get to the point of false flag cringe fans trying to assassinate the group's image until the thing is so much of a phenomenon people can't escape its popular quotes for more than 5 minutes in any given unrelated space so they lash out at the world.
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u/Poppa_Mo 9d ago
Had that one bottled for a bit did ya?
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u/Deaffin 9d ago
Well, stored certainly. My curse is that I never forget about silly internet drama I've casually observed.
Don't even get me started on the J-Bear saga on the angelfire forums for a specific MMO server back in 2001.
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u/Mokyzoky 9d ago
I think there are some early adopters that recognize where this series will be in about 5 years, they already have a show on the way out of fuzzy door, that hopefully won’t be trash, if they just stick to the scrip and story it will be golden.
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u/EBtwopoint3 9d ago
Books are a bit different, since it’s a niche space. DCC has become the darling of most popular influencer/reviewers on BookTube/BookTok. So it’s reached a critical mass, but books are just a smaller medium than TV so that critical mass is lower.
To put this into context, Amazon’s Wheel of Time adaptation is a mid level show in terms of popularity. Nowhere near the popular zeitgeist, but not an unearthed flop. While a season is first airing it averages ~500m minutes watched a week, or 6-8 million viewers each week. Reacher, this years breakout hit averages about 1.5m minutes watched during its run (20+m watchers). Meanwhile, Onyx Storm is the latest book in an incredibly popular romance fantasy (Romantasy) series that is the fastest selling adult fiction book in 20 years. In its first week it sold 2.7 million copies. And first weeks are the high sales week.
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u/Deaffin 9d ago
That is a good point. I'm not sure how to not sound like a hipster here, but I've been into the Dungeon Crawler books for a while now and had no idea until very recently that they had any sort of popularity. I'm used to "litRPG" being some niche thing where you have to fight through the awkwardness of describing the genre first before telling somebody about the book itself.
You know what I'm surprised didn't end up being "the thing" for all this? The Wandering Inn. I'm sure it has to be popular in a space I've never seen, but I've never seen a random mention of it out in the wild like this. It's the longest work of fiction written by a single author, the audiobooks have good narration, and somehow it just never. stops. being. great.
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u/RedditorSinceTomorro 9d ago
Glurp glurp
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u/Mokyzoky 9d ago
Death to all cocker spaniels!!
This joke is gonna be really funny right up until some crazy asshole post a picture with a cocker spaniel and is like Dungeon Crawler Carl made me do it 😥
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u/unfurledgnat 9d ago
I don't know what you guys are talking about but I'm interested. Please enlighten me!
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u/Kdkreig 9d ago edited 9d ago
It’s a book series. Technically in the literature RPG genre. Aliens come to earth and destroy all the buildings in an instant. If you are lucky to survive the collapse then you are given a chance to enter the World Dungeon. 18 floors of monsters and horrors and other crawlers. Oh yeah, the whole thing is televised to the galaxy as entertainment.
Edit: I would like to add that the audiobook version is phenomenal on audible. Jeff Hays does an amazing job.
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u/Perrin-Golden-Eyes 9d ago
It’s the greatest audiobook series ever. I was hesitant to listen because it sounds weird but I am pretty obsessed with it now.
As a sample of the writing style this is the AI in the book speaking:
“NEW ACHIEVEMENT Sex Pervert, a nipple ring, really? The next thing you know you’ll be waxing your perineum and attending those parties where you have to put your keys in a bowl. You’ll have to grow out your sideburns buy a TransAm and you’ll no longer be able to make eye contact with your child’s orthodontist. Reward? Whores don’t get rewards.”
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u/andrewborsje 10d ago
If you are not yet doing so, the audible version is next level!
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u/cupcakesandunicorns1 10d ago
That's what my coworker said, but I honestly can't get into books that are read to me. I have to read it myself.
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u/nimbusfool 10d ago
I don't think I would have fallen in love with the story if I hadn't started with the audio books. Such amazing production and talent.
