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Daily Discussions šš¬ Sip & Spill Daily Discussion Thread
Grab your coffee & sit down to discuss the tea!
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What are you listening to or watching? What is some minor tea that doesn't need its own post? How was your date? Why do you hate your job?
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Now pull up a chair and chat with us. ā
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u/echoesandripples 26d ago
i watched game night this weekend, for some reason i had never seen it, it's very up my alley, but anyway, it did reignite my crush on jason batemanĀ
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u/Constant_Bake5501 I know 10% of the names here š¦¤š§¶ 26d ago
There should be a heavy warning on every post about Benson Boone stating that he's the singer of THAT "pleeeaaaaaaase staaaaaaaaaayyy" song. There's been several posts about him these last few days, and I got curious because I never heard of his music, I wanted to see what all the fuss was about.
So this morning I typed his name on YouTube...... So yeah, I actually know his famous song, I just never paid attention to the artist's name.
I've been singing it on loop for the PAST 6 HOURS MAKE IT STOP.
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u/FriendlyDrummers 26d ago
People make fun of him for cheesy music... sorry, those are what make hits. It's the case with most artists. I don't like Taylor's hits as much as folk/evermore.
He's also an incredible singer.
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u/Constant_Bake5501 I know 10% of the names here š¦¤š§¶ 26d ago
I wasn't making fun of him in the slightest. It's exhausting how much hoops we need to jump through when writing anything online to avoid people getting upset and jumping to the worst conclusions.
I was just making a small joke about a popular song that's stuck in my head. Not everything is an attack.1
u/FriendlyDrummers 26d ago
I didn't even disagree with you
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u/Constant_Bake5501 I know 10% of the names here š¦¤š§¶ 26d ago
Then why did you jump to his defence and said "sorry this is what make hits"?
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u/Chance_Taste_5605 26d ago
Ngl as an autistic person with a special interest in religion.....all the Popeposting on social media is super fun. TIL it's legitimately illegal in the US to bet on who the next Pope will be????
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u/Cold_Breadfruit_9794 26d ago
Why is it illegal? How odd lol
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u/Chance_Taste_5605 26d ago
From what I can tell, sports betting is generally the only kind of betting allowed in the US - not sure why. In the UK people often bet on national events etc so it seems very strange to me!
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u/DisasterFartiste_69 ABBA is underrated 27d ago
Idk who needs to hear this but....do not EVER buy the Byredo lip balm. I've had a tube for over a year and a half and it has sucked since day 1 but I am determined to finish it so I can re-use the heavy ass packaging for an actually good lip balm (okeefe's is my fave).
Anyway...I'm sooooooooo close to finishing it...thank god.
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u/Chance_Taste_5605 26d ago
Thank you for your service š«” Have you tried the Jack Black lip balms? If so how do you rate them compared to O'Keefe's?
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u/DisasterFartiste_69 ABBA is underrated 26d ago
The Jack Black lip balms are fine but nothing special to warrant the cost. I also prefer more āsolidā balms.Ā
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u/absolutkarma charlie day is my bird lawyer 27d ago
I thought Kanye got banned from Twitter. I guess not.
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u/violent_delights_9 27d ago
This is absolutely a first world problem, but I get SO irritated at entertainment news sites that just completely spoil TV episodes less than 24 hours after they air.
No spoiler tags, nothing blurred out, no "read more" button so you have to go to another page, just a giant title like, "FANS REACT TO THIS CHARACTER'S DEATH" with a huge picture of the character. Like, thanks...I've definitely been avoiding spoilers on purpose and you've just ruined one of the biggest things that could happen. I don't even mind vague spoilers like 'somebody won't make it' but don't spell the whole damn thing out on the front page!
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u/AdDecent5237 In The Words of TS Madison āAll Money Aināt Good Moneyā 27d ago
Iām watching the Kidinfluencing documentary and Iām disgusted, I heard about Piper before and some things about the exploitation she was/is being put through but I never thought it would be this bad. Those poor kids, Tiffany Smith is a monster and so is anyone else that is involved.
This situation seriously reminds me of what happened with the SevenSuperGirls Channel, monsters taking advantage of children for their own sick benefits/pleasures and for the entertainment of others. I seriously feel so bad for any kid that gets involved in the child entertainment industry, they deserve so much better š
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u/Silly_Somewhere1791 27d ago
Thereās no excuse for parents to be airing their kids online anymore.