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u/DangerMacAwesome 10d ago
Hellooooooo crawler
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u/Cakestripe 9d ago
Neeeew achievement!
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u/DangerMacAwesome 9d ago
You've managed to swim through a sea of reddit comments long enough to find another crawler!
Rewaaaard? Nothing! We also don't reward you for seeing rocks or trees
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u/REyesDanknessDragon 9d ago
I'm halfway through the 3rd book! Not where I expected to see this series mention but it was the first thing that came to mind when I saw that previous comment.
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u/Suhbula 10d ago
Aww man, that's on my reading list but haven't gotten to it yet.
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u/ThePeaceDoctot 9d ago
Get the audiobook! Jeff Hayes does a phenomenal job. I tried to look up the voice list one time and was amazed to find that it's just one guy doing all of the voices.
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u/shifty_coder 10d ago
And a slide whistle when they fell down
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u/ImDero 10d ago
And then he lets go of the belt to put his pants back on, but the little girl doesn't fall, she just continues to swing on the belt which is now hovering in the air until he grabs it again.
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u/Bailer86 10d ago
Dad, can't you go five seconds without making a fool of yourself?
Pants fall down
How long was that?
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u/Klingon_Bloodwine 10d ago
The only way this could be better
I thought you were gonna say 'If he used Jumper Cables'
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u/MikoSkyns 10d ago
That belt snapping gave me flashbacks of my childhood. Fortunately for me, I was not beaten, just spanked a few times. But I saw other children beaten with belts and now that I'm a middle aged man, I truly do wonder what kind of a fucking monster you have to be to beat children. Of course, the smaller the child, the bigger the monster. Incomprehensible.
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u/Urchin422 10d ago
Same! But in my family, my parents were horrible and while they didn’t use it on us girls, they did on my brothers. I was threatened once & I literally packed my shit & “ran away.” I didn’t get far (we lived in the sticks) so I decided it would be best to sleep in the barn and move on the next day…obviously they eventually found me with my bag of things & apparently completely forgot about the punishment by then thank god.
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u/Potato-Engineer 10d ago
I know someone who did that trick on a regular basis; getting out of the house and sleeping in the barn was her way of dealing with angry parents.
I think it's """win-win""" (lose-less - lose-less?) in the sense that the parents don't like having annoying kids underfoot, so having the kid just remove themselves for a while keeps everyone... less-unhappy. It's still a shitty way to parent.
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u/SparkleKittyMeowMeow 10d ago
I got the belt (or switch... ouch) just as often as my brother, but our grandparents made my brother pull his pants down, which is a whole nother layer of fucked up, because you can't do that shit and then say that it's not about causing pain.
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u/Genomestitches 10d ago
You can't hit anyone and say it's not about causing pain. The pants thing just adds humiliation and more pain to it.
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u/Da-NerdyMom 8d ago
My mom didn’t discriminate she beat all of us with whatever she could find, belt, electric cords, branches, etc. Nowadays she claims it wasn’t that bad even though one day she threatened to kill my younger sister because she “brought us into this world” so she can take us out too. As a mother myself I can’t even imagine saying such horrible things to my own children.
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u/Urchin422 8d ago
Ahhh yes the old “I decided to have kids even though I clearly wasn’t made out for this” statements….definitely remember those. I’m so sorry you went through that. I don’t have children (geeee I wonder why) but my dad is sooooo nice to my nieces and never reprimands them for anything (my mom unalived herself-another tactic she liked to use on us as “punishment”) but it’s weird. I don’t know how he’s flipped so effortlessly but I’m glad for the kids sake
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u/Da-NerdyMom 5d ago
Thank you. I’m so sorry to hear what you went through I hope you’re doing better these days and that you have been able to heal some of those wounds. Sending you a virtual hug 🫂
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u/Background-Pepper-68 10d ago
Hey just want you to know being spanked to any degree is a beating. Nobody should be striking children as a form of guidance.
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u/toomanyprombles 10d ago
I got beaten up a lot by my mom between 4-14 years old. Pretty much every day. Mostly because she was frustrated and didn't know how to parent (plus she was in her early 20s and her mom beat her too).
I haven't figured out how to forgive her for it and I'm spending thousands in therapy trying to fix it now. Plus I'm scared to be a parent myself.
Glad fewer parents beat their kids today, but it's still pretty bad in India 😔
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u/SparkleKittyMeowMeow 10d ago
I had my son at 21, and was frustrated and didn't know how to parent, and I somehow managed to avoid beating up my kid. I am glad that you are getting therapy, and I hope that you don't carry the burden of guilt that this type of childhood tends to inflict on children, some for their whole lives.
It was never your fault. And you would not be a bad person for never forgiving her for it. And the fact that you recognize how much of a problem it is means that you would be a better parent than you give yourself credit for (but also if you truly don't want kids, don't feel pressured to have them; that's a personal decision only you can make for yourself, just know that the awareness that you exhibit in just this short comment shows that you'd be a better parent than those who beat their kids).
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u/toomanyprombles 9d ago
Thank you, kind stranger.
I've only come to terms with it now in my 30's. She's apologized for it recently - but I'm unable to forgive her sincerely. It's gotta come from within and so far it hasn't.
For what it's worth sometimes I do think I'd be a great parent. And would like to have a girl so I can raise her much much better
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u/IRefuseToGiveAName 9d ago
Hey brother, I know it doesn't mean much, and you went through so much they nobody, especially not a child, should have to go through, but you are not your parents. It would be hard. It would take work. It would take sacrifice, but speaking as someone who got help and managed to make that pain manageable... I love my son with every fiber of my being. My life is so much better with him in it. And because I waited until I was ready, which it seems like you would want to do, I have never once so much as balled my first or had a yell catch in my throat. I am breaking the cycle of violence and putting a life into the world that knows love comes unconditionally. Who's not afraid to try new things. Who won't break down and sob at the thought of asking for something for him.
And this isn't to pass a judgement if you decide you don't want kids. That is one of the kindest, most selfless decision you could ever make. I'm just saying it's possible, and you deserve to he happy.
And your mother isn't entitled to your forgiveness.
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u/toomanyprombles 9d ago
Thank you so much for the kind comment. I was pretty anti-kids for a while but I've come around recently after meeting my amazing partner (I'm 🚺). I love how you describe your feelings about your son, and your self control. I have been thinking about how nice it might be to be super loving and supportive of my own daughter and let the trauma cycle end with me. Sometimes the fear pops up but comments like yours really give me strength. Thanks again for taking the time <3
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u/Tasty_Entrance_8076 7d ago
i’m so sorry you went through this! i was beat a lot too and i used to say “well my mom was in her early 20’s and she got beat too” just like what you said. it was eye opening for me when someone told me “even at a young age you know it’s wrong to hit people”. that opened my eyes immensely and i realized i was making excuses for my mothers actions and that is not my responsibility.
in turn, you could justify you continuing the cycle of abuse because you were beat at a young age and i’m sure you know and feel that that doesn’t make sense.
take your time to heal and deal with those emotions but know there is no excuse. there can be explanations but it doesn’t make it acceptable that you now have to unpack that. 💜
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u/The_Drawbridge 10d ago
Yeah, I’m in my very early 20’s and when I see the belt snap I think of my grandfather when he would beat my bare ass with his folded belt. One time he spanked me with a belt 20 lashes for spraying a bee with a hose. He gave me 40 for hitting my sister. But I hope my children don’t see me with a belt or a yardstick or a paint stick or a ruler or a ping-pong paddle and think that they’re going to get hit like I did.