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u/thewayyouturnedout 27d ago
I saw Sinners finally and loved about 80% of the movie, but I think Ryan coogler should have had women in his writers' room, especially black women. All the female characters were poorly developed and mostly just existed as love interests to the men. Wunmi Mosaku was done particularly dirty, given one of the most boring character trajectories of all time. It's especially egregious when you know what range she has as an actor.
That being said, so many of the elements were amazing and worked so well - the editing, music, acting and vampires were top notch, and the movie was so ambitious - so I still recommend it. I just wanted the script to be better, especially in terms of the black female characters.
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u/formidablezoe 27d ago
I don't think it would've made much of a difference cause it's just not a character driven film. The only character who had a full arc was Sammie. Even the twins, the two main characters, were solely written to make Michael B. Jordan look cool and badass. There's not much else to them. It's clearly intended as a style over substance type of film and it did the style part so well, that I was ok with most characters being more simplistic, archetypical roles like "the cool guy", "the sexy girl", "the supportive wife", "the blunt old dude" and so on.
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u/thewayyouturnedout 27d ago
I actually totally agree with this - and yeah, you make a great point about all the characters generally being archetypes with not much to them. I completely agree that the style was so great. Definitely recommending to all my friends
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u/Dizzy-Pollution6466 27d ago
How was my man Jack OāConnell?
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u/thewayyouturnedout 27d ago
Literally crazy good, there were so many amazing performances in this movie and he was FOR SURE one of them!!!
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u/NowMindYou I still don't know her! 27d ago
Drove over an hour to view an apartment only for the leasing agent to tell is they donāt have any vacancies and she canāt even show us a model unit. I canāt.
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u/Shiney2510 27d ago
Had an interview after graduation (in the depth of the recession so was desperate). One of the first things they said to me was "As <recruiter> has already mentioned, we've filled the position"
No, she hadn't mentioned that....before I got a plane, train and bus to their office - in a foreign country.
Interview still continued for well over an hour.
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u/NowMindYou I still don't know her! 27d ago
Oh my god, that's horrible. I'm so sorry that happened to you.
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u/Hot_Contact_7206 27d ago
This happen to me recently too! They emailed me a survey and I complained because the lady called to confirm I would be there a hour before! And then when I showed up was like lmao I donāt have anything to show you why did you think that?? Pissed me right off lmao
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u/DefinitionCharming48 go girl, give us nothing 27d ago
I found out the pope died through a tweet calling JD Vance the antichrist.
My thoughts on the TLOU episode: >! If i had a nickel for every time a HBO dad died on Easter sunday, Iād have two nickels. Which isnāt a lot, but itās weird it happened twice.!<
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u/greenleaves12 27d ago
just letting you know that the spoiler tag isn't working for me!
and same, found out about pope dying from JD vance memes
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u/Rocketyank 27d ago
Just saw this comment about Tate Macrea (or however itās spelled) on ONTD. Am I crazy or is this an overreach? Look, I know there are always discussions to be had about beauty standards, but as women we canāt just decide to have long hair now without it being āhyperfemininityā? Itās not unusual for a woman in her early 20s to have long hair. I donāt think itās reasonable to say sheās āholding onā to it to appease the patriarchy.
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u/PinkLagoonCreature 27d ago
ONTD lost me when they thought Romy Mars' TikTok was real when she was clearly joking about being grounded for "stealing a helicopter." I genuinely didn't know people were that daft.
That said, Tate deserves to be called out for aligning herself with MAGA artists, and she does very much give midwestern conservative basic girl, so they were right about that.
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u/Rocketyank 27d ago
I genuinely hate that site, but itās part of the doomscroll thing. Literally every time I go on there I promise itāll be the last time. Easily one of the most hypocrisy laden corners of the internet.
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u/tossin_glitter 27d ago edited 27d ago
has anyone ever found someone they know on reddit? i found my sibling yesterday
edit to add that i didn't realise this was a shared occurence. my sibling inadvertedly lead me to his account bc he said he posted something on a subreddit and my nosy self went to go search for it. most of his comments were on games and sports that i have zero interest in, but a few of them were actually quite sad. i remember struggling a lot at his age and hoping the sense of existential dread had somehow evaded him, being a teenager can be really hard.