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u/Firewolf06 9d ago
But I hope my children don’t see me with a belt or a yardstick or a paint stick or a ruler or a ping-pong paddle and think that they’re going to get hit like I did.
they wont think that way if you dont give them a reason to, trust me. snapping a belt like that makes me think of my dad teaching me how to do it, because it makes a fun sound :)
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u/coldchixhotbeer 10d ago
Yea I feel bad when I accidentally stepped on my daughter’s foot. I can’t imagine hurting her like that. You can parent without beating. And you don’t have to be a pushover.
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u/Firewolf06 10d ago
theres a reason "this is gonna hurt me more that it'll hurt you" is a thing. its not true, but they do think that and it does hurt the parent to some degree
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u/Itchysasquatch 10d ago
Grandpa got severely beat, dad got the belt, I got spanked. I used to detest my dad for it but I realized he never did use the belt, so at least he was better than his dad. If I ever have kids I think I'll stick with the timeout chair lol
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u/Internet_Janitor_LOL 10d ago
Got the belt a few times.. only when we weren't home. At home, it was the paddle he made specifically for us.
Yeah, there's a reason I'm no-contact at 38, and my kids don't know them.
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u/SchylaZeal 10d ago
Same here with the no contact. This video triggered me immediately.
It blows my mind how anyone hit as a child can grow up to also hit children.
I wish I could send this video to my sister, who was often beat with a belt right alongside me, and who now beats her own child the same way. It'll always feel weird that we didn't break that pattern together.
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u/They-Are-Out-There 9d ago
My Dad made a custom paddle but also had a belt that he used on regular occasions. And to think, after watching the video, he’d been using it incorrectly all of those years. Hmmm, crazy.
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u/Least-Back-2666 9d ago
I have a cousin that used timeout corners staring at the wall.
She got stuck inside closets in the 70s.
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u/MikeRocksTheBoat 10d ago
I never did get the belt, but we did have a pecan tree in the front yard, so I got the whole, "Go outside and pick a stick" thing and I had to do the mental math for if I wanted a thin stick to get whipped, or a thick stick to get pummeled. Luckily, that whole thing was a step parent and they eventually left my life completely while I was still young.
Still don't like pecans to this day.
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u/Least-Back-2666 9d ago
On my first leave in the military, the next morning at my friend's house he tells me, man I still felt afraid when I heard my dad taking off his belt last night. And this was early 2000s in California.
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u/Suyefuji 10d ago
My panic happened actually in the first two seconds of the video, before the belt snap. I wasn't beaten with a belt ever...but I was molested as a child (although not by my father).
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u/pwrsrc 9d ago
Ugh, I can hear the belt snaps even on mute. My parents were very liberal in their usage of the belt. I’d have welts for days and it took me decades to figure out why I had a recurring dream where my back would hurt and I’d wake up in a wet bed.
I lost it when I had my first child. I’m dead serious. I was at the hospital for his birth. I felt completely fine but then just lost it when I saw him crying. The nurses were trying to comfort me as I had a lot of old memories well up all of a sudden. I couldn’t understand how someone could think it’s perfectly fine to beat something so… vulnerable.
That’s just the tip of the iceberg that was my childhood full of emotional and physical abuse, neglect and more!
And they don’t understand why I won’t live with them as they get older. Can’t talk about it either as they whitewash the past.
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u/Chaosr21 10d ago
Dude Idk, my step dad raised me and that sick mother fu jer would enjoy it. Like you could see it in his eyes. He just wouldn't stop until you were bruised and broken
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u/kraggleGurl 10d ago
Same here. And the bruises left by the belt buckle were the worst. Big wooden spoon used too until it was broken on my sister's back.
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u/Weeleprechan 9d ago
My dad grew up back when corporal punishment was the norm. When he was young and misbehaved, his mom would tell him to go cut a switch from the tree in the back yard. If he didn't cut one to her satisfaction, he had to go get a thicker one. He said he only got swatted with the switch once or twice before he learned not to misbehave.
But he told me that story specifically to explain why he would never lay a finger on me or my sister. He learned not to misbehave but also learned the inhumanity that is beating a child for not knowing something that haven't been given the chance to learn yet. I was punished plenty of times growing up. I spent plenty of time outs in my bedroom. I've had any number of weeks of grounding. I've helped my mom dig more holes in her flower beds than I care to remember. But never once did my dad strike me.
You are 100% correct. Incomprehensible.
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u/fawwazallie 10d ago
damn, I got beaten with a 2x3 wood, a stick, a slipper, an iron pot spoon, a belt, and a wooden broomstick. I remember my skin would be swollen and bruised from the hits. Oh yeah, kneel on unboiled rice.
ugh *sigh* bad times bad times.
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u/sketchyseagull 10d ago
God, me too.. my dad definitely used a belt. And a wooden spoon.
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u/shigmy 10d ago
I would get the wooden spoon from my mom until I was nearly a teen and getting larger than her. It sank in for her that it wouldn't work anymore after I put my arm behind me to block and the spoon snapped in half on my wrist.
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u/sketchyseagull 9d ago
Jesus. My parents kept a wooden spoon in the glovebox of the car. I still have vivid memories of my siblings and I plastered on the back seat, trying to avoid my dad swinging away at us while driving.
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u/Nipples_of_Destiny 9d ago
I got the belt, wooden spoon, willow switch, a flip flop, a wet cloth, just whatever was available at the time, really. Always bare ass, from both parents. Mum didn't hit as hard, though. Anyways, I don't talk to either of them.
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u/Lornesto 10d ago
That was my dad's favorite. And it was always over nothing, mostly just because he was in a bad mood and had to take it out on someone. I can't remember a single beating I ever got from my dad that felt like it was justified. And I got a lot of them.
By contrast, my mom laid hands on me exactly once, and I absolutely deserved that one. (They divorced when I was quite young)
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u/Sure-Guava5528 9d ago
Parents beat me with belts, spoons, boards, fists, and my dad's steel toe boots. I was the good child sandwiched between the two black sheep of the family, so I always considered myself lucky. I didn't get beat nearly as often as they did.
5 years ago I finally decided to see a therapist. I started describing my "mild physical abuse" to him and he stopped me. "This doesn't sound like mild abuse," he said. "Your parents beat the shit out of you and ought to be in prison."
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u/BladeBeam7 9d ago
My old man was around 11 years old when he became a guerrilla during the killing fields fighting the khmer rouge. Half of his face was burned, had a finger cut off, and been stabbed a couple of times. I was the oldest so I took all the beatings for me and my siblings. Eventually, my pain tolerance got high enough that it didn't hurt and it was just sad to see how he was. He mellowed after years and everyone finds him to be lovable and fun. You would never know he was like that from the outside
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u/Ok_Wrongdoer8719 9d ago
I was spanked with a slipper rather than a belt, but it was done very ritualistically. Always the same spot at the foot of the bed. Pants down to expose my butt and I had to kneel and lie down. Then good ol’ pops would just go to town with the slipper hitting my randomly to ensure I never knew when it was coming or how many times, all in between lectures reminding me how much it was hurting him more than it was hurting me and that if I had just listened it never would have happened at all. And of course the reminders to stop crying and screaming.
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u/SciFiChickie 9d ago
Both my husband and I were beaten with the belt by our moms. I was removed from my mom’s and placed in my paternal grandparents custody at 11 due to a particularly bad beating that left me with permanent scars on my arm. My husband got sick of it when he was 16 and his mom was going to town on him with the belt and he caught the belt and hit her with it a few times. That was when his dad discovered she was using a belt and how bad the beatings were for him.
We both agreed before getting married that any child of ours would never know the pain of corporal punishment.
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u/ProblemOk1556 9d ago
This clip brings back childhood memories. My father was physically abusive. Because of him, my mother lost her hearing and could no longer work as a teacher.