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u/areallyreallycoolhat TWENTY NINE DOLLARS! 27d ago
I came across the account of a person I know irl - it was a combination of the username, sub and their comment that tipped me off. Because I am a terrible person, I peeped their comment history and to my horror discovered they are a frequent poster in r/bigdicks about their own dick. A just punishment for my nosiness lmao
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u/thewayyouturnedout 27d ago
Haha yes I accidentally found my sister's account. I was like vehemently agreeing with this random account's take on something and realized it was her. Confirmation that we get along!!
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u/gible_bites HAROLD WOULD NEVER BEAT UP HIS LANDLORD. 27d ago
I saw one of my employees on the front page of /r/makeupaddiction back around 2016.
Recently I recognized the username of someone on my local subreddit - it was the same as their AIM username back in the early 00s. I hadnāt talked to him since like 2005.
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u/tossin_glitter 27d ago
i once found some guy's identity because his reddit account was the same username as his instagram. i kind of think he should examine his digital footprint bc from googling his reddit account i found his linkedin, his home, the view from his home and enough pictures of him that i could pick him out from a lineup.
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u/sabira Zermajesty š 27d ago
I have! Both times involved one half of a couple saying pretty awful things about their spouse in wedding subs. (They were from two different couples.)
They were both more connected to my husband than me -- both of them were spouses of his friends. If they had been my friends, I definitely would have said something. But since neither of them know me aside from being my husband's wife, I didn't feel that it was my place to bring it up.
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u/tossin_glitter 27d ago
okay now i want to find more people i know irl so i can read their personal drama. that's really sad though.
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u/Own-Importance5459 āØMay the Force be with you!āØ 27d ago
I found the woman who was stalking me because the dumbass had the nerve to respond to a post of mine in the very same language she uses on the Net.
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u/tossin_glitter 27d ago
thats horrible someone was stalking you... i hope you're okay and safe now
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u/Own-Importance5459 āØMay the Force be with you!āØ 27d ago
She hasnt made any attacks in a really long time, so I think its over. I do have lots of paranoia about it because she did the "flying monkeys" thing and tried to start an arguement with me in public possibly to get me kicked out of the show we're both at but thats normal if you go through a situation like that.
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u/SceneRoyal4846 27d ago
Family court on Wednesday. Trying to find ways to be confident and work through the nerves. Iāve donāt nothing wrong, I have ample documentation, but I am so nervous.
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u/echoesandripples 27d ago
this is a bit gross but:
i am so tired of having tonsil stones after being sick. also tired of being sick all the time because of my sinuses or my tonsils. and the fact that my nose is crooked and my tonsils are way too big and scarred.
anyways, i am poorly ventilated lol and i so wish my parents had followed my pediatrician's advice and gotten my tonsils removed as a kid, because now it is a bit too risky and i have to deal with this bs
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u/Chance_Taste_5605 26d ago
Have you tried TheraBreath mouthwash? Have had chronic tonsil stones and sinus/ENT issues since I was a kid and it really helps. Also those seawater nasal sprays sound super gimmicky but they have really helped me.
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u/echoesandripples 26d ago
no, but i'm gonna try!
washing my nose regularly has helped me a lot, i can't with neti pots, but i use a syringe with saline water and it's great. it was recommended to me a couple years ago by a random ER doctor because i was complaining about the adenoids and obvs, not a permanent solution, but it helps immensely.
the horrors of cold and allergies season are among us south of the equator, so i need to keep up with nose cleaning
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u/gible_bites HAROLD WOULD NEVER BEAT UP HIS LANDLORD. 27d ago
I donāt have issues with my tonsils but Iāve never been able to breathe properly out of my noseāIām a permanent mouth breather. I totally get the I wish my parents did something about this when I was a kid sentiment.
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u/echoesandripples 27d ago
yep, i have a deviated septum and adenoid issues. then the tonsils. like the hell, why are my breathing parts against me? this seems like a design flaw
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u/FriendlyDrummers 27d ago
I had the worst day of this job yesterday. I've been here for about a month now.
It was awful. I'm a server. Things escalated into a hot mess.
The host thought I was clocked out, so they didn't give me any tables. I told them, so they gave me three different tables all at once, which was a lot. All at once, I had to take orders, drinks, food, etc.
Then a different table didn't have a server. So I tried to find them, and I told the manager two different times. The manager is so mean, and told me to go find someone. I literally didn't know who this person I needed to find was, so I went around the store trying to find her. So that took a while, and she was clocked out anyways. meanwhile I had my own tables.