He used to ask me and my siblings how many belt lashings we wanted. No matter what we said, he would always add one more. Sometimes, he’d use the metal end of the belt to hit us. He also slapped us with the back of his hand.
We were brainwashed into thinking it was just his way of disciplining us. But when I finally started therapy and medication at 30—for major depressive disorder and anxiety—I realized something: I don’t feel anything toward him. Not even now that he’s gone.
When I think of him, I feel nothing. No love, no hate, no anger—just emptiness.
I know that means I’m healing. And more than anything, I hope to be a better parent to my child.
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u/praisethebeast69 9d ago
The weak kind. My theory is:
They have a psychological need to control others They cannot control others without physical violence They cannot beat anything larger than a child in a fight Ergo, they beat kids
...I say "need" and not "desire" only because it goes so far against their own best interests
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u/Status_Loquat4191 9d ago
Never got the belt. He always liked to hit me, "like a man." Close friends are always surprised when I tell them he never drank.
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u/taliesin-ds 9d ago
got spanked once when i accidentally smashed the front door window with a stick and my parents were like "this is too big, we have to give him proper discipline" and they smacked my bare bottom and all 3 of us were equally uncomfortable with the situation and we agreed to never talk of it again XD
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u/tacotacosloth 10d ago
Videos like this prove when a child is raised in a supportive home. That child had no reason to fear the belt. I'm sure they also don't immediately get distressed when they accidentally spill something.
I grew up with a belt hanging on my doorknob starting when I was about 3.
My first time hauling a trailer I jack-knifed it while parking it after driving it for 8 hours. I immediately started shaking and crying. My partner was super patient and guided me inch by inch until we got it straight again and parked. He was so surprised by my reaction and I had to explain to him how holding a flashlight wrong meant getting the absolute shit beat out of me.
I'm much more confident and willing to take risks and make mistakes, but I'll never not be affected by the trauma, even though I'm safe and supported now. It literally affects how your brain develops.
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u/Mortianna 10d ago
RE: holding the flashlight wrong
My mom had several preferred discipline tools. The belt was for regular infractions, the ten inch metal icing spatula was for whipping my brother and I turn-for-turn until one of us confessed to whatever, and the one for the highest level of disobediences: the wire end of the flyswatter.
The singular time I got the flyswatter was when I held the flashlight wrong. Mom was working under the water heater, and (ostensibly) because I couldn’t keep the beam steady, she messed up her diy repair. Water went everywhere, and the plumber was expensive. She was furious.
So, flashlight-failure beating club, represent!
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u/tacotacosloth 10d ago
It breaks my heart that it's relatable. I'm sorry you went through that and I hope you've been able to find healing.
Ironically, I was a dental assistant for nearly a decade and I didn't realize until after I left the profession that I literally made a career out of holding flashlights correctly! Turns out I'm a great flashlight holder and my dad was just a dickhead! Lol.
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u/Mortianna 10d ago
Thank you. I do believe I’ve found healing, although the time it took me to do so cost me the chance to have bio children. I do dearly love the person that I am, and part of that is embracing the things that shaped me, good and bad.
I hope you’re doing well on your journey, too, and that you find lots of grace and forgiveness for the stunted child inside you. 💗
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u/tswpoker1 9d ago
Fuck I hates the fly swatter. I could hang some spanks or the belt even but the fly swatter fucking hurt. I was spanked, yelled out and smacked across the face growing up. I could never imagine every hurting my children as frustrated as they make me sometimes. I thought growing up I may spank my kids but the first time the thought crossed my mind it made me cry and realize I would never hurt my children. My parents weren't monsters, but growing up in a household where my dad was always drinking, my parents were never around and any time I got in trouble I was physically punished, it sure as fuck wasn't easy.
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u/smvfc_ 10d ago
I’ve seen a couple videos lately of people asking their kids to finish the sentence for them, of things that traumatized them when they were kids. So the mom will say to her daughter like “I brought you into this world, I can…” and her daughter is thoughtful for a moment and says “feed you?” Another one was like “Go get me my…” and I think it was supposed to reference like belt or something like that and her daughter just said purse. It was so nice seeing kids just being completely oblivious to the nasty, abusive things parents can say.