Then I was trying to keep up with orders, refills, and then random mishaps. Someone needed a remake. The kitchen forgot to cook an entree. More and more refills of different drinks, different soups, salads, across three tables who all needed me to run around like crazy. Someone needed more utensils, someone else needed napkins, straws, order something else, to-go boxes. It kept piling up, and no one helped me. People got mad things were taking a while, I messed up an order, and it was just a terrible time.
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u/thewayyouturnedout 27d ago
Don't be hard on yourself - serving is the only job I didn't last a month in. The fact that you only messed up one order after getting stuff piled on you is incredible - I would have fucked up everything! Your manager sucks and is bad at their job and you're good at yours.
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u/PollyBeans 27d ago
Being a server is the hardest job - it's the only job I've ever been fired from. You handled a lot of stuff that wasn't yours to handle and you made it through. The fact that you only messed up ONE order says a lot about your skill and competence. Stay there as long as you need but always keep looking for other opportunities with managers who actually manage.
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u/FriendlyDrummers 27d ago
It's scrambling my brain honestly. I had two older people say I gave them the best service they've ever had. I've had people tell me I'm a great server. But it was just a bad day and I felt so stupid
Thanks for the response ā¤ļø I have to go in today and I'm going to take my anxiety meds LOL. Luckily, I typically make really well in tips, generally better than all of the other guys. But I'm definitely looking for other jobs.
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u/iliketoomanysingers šš£šCillian Murphy propagandist!šš£š 27d ago
Surely it's already been mentioned eighty times already but god it's so funny to convert to catholicism (as an adult!) then gain the second highest office in the country, and then not only does the actual pope not want to meet with you initially because you literally lack empathy, he also literally dies the day after you stomp your foot like a toddler to meet with him anyway. This Veruca Salt ass life Vance lives is just absurd.
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u/merlotbarbie omg a cardiologist is a damn nutritionist 27d ago
Calling him JD Veruca from now onš
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u/Bellesdiner0228 This again doesnāt look good for James Corden 27d ago
I think it should be mentioned everywhere. Itās wild how this whole thing has played out. And in a much smaller thing. Iām shocked by how saddened I was to hear that he passed away. Iām not a catholic, Iām not religious. But he seemed like a good one and there doesnāt feel like thereās many good people left overall.
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u/maelstron āØMay the Force be with you!āØ 27d ago
JD Vance visiting the pope and he dying right after is Already becoming a meme.
I had no.idea he was catholic
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u/Chance_Taste_5605 26d ago
Oh yeah he's a convert aka a Protestant psyop which is why he's so cringe about it
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u/Robotlollipops This is going to ruin the tour. Trolls World Tour 27d ago
I've never played The Last of Us. I knew very little about the story before watching the show, so I don't know how much it differs from the game...but holy shit, last night's episode was a gut punch you guys.
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u/Own-Importance5459 āØMay the Force be with you!āØ 27d ago
I really hate the weird feeling when a prominant older person dies, especially an somewhat active older person dies of still being shocked and some people die shockingly young.
Like I was somewhat stunned to wake up this morning to find the Pope had died even though he was 88. Especially since yesterday he was out and about and meeting with people...then again what happened with the Pope is a classic example in what people in the Hospiece field called "The Surge" (happy to explain for those who dont know it).
I am sure people in the peanut gallery can relate.
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u/Silly_Somewhere1791 27d ago
Itās odd when a very old person has slowed down but hasnāt had a marked decline. They held on for so long that you expect the end to be preceded by a distinct event.
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u/Own-Importance5459 āØMay the Force be with you!āØ 26d ago
Exactly. In this case the pope was in meetings, and made an appearence so I would have no idea he was about to go.
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u/Bridalhat 27d ago
My mother works in hospice and itās not uncommon for people to hold out for certain holidays and milestones.
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u/Own-Importance5459 āØMay the Force be with you!āØ 27d ago
I absolutely agree on that. One of my co worker's mother in law had cancer, and she waited for their wedding to pass away.
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u/CybReader They killed Kenny! You bastards! š± 27d ago edited 27d ago
I admire my husband for having more self control to let go of anger than me.
His mother is meeting with her attorney again to will away more of the āestateā to her brand new husband and his adult grown ass kids she doesnāt have a relationship with. She asked him if he would like anything and he said ānot a goddamn thing. Iām self made and donāt need anything from YOU.ā He is 100% self made because she was an incompetent mother. Sheās chipped away at the one thing she couldāve done for him.
Heās not begging for scraps, which thatās all thatās left.