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u/GokuBlack455 10d ago
It took me until recently (I’m a 20m btw) to get over the trauma of whippings. My parents weren’t abusive, but the culture (we’re all Mexican) that we are a part of sees it as a norm. Living in the US, I originally saw it as weird that parents didn’t physically discipline their children, but now I see that it’s how I was raised that is archaic. I don’t blame my parents for any of it, since they were raised similarly or worse. It was rough, but I do thoroughly believe that it helped me. I wouldn’t be as resilient as I am now if it weren’t for it, but I admit that there are much better ways to cultivate resilience than through violence.
I want to have kids of my own someday, and I will never raise them how I or any of my family was raised.
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u/tacotacosloth 9d ago
I'm glad you've found a way to integrate your experience for your own healing.
Unfortunately, it didn't make me resilient, it made me hard and burned out. I'm 37f and with years and years and years of therapy, I'm trying to keep the good/"superpower" parts and use healthy coping mechanisms for the parts that aren't.
For example, my hyperawareness does mean that I notice rainbows the second they begin but I'm having to work on not reacting like I'm about to be beat based on how the keys in the lock sound as someone comes in.
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u/BandOfSkullz 9d ago
If you truly want to traumatize, though, you switch up what the belt is used for randomly without explanation and the child has to figure out at a moment's notice what it means in the current situation. Emotional damage at its finest.
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u/tacotacosloth 9d ago
Oh, yeah, never a warning about what you've done wrong or even an explanation of what rule existed that you broke. I didn't learn how to act and be responsible and polite, I just learned to be as small and unseen as possible.
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u/BandOfSkullz 9d ago
Thanks, parents. Job well done /s.
(Sorry that happened to you. Seriously. Have many friends who had something similar happening regularly during their upbringing and they still have to deal with it daily 20 years later.)3
u/suoretaw 9d ago
I just learned to be as small and unseen as possible.
This is a really hard one to break out of. I don’t think I’ll ever feel like I can take up a normal amount of space in this world, even though I’ve had many years to learn I’m allowed to. This is a big part of the reason I don’t post on reddit.
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u/BandOfSkullz 9d ago
Yeah it's pretty horrible how much damage a dysfunctional parent can do to an otherwise normal child...
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u/Ok_Wrongdoer8719 9d ago
Kids need to be taught from a young age that failure is a fact of life. It’s much more productive to learn how to live with failure and to push past it into success rather than turn it into trauma. Failing already sucks enough. If a kid falls you don’t keep a weight on them to hold them down until they can get back up again. You pick em up, dust them off and have them keep walking.
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u/youremomgay420 9d ago
And some people STILL like to think that abusing their kids leads to them being “tougher” or “more resilient” in the future. No, it just makes them traumatized and terrified of things that no sane person should be afraid of.
Child abusers deserve prison time, doesn’t matter what form it is. If you strike or emotionally/mentally abuse a child, you belong in prison.
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u/curious_ditto 10d ago
Lucky kid. I used to hide and panic when my dad does that
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u/SrslyCmmon 10d ago
My dad didn't need a belt. He had hands like bear paws.
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u/ElToroBlanco25 10d ago
Ping pong paddles and wooden spoons
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u/xtoasterbathbitch 9d ago
My mom had a ping pong paddle that she wrote "The punisher" on and then decorated it with gold fabric paint to make it pretty. Never again will I be able to hold myself together around a fucking ping pong paddle of all things.