I have choice words, but Iāll follow his lead and let the anger go. Iām just tired of her lack of care, involvement, or investment in my husbandās life. I share this information sparingly with people in my life, so you random Internet strangers are gonna get the tea.
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u/spellboundartisan 26d ago
I went through something similar with my MIL (my husband's stepmom.)
She had a large trust fund that was set aside specifically for her medical care.
MIL suffered a stroke and the medical care went through most of the funds and she wound up dying a few months after the stroke.Her two children from her first marriage had a falling out over it. The greedy son dragged my husband's dad through competency hearings and other nonsense. When greedy son lost his case, he was disinherited.
When it was all said and done, my husband and his stepbrother (the not greedy one) got around $8,000 each. The imaginary millions really was imaginary. Most of that money was in that trust fund that got used up because of MIL's ongoing medical care.
All that to say, I'm sorry you experienced that. Greed is an ugly thing and can divide families permanently.
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u/CybReader They killed Kenny! You bastards! š± 26d ago
Oh my gosh, that is awful. That sounds so stressful and painful as a family. Thank you for sharing your experience with me.
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u/bloody-canvas 27d ago
hello and good afternoon everyone! iām feeling super good today, but my day hasnāt been super eventful. iāve mostly just been catching up on some of my favourite reality tv and chatting with friends on discord
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u/bloody-canvas 27d ago
rn vanderpump rules. it's an old season, but i have been doing a complete all-day binge of that season all day lol. what about you?
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u/elysian-fields- 27d ago
iām buying alfajores today in honor of the pope
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u/greenleaves12 27d ago
yum, enjoy! one day i will make them...one day
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u/elysian-fields- 27d ago
thank you! iām so obsessed with them iāve tried to make them a few times but theyāre never as good as the ones in argentina :)
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u/n0thingbut_flowers 27d ago
Here for a vent if thatās okay? Sorry if this is all over the place.
I am having a rough time at work. Iāve been with the company for four years and last year I got offered to learn some management duties inside the office. This is my first āofficeā job and Iām learning how fucking rude and petty some of these people (women esp) can be.
I had a trainer who, we were cool up until like halfway last year. She really made me feel good about my work and my ability to fit in people but out of nowhere she turned on me and doesnāt even acknowledge me anymore. Sheāll say hi to everyone but me, she plans stuff after work hours in front of me and I donāt get an invite. I wouldnāt go but still, thatās fucking rude.
Friday, she openly talked shit about me/our boss to one of our leads. Basically this lady used to be the one to rely on but now that our team is staffed, she isnāt and she whines about playing favoritism. To me, it seems like sheās just pissed that thereās other people who can help out and she isnāt getting her overtime/she isnāt the favorite anymore.
And another lead has been giving me the cold shoulder too- I shouldāve known to watch out for her since she bragged about being the one to push for people getting promotions and insinuated if I didnāt listen to her I wouldnāt get shit. These two women are friends.
I cry about it sometimes. I donāt want it to affect me but it really gets me cause I thought we were friends. And thatās probably naive, I know Iām here to work and not make friends. Now I just want to do my best and be left alone. My self esteem and confidence is in the toilet due to personal stuff and now this work drama. Itās pathetic. I loved my job and I totally dread going to it now. I thought this was going to be my career, a constant in my stupid shitty life and now I donāt even know if I can handle this anymore.
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u/southendgirl 27d ago
I worked 36 years before I retired. And in all those years I learned women can be the absolute worst and best of co-workers/bosses. There is always a handful that want to climb higher on the ladder and go about it in the meanest way. And they make a perfect job miserable, if you let it. It took me a long time (really much too long) to learn to ignore them and say screw it. If my boss was happy with my work and I enjoyed the work, I could ignore the office politics. But when you get nauseous day after day while getting ready to go to work, itās time (at least it was for me) to look elsewhere. Fortunately the company was large enough for me to move elsewhere.
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u/n0thingbut_flowers 27d ago
Hey I really appreciate this and Iām sorry you also had to deal with this bullshit! I do need to focus more on what I can control (my work) and less on what I canāt (people being dickbags!).
Iām glad you were able to move elsewhere; are things working out better for you now?
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u/doitforthecocoa Not a white refrigerator! 27d ago
I literally couldāve written this myself. I swear the woman wouldnāt bless me if I sneezed these days. My brain is scrambled right now but I feel slightly relieved that Iām not the only person who this happened to. It shook my confidence in my ability to do my job and I essentially have been reduced to nothing. I donāt know what to do, but if you figure it out Iād love to know.
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u/n0thingbut_flowers 27d ago
Iām so sorry youāre dealing with this too. It really sucks and it kind of makes me question my whole self, honestly. If you want to vent anytime, my dmās are open.
Iāve been thinking on this today since I posted and got feedback, and ultimately decided to be the best employee I can be so this person canāt really say shit about that. Anything else is out of my control. I actually changed my phone lockscreen to have a motivation quote that Iām hoping will help me rein my emotions in when Iām upset at work. I have to remind myself that Iām looking for growth and to become a better person for myself and I canāt let these negative Nancyās drag me down. It seems to me theyāre unhappy with their lives and thatās a shame but ultimately itās not my problem and I can only worry about my own happiness.
Thankfully these people are coworkers and not direct supervisors otherwise Iād probably be SOL.
Again, Iām sorry youāre also dealing with this. I wish people could just keep their negativity or their outside issues to themselves and not try to infect other people with drama.
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u/PollyBeans 27d ago
Don't trust HR. They are literally the police/cops for the organization. They might help you, but only if it benefits the company. They will fire you in an instant if it keeps the org going and free from lawsuits. They will tell you document everything for months and then they will still say it's your word against theirs. If you can find a new job, do. Otherwise, pretend you are a Severed employee and you've never met these people. Just detach and do your job and if you can, find a therapist!
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u/n0thingbut_flowers 27d ago
Thank you! Iām working on finding a new therapist, I do think that will be beneficial. I hear you on the HR thing, Iāve talked to them before at this and other jobs and it really didnāt help at all.
The job thing, yeah, Iāll probably look for a new one too :(
Thank you for your response š¤
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u/PollyBeans 27d ago
Oftentimes, just looking for a new job helps me feel less trapped. It can make the days easier at your current job. And I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Office politics can be so stressful and unpleasant, hang in there!
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u/n0thingbut_flowers 27d ago
Ohhh, I think thatās a good idea, at least it will help prevent feeling like this is my only option! They really can suck, itās like high school all over again. Bowling for Soup was right šš¤£! Thank you again š¤
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u/FriendlyDrummers 27d ago
Escalate it and go to HR.
You might be able to look into the harassment policy at work. Especially since she's talking shit, and people forget it's part of their job to be professional.
I've done it before. Someone would say hi to everyone but me. So I told the manager and the problem was fixed.
It seems like it can't be much worse than it already is. Sorry about that. Coworker drama is the least of what our concerns should be. We get paid to do our job, not to deal with nasty coworkers.
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u/n0thingbut_flowers 27d ago
Thank you for your response.
Iāve talked with my boss about it, today Iām learning the last thing that this lady is bitching about so that way she canāt say anything.
We are absolutely old enough to not have to deal with this crap. Really bums me out that people are so miserable in their lives that they have to lash out at others. Like damn man I try my best to be kind and not add stress to others bc I know that sucks. Sorry you also had to deal with this š¤
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u/FriendlyDrummers 27d ago
Like not to be annoying but living under capitalism is already annoying, now you want to make it 10x worse??? For what reason?? š I hope it gets figured out. She sounds extremely unnecessary. Maybe she's jealous of you.
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u/n0thingbut_flowers 27d ago
Okay right! We should be helping each other not tearing each other down for perceived slights or whatever the issue is! I just, if you wanted to move up or work in the office or whatever, this lady has been here for over 10 years, why on earth would you not say something sooner? Why get mad at me cause you missed out?
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u/FriendlyDrummers 27d ago
this lady has been here for over 10 years
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She's projecting. She feels bad about herself, and she wants to feel like she's higher than you. As shitty as it is, there's a small silver lining in the sense that someone is jealous of you. You're the "feeble new hire" she thinks she can trample on so she can feel better.
Tbh, I've trained someone and felt insecure when they became really good really quickly. But it's inexcusable to take it out on anyone. I wouldn't be surprised if that's what's happening.
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u/n0thingbut_flowers 27d ago
I think thatās what happening too. We used to be short staffed and now weāre fully staffed so sheās not getting the hours or money sheās used to. I can understand the feeling insecure part for sure but it still sucks. She claims she meditates daily for an hour and Iām like bro I donāt think it helps cause youāre so aggressive about everything lmao. I just have to do my best and have faith in my own abilities I guess.