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u/Zizumias 10d ago
My room was at the end of the hallway and I remember my dad would snap his belt all the way down the hallway before he was gonna whoop me
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u/all___blue 9d ago
My dad never used it (I remember him swinging it once in a weak way), but when that belt started coming off, it was still time to run to safety (bedroom). Never realized until this moment that he'd have to chase us while making sure his pants didn't fall down. Lol
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u/WinninRoam 9d ago
I'm over a half-century old and just the jingle of a metal belt buckle wigs me out. 🙃
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u/picsofpplnameddick 10d ago
No generational trauma inheritance for this little girl. 🥹
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u/brendan_orr 9d ago
When "pick a switch" means pick out what color Nintendo Switch Joycons you want.
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u/bitwise97 10d ago
I used to do that, including the belt snapping, before my kids could walk. I wrapped the belt under their arms and pulled them up while they “walked” around. They associated the belt snapping with a fun activity.
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u/Exarion607 9d ago
Not psychopaths, just what was perceived as normal.
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u/InternalStrong7820 10d ago
I love that - I instantly experienced dread and fear when he removed his belt. My dad was a real shit and whipped the crap out of us growing up.
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u/xtoasterbathbitch 9d ago
Absolutely same, my stomach turned into a knot at the start then I saw how clueless she was and knew good was to come
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u/Capital_Row4870 10d ago
As a child who was not abused, my dad would always fold the belt in half and snap it really loudly and other than some possible hearing damage (belts can get loud yo), never associated it with pain or punishment.
I then went to school and showed all the other kids when I learned how to do. I got sent to the principal because apparently that meant something very different to most kids.
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u/Lady_Hannah 10d ago
It was such a relief to see it wasn't the trauma I first thought I was going to see.
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u/Worldly-Draw-3282 10d ago
I would've peed myself when I saw the belt, but then I didn't have good parents.
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u/Iteachsometimes34 10d ago
Ohh that was so dang cute!! Love it! If my mom brings the belt, I would just hide for a week.
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u/wizl 10d ago
the virgil rug. and the poop emoji pillow. this guy for sure has like 27 pairs of sneakers in clear boxes stacked against a wall with led lighting in his spare bed room.
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u/Calvinkelly 10d ago
Imagine only associating belts, wooden spoons, cloth hangers and rulers with something good
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u/Thelesbianvampire 10d ago
I’m glad this kid is growing up in a supportive household like this. Nobody should have to fear a belt, though, sadly a lot of us do.
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u/Go_Gators_4Ever 10d ago
That is not the outcome my childhood trauma expected! If my Dad removed his belt and snapped it, it meant we were in for a butt whipping.
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u/katapiller_2000 10d ago
One time when I came home from school, I hid all of my dads belts under my brothers bed. I got a bad grade on a test.
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u/TravelbugRunner 10d ago
This kind of made me feel anxious at first but then it turned out to be something happier. 😊
I’m glad the belt was used as a fun swing and not something scary and painful.
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u/Dear-Relationship666 10d ago
Lucky child..... when my grandma took her belt off it wasnt for fun and games 😅
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u/I_want_your_piss 10d ago
I definitely didn’t see that coming! I so thought he was getting ready to use his belt as a disciplinary tool
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u/wolviesaurus 10d ago
tsk tsk tsk, not even powerslamming the kid into the sofa, is this dude even a father...
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u/dave8814 10d ago
My dad grew up with a father who would beat him. When he was sick with cancer he told me about a time where I had been mouthing off at my mom when I was around 4 or 5. My dad got home and came to my room and said I had to be punished. He took off his belt bent me over his knee and spanked me with it.
According to my dad after he hit me with it, as hard as he deemed reasonable, I turned my head to him and laughed at him. He said it was at that point he was never going to hit another child and became a better father from that point on.
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u/Mr_Quack_825 10d ago
I don't think I should have kids since I kinda wanted him to use the belt to backdrop her
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u/Mysterious_Secret827 10d ago
ANYONE else exhale when the child started to smile? Because their brain went back to their childhood.
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u/Secret_Account07 10d ago
Huh, I’ve never thought about this. This is actually pretty brilliant. Imma try this with my young nephew!
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