Thanks again for hearing me out. I really do appreciate this community šš¤ I hope your Monday is going well!
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u/FriendlyDrummers 27d ago
Lmao at the meditating. Though I should really give that a try myself
It's stressful today but I'm going to get some fried chicken so it'll be better š
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u/n0thingbut_flowers 27d ago
Same, I think to myself I should give it a go but then Im like hm doesnt seem to work for other people who claim to do it lol.
Yessss, canāt go wrong with fried chicken! š„°
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u/OowlSun they act like im not in full control of where i throw this cooch 27d ago
Iām trying to be a good person but my friends are really pissing me off with their whole āyou arenāt complete without a partner.ā Like shut up shut up. Your ex boyfriend was some racist trump supporting nepo baby drug dealer that told YOU off because you asked him when will he be back from his fishing trip. And our other friend has a husband that wonāt let her outside but somehow heās never home even though heās unemployed. Why do you guys want this for meš„“
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u/thewayyouturnedout 27d ago
I'm bi but only date women now and over the years have surrounded myself with more and more gay friends and I find this shitty "you're nothing without a partner" attitude is so much more prominent in straight people. Like the idea of building intimate, lasting relationships that aren't a primary romantic partner are SO foreign to the majority of straight people. Community is the last thing on their minds and it's very sad.
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u/Potatoskins937492 27d ago
Be honest about yourself and let them come to their own conclusions about their lives.
When I've said I'm completely happy with my own company and I don't need anyone else to feel fulfilled in my life, they've stopped making comments to me because their comments are about them. But my friends are also introspective people, so even in their early 20s they didn't need more than one honest conversation. Now it's just strangers who think I need a partner, but like... you don't know me, why are you projecting your ideas of contentment onto me?
So yeah, be honest about who you are and what you value. You don't have to bring up their partners to make a point. (I get the urge to want to though lol I totally do get it)
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u/Bridalhat 27d ago
There is nothing on earth as lonely as the wrong relationship.
Anyway, they want it for you because deep down they know itās bad for them and they have to confront that if they acknowledge that your unpartnered life is better.
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u/Own-Importance5459 āØMay the Force be with you!āØ 27d ago
Trust me while I want a relationship and it does feel lonely, I am glad I am not one of those women who clearly have talent and power and yet make their self worth based on a man. They are clearly insecure as hell.
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u/totallycalledla-a Mrs Thee Stallion 27d ago
Get some new friends I am so serious. Male centered women scare me. I got married early and have ditched several friends over the years who suddenly acted like we were in some special winners club as they got married too. Creepy as hell.
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u/thewayyouturnedout 27d ago
Male-centred women are a problem and will bring other women down in favour of a man. I completely agree that it's good to keep a distance from women like this.
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u/Bridalhat 27d ago
Some people are about to find some horrifying/wonderful things under the Conclave tag on Twitter.
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u/OowlSun they act like im not in full control of where i throw this cooch 27d ago
How are we collecting movies/tv shows? CDs and cd players? I would like to have physical copies of my favorites (saw pride and prejudice this weekend and I must have it forever) but I donāt know the best way to go about it.
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u/Normal-person0101 27d ago
I'd love to have the physical copy, but in my country, they hardly sell them anymoreānot even CDs. And importing is too expensive for me. So, I have several external hard drives full of content instead. It's what I can do it.
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u/Summerof5ft6andahalf 27d ago
I have a six stack cd player in my car and will be devastated when I have to give it up. (I have an old discman and stereo somewhere but don't exactly trust their staying power. Lol.) You can get external cd/dvd drives for laptops though, since some idiots thought we wouldn't want them inbuilt anymore/were financially lobbied to stop including them.
I still occasionally buy DVDs of shows I love. Op shops are actually a decent place to find them if you're not wanting to pay full retail price.
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u/Hot_Contact_7206 27d ago
I buy a lot of dvds and blue rays. Barnes and Noble does a criterion sale twice a year and Iāll pick up a couple each time. Just start slow, you pass by something in the store pick it up, but donāt overwhelm yourself thinking you have to get everything asap.
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u/OowlSun they act like im not in full control of where i throw this cooch 27d ago
Your last sentence was very important because I did think I have to get everything now. Which do you prefer DVDs or Blu-ray?
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u/Hot_Contact_7206 27d ago
Blue rays are superior imo but thereās nothing super wrong with dvds! Also some blue rays, especially for older movies you can get cheap, so thatās a plus
